This girl who used to be my best friend until yesterday always gets drunk and thinks she's so cool although she is three years under the drinking age. I tell her that she could get into a lot of trouble but just said "Even my parents didn't get as stressy about it as you are.." And she has started to hang around with people who always get drunk and think they're above everyone else. She is also immature and my only friend. Yesterday she said she doesn't wanna be my best friend anymore and I hadn't even done anything wrong. But I ended up apologising because I don't want things to be awkward at school....apart from her I have no friends. So she was just like "Ok I accept your apology just stop saying you have no real friends.." And it's so stupid because she always acts as though I'm invisible and yet apparently I'm in the wrong? I'm always there for her but it's like I don't exist. She's making all these new friends and going out everyday when I just stay at home with nothing to do..
2007-04-08 03:13:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can tell the quality of a person by looking at the quality of their friends.
This isn't someone you want to hang around, she will just drag you down with her. Girls that drink heavily at this age will have lots of anonymous sex, it just comes with being drunk. It's not an "if" but a "when", unless you want to join in, I would find a new friend.
The only reason you don't want to lose her is she is your only friend. Sorry to say but that is a really bad reason. It's born out of desperation, not desire. Just start talking to other girls, try to be friends and you will find some new ones. It's a scary thing to do for someone at times, but it really isn't that hard.
Good luck with this one.
2007-04-08 03:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assume your best friend is making quite a lot of friends who are practicing drinking as well. -- these aren't "friends" but drinking buddies.
alcohol ruins your health and relationships. it's addictive and eventually, an alcoholic cares about nothing else but his drink.
people who drink all of the time aren't "above" everyone else... they can't function without alcohol, and do you really believe they are thinking soundly? they aren't.
hon, i hope you can find better friends. this girl isn't your friend. not if she treats you like you're invisible. you are always there for her, but she's never there for you - that is not a friendship.
have you considered joining some clubs at school? or taking a class of some sort? (art class, sculpture, or anything that interests you). get involved outside of home, and you will meet people.
i'm sorry you've been exposed to a person like this... take care of you. there really are other people out there who could become real friends...
hugz!!
2007-04-08 10:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree on the part that she's being immature and snobbish. But she may be treating you like that because she feels she is superior to you as you always submit to her. For example, you apologise to her when you have done nothing wrong. Secondly, you let her tread all over you. You may have induced that feeling since you always make yourself seem inferior by saying she's your only friend. So, you should go out and get more friends. Don't lower yourself, you're just as good as everyone else. Join some clubs, get out more. There are many more nice people out there. It doesn't hurt to try, does it?
2007-04-08 10:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by HopeGrace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is NOT your friend. She uses you when the other so called cool friends aren't around. You are better off staying home. If this girl were your friend she would not do the things you have stated in your question. You can make new friends, you just have to want to. Do you want to end up with that crowd she hangs out with and turn out like them just to keep her supposed friendship? You are worth more than that. She's the loser, not you.
2007-04-08 10:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Josephine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your freind has chosen a different way..and personally i think its great that u arent following her..coz what shes doing wont lead her anywhere.
right now even if u try n talk her out of it i dont think it'll work.
just move on n try n make other friends....good luck
2007-04-08 10:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by Riti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it can be hard to have no friends. but you shouldn't have friends that can get not only them but you in trouble just to be having friends. no friends are better than bad friends. you don't need people to bring you down
2007-04-08 13:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by Chistopher A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋