i fell in love with someone on line, we will never meet,touch, but i feel like they are right here with me?

Question

I fell in love with someone on line, we will never meet,touch,
but i feel like they are right here with me holding my heart to ransom,
what the... do i do?
*pack up or sell up move half way around the world be with them on a hope it works out
or
*go on living as i am lonely miserable when i or they are not online
or
*should i end the friendship and get off the net find a real person as in some one i can be with
or
what else can i do?

the saying love will find away seems to not be working

Answer 1

Someone once wrote "Love has no boundaries Age Race Gender or Disability" - they should have added "Geographical"!

What's with all the negativity? Being who you are - I would have guessed you be an optimist. In this case why is your glass half empty?

Think back on all the loves and crushes you were never able to reveal because of who you are - and you still made it. Why are you so desperate now?

You are meeting people that know the "real you" and when you do meet the right one it will happen! Day by day you move closer to meeting the love you are looking for - it will happen when it's time!

Answer 2

I don't think you need to do something as drastic as ending the friendship, but you should realize that you are friends with a fantasy friend. Online is great, but we have conversations/friendships with people without really knowing them. We develop an idea of how this person is and then we magnify it. Make the choice to get off of the computer for a while and stay offline, even if it's for a couple hours a day. Find something to do to get out of the house. Go to open mics, readings, art exhibitions, concerts, bookstores, anything that gets you out of the house.

Answer 3

Make sure you meet in real life sometime - so you can figure out whether they are worth the agonizing. If he (or she) is, one of you moving will become a real option. But for now, you can't know yet whether you actually get along in real life.

If neither of you is willing to find a way to meet physically, then it probably isn't worth it.

Love doesn't just find its way: people make it happen (or not). Relationships - especially long distance ones - take energy to get started and keep going.

Good luck!

Answer 4

get off the net find a real person, that is the right answer. You fell in love Whit a romantic idealization you created in your mind. You don't know this person, you can't fall in love with someone you have never met. And before you do something stupid, remember that the Internet is full of bad people pretending to be someone else to take advantage of innocent or lonely people, so don't trust anybody, no matter how you feel.

Answer 5

love is complicated. that's for sure, but i think that you should at least go visit the person for a little while and see how it works out. if you find you are still in love with this person then you can choose from there if you want to move down there and if it turns out not to be right then you can go back home and look for someone closer to home

Answer 6

I dunno... be honest with yourself, what do you think you should do? You don't have to pack up and leave, you can always visit, or have them visit and see how that goes. There are unlimitted choices and possibilities. If it is indeed true love you will know it. Get out there and stop being miserable, do something about it, make a plan and stick to it. And most importantly, life is short, play naked. Its more fun that way. Good luck, I hope everything turns out well for you.

Answer 7

Lol. Girl she/he probably is right there with you. I met someone online and then next thing i know he flew in my area wanting to meet me unexpectedly. It creep me out the way it all came about. You becareful because there's people online who like to play with your emotions, especially if you're going through a miserable time right now and they know that.

Answer 8

You apparently are living a very lonely existence and need to get out more often.

I would suggest going to Church and meeting a nice young man, or older man there. That way, you can develope a relationship with them, learn of thier "history" and get to know his family.

I am not one to trust "long distance" relationships. On the internet, everyone lies! They lie to make themselves look "better" than they are, because they are insecure about themselves and thats why they "are" on the internet looking for love. So, they tell the person they are interested in that they are "this" or 'that' and fall short on all things. (I have seen people meet other people and they lied so much that its a tragedy to watch them view each other and learn that "both" of them lied, LOL!! Halarious and funny at times too!).

Meet new friends and people at your local Church and get rid of "internet romances" for some one whom you will see every day if you wish, and will "be there" for you, instead of when thier server is "up" :)

I wish you well...

Jesse

Answer 9

I don't think you can call this being in love with someone else. You are in love with the image/ fantasy of this person, which is not a reason to change your life.

There is probably something else going on with your life that you need to attend to, and if you don't you will find yourself escaping into similar fantasies.

If you want to move, and decide to move somewhere NEAR this person, and be open to all sorts of possibilities, that may be a worthwile adventure. But don't cheapen the concept of love or yourself by sacrificing all stability to base your life on a fantasy.

- {♂♂} - {♂♀} - {♀♀} -

Answer 10

Try to work little more with your head and less with heart. No one knows how much you care about this person or how much you know about him so whatever you do what you think is possible or necessary. Wish you the best luck :)