if you have lost your virginity how can you hide this from your husband?

Answer 1

If you lost your virginity before marriage just tell this to your would-be husband before marriage itself lest he comes to know after the marriage & seek annulment of marriage on the ground of your not being not virgin at the time of marriage as many do & ask question regarding this issue here in yahoo itself. It is better to be frank & truthful before rather suffering after marriage. Tell him every thing clearly so if he has objection let him say now or otherwise keep his mouth shut for ever. Although non disclosure of this fact may not be sufficient ground for annulment before the court as has been held in some cases but the harassment & misunderstanding leading to a broken marriage there after will cause lot of mental suffering for you. As a senior person I am giving you this advice.

Answer 2

You are making a HUGE mistake. NOt only for you but for your future husband as well. Is this a religion thing--not wanting to marry someone who is not a virgin. He is not going to know if you had sex prior to marriage unless you tell him. Don't know how old you are but you have been very shelterd. You may think you have made a mistake and maybe you have but he is not the one for you. You may think you love him so much and I am sure you do but come on marriage is a serious step and it is obvious that love is blind for you. Call OFF the wedding. If you lie to him now about this what else will you lie to him about and when he finds out it will cause a huge fight I am sure. Be a grown up and be honest. It doesn't sound like this future marriage has a solid foundation. You both need to find the right person.

Answer 3

Honesty is the best policy.....I told my husband the truth before we got married and he accepted it, because he loves me. Darling, I can truly imagine what's in your mind. The word is fear. It is all up to you. For example; what if you decided not to tell him and in the future, you were in an argument with him and suddenly without thinking, you tell him something to the effect of: " but even he was better in bed than you!!"

Even, if a friend that you had confided in that you had lost your virginity, she might turn around one day and spill your secret to your husband!
What then?

As I said, it is your choice....but good luck anyway!!xx

PS: Any females that play physical sports, use tampons or have had a fall, lose tear their hymen anyway. Which means that just because the hymen is no longer there, it does not indicate that you are not a virgin.

Answer 4

Why do you need to? Are you sure he is a virgin?. Is bleeding on the wedding night a certain indicator that you are Virgin. Hymenoplasty can help in the belief system. But what happens if after few years when he actually finds out that you had an intimate relationship with someone. Pass it off as Elastic hymen? ( Lucky VIRGINS)
I believe its trust, love, empathy, compassion which makes or breaks a marriage.
It's your first night, I feel you need not fake bleeding or resort to any other gimicks. As time & love brings you more closer one can decide whether it's really necessary to reveal the past or tackle it in case you have to face it.

Answer 5

Men are more accepting of unrevieled secrets than you can imagine. That is of course unless you are completely different lving a second life behind his back, than what you've led him to believe. Which I'm sure isn't the case bc that wouldn't have lasted for long and you wouldn't want to marrying your sweetheart. But listen, like one of the posters said, this is 2007. And I can guarantee, well not completely, but percentage wise that it is more likely he himself isn't a virgin. So why does that mean that this double standard must exsist? Don't begin with having to cover up and wonder if you'll be caught in the middle of it. You won't enjoy your wedding night by having to pretend. And that's not fair to him really if you're laying there and all you can think about is the perfect moment to drop the speck of blood on the sheets as one poster suggested. sheet..just be honest. Maybe then you can relax and really enjoy that special night and begin the rest of your lives not living that weddingnight lie.

Answer 6

I personally believe virginity is a belief rather than a physical condition. Marriage is totally on fath and the thought of hiding itself is a sin..Nobody checks the hymen whether it is broke or not. Virginity is in total surrender to your partner and nothing else matters much. We all beleive that someone shown by the mother is the father, isn't it?

Answer 7

Hi shonali g, its better just forgot this like a bad dream and my suggestion to you is never discuss this with your hubby i know its 2007 but still there are chances which we never expect so whey you take a chance and i am agree with one of the respondent that do you know he is virgin whey a men expect if he is not virgin he don't have right to think like this but to disclose all this things makes problem but be sure that in past what u did is like a bad dream and don't think about it and best of luck need any other suggestion or you have any other question feel free to contact me i will be happy

Answer 8

Its Simple!! Just before your husband aproaches you call the Cops and file Dowery Harrasment (498A), Domestic Violence and Marital Rape against your Husband. You would succed in hiding the loss of virginity to your husband life long!!

You do not have to worry its a free of cost service provided to you by the Indian Govt, the Judicial and the Police of India with no proofs or evidences required infact you could even make a lot of money out of it!!

Answer 9

Why would you want to be less than honest with the man you're marrying? Anyway, if he's 'experienced' there's no way short of surgery you can 'hide' it. But like I said, you should be 100% honest with the man you'll be spending the rest of your life with (hopefully). You wouldn't want the past to come back and bite you in the behind, would you?

Answer 10

Not every woman has a hymen and a lot of times they break without ever having sex. So, a lot of virgins don't bleed the first time they have sex. He won't be able to physically tell that you aren't a virgin.