My friend is pregnant....help!?

Question

We have been having a few issues recently and I feel quite uncomfortable around her, then yesterday she told me she is pregnant!! Although this explains her strange behaviour over the past three month it has also made me feel even more uncomfortable around her. I don't want to be a bad friend and I want to be there for her, I just can't explain why I feel like she is an alien and when she comes near me I want to run in the opposite direction!! Help!

Answer 1

The problem probably stems from the past issues, that you and your friend had been having, something unresolved.

You were uncomfortable with your friend before she told you she was pregnant, so why would it change now?

Of course your feeling even more uncomfortable, because now you know she is expecting, and that is all that is on her mind right now. It also means the friendship will change. it doesn't have to end, but it will be different.

When I was in high school I had a simular situation. a friend of mine got pregnant, she was thrilled so I was happy for her, and I got uncomfortable with her because it was all she talked about. I felt like she didn't even care what was going on in my life. but like you I wanted to be supportive and a good friend. once the baby was born, we could no longer relate to each other (she dropped out of high school to do alternative school) I was still at school, hanging out, school events, ect*, and she was consumed with baby. all she talked about was how many diapers her baby did, and I would tell her something to be interupted with giggles and her saying her baby farted. So I was feeling the same as you.

The best advice I can give, is to be patient with your friend, but also let her know exactly how you feel. yes, this is a major life change, and she really does need a good friend right now, but also call her on her behavior if it is making you feel uncomfortable. good luck.

Answer 2

you need to sit with your friend and let her know what is going on just explain to her that your feeling a little weird around her.
after she has the baby and during the pregnancy things might change but you should be honest

(most friendships are tested when one friend becomes pregnant 1 in 5 relationships don't last as both party's are going in different directions)
I would ex plane my feelings then go from their
she maybe feeling strange too

Answer 3

When a woman is pregnant then her hormones are all over the place. she needs you now more than ever. She can't help feeling the way she does so don't run off from her coz you'll only make her feel alienated. Sit with her, listen to her and talk to her about you too.

Answer 4

Are you another female friend or a male friend?
What you are describing is a very common reaction. All of a sudden your friend is not your contemporary anymore. She is suddenly catapulted into another location in life where you do not share any more similarities with her, things like interests, "agegroup" futures, looks, fashion sense, topics of conversation..etc...
This is why teenage pregnancies are so devastating to the moms. Their old friends will ditch them because they have all of a sudden became different.
If you cannot stand being near her anymore, no one can force you. Just dont make it too obvious as that will hurt her feelings. Be there for as long as you can.

Answer 5

hi i have recently found out im pregnant and my friend has done the same as you have. she makes up excuses not to come round anymore all of which i know are lie and she doesnt talk much when we are together. i dont feel like i act differently around her (except when i know shes lied it makes me feel uncomfortable for a few hours) but i wish whatever was concerning he she would tell me that way we can sort it out. my advice would be to talk to her tell her that you feel uncomfortable around her and tell her why u feel uncomfortable.

Answer 6

Don't desert her, she needs you right now, be a friend and talk to her, her hormones are going crazy right now, and you have to be there for her, if it is to unbearable for you, then sit down and talk to her "calmly", she might need to be on some medication to "calm her down", a lot of medication out there are safe for the baby and for the mom, and she has to be careful, she can't get too worked up, not good for the baby or her or her blood pressure.

Just be a friend, and sit her down and talk to her and do everything you can to comfort her, this is all new to her and she really needs you right now, please do not desert her at her time of need.

She will thank you in the end!

Answer 7

Just be a great friend to her, through the good and bad, she will need someone like you. She will appreciate (although she might not always show it) you being there for her.

Answer 8

Its all hormones , makes a tremendous change on a womans body and mental state. Just be supportive and helpful. They will straighten out soon enough.

Answer 9

in simple terms tell them Be truthful and truthful they might help you and Jake with the infant in case you dont say something to them, then they are going to be mad even as they locate out , they could also help you out till you've the infant in case you dont tell them, then they could be disillusioned that you probably did not come and tell them contained in the first position, fairly telling them 7 and a 1/2 months later, they might also be apprehensive wish i helped :)

Answer 10

You don't sound like a good mate if you wanna run away whenever you see her!
When someone is pregnant it does mess up your hormones a bit. Just stick by her, if your good friends it will work itself out