Why do women look for the nice guy when the fun is over ??

Question

i couldnt grasp this concept,, they will look for the nice guy and expect the guy to be the best and do stuffs for her, she will ask him everything about his life and stuff but its not our right to ask her anything, jeez. and if you ever question her about anything then they say u dont trust her or respect her. if this is the case i might as well get an escort for my sexual interest and adopt a kid. at least i can help in the kids life and not worry about whomever i am married with. Whats wrong with women these days ? I definately must let go of thinking i am here to protect women and care for them. Those days are way over, its gonna be equality and f**k anyone who calls me a player. Im done with the nice guy who treats women well and get hurt act. Dammit men are human too,doesnt it matter if we get our heart broken ? what im not suppose to whine because im a man ? F**K you who thinks that way

Answer 1

I sense that you feel that you have just gotten burnt in a relationship. You are going to be bitter and angry for a while and this is natural. It may take you quite a while to process these negative events and be able to see them as part of life and the lessons we learn. You are aware of what you are looking of in a mate and I am sure what you just went through taught you that some women just like some men do not have the same belief system as our own. When this conflict is evident in a relationship the best bet is to move on. In the long run this person would not have changed enough for it to be a happy union so it is best that you both cut your losses and moved on.
Time will prove a great interpreter of the events and when you realize that this was also a valuable lesson your grief will be over and you can move on. Don't allow yourself to stay stuck in the bitterness because that will only make you very unhappy and distort any chances that you have to find a good partner. There are so many examples of terrible bitter unhappy men, just read a few of the queries in women's studies. Get some counseling if you need but don't ever allow yourself to become like them.

Answer 2

I feel with you and can tell you a lot of guys thesedays feel the same as you.
You must make up your mind about what you want to be. Do you want to go through women or do you want to settle down ? You are not doing yourself a favour playing a game you have no interest in.
If you DO want to settle down with a good woman you need to built yourself an existence an good job, maybe even getting wealthy. Then its on to picking the right woman. Noone says you need to go for the ex party girl.
If you are say 27 and spent your time building a career, by all means try to get a good girl between 18 and 21 at that age you are not her last resort but can be pretty sure that she is seriously interested in you. If the girl IS older, say 22 and up, it doesnt necessarily mean that she is a party girl that went through men. Maybe she kept herlsef busy in other ways. You will have to check on her and that is what dating is for. Also look at her background, parents etc.. Over time you will be able to tell which girl is for you and by not beeing delusional about thinking that the promiscuous party girl will change for you you are one step ahead of the pack.
And by all means if you gave up on American women, beeing on American/Western European man your reputation among women globally is through the roof.

Answer 3

trouble-free thread in the two stages. you think of you may desire to be something for the ladies folk. Like being your self could on no account paintings or in basic terms isn't considered. Why does not somebody such as you in common terms for who you're, warts and all? Your not ideal and neither are any women. All in basic terms people. do not choose your behaviors as large or jerky and in basic terms exhibit your self, your anger, your hobby, your frustration, your exhilaration. Take the prospect of letting somebody see the actual you. in case you are trying this here is what'll take place. some people will such as you and a few people won't, and no-one would be happy with you all the time. yet it is how that's now besides. you will not loose a element. yet you will benefit something golden, intimacy. you have the certainty that somebody likes you and accepts you for you. and that's between the ideal thoughts in the international, to be incredibly related to somebody.

Answer 4

There's a simple answer to your question: you need to set your sights a bit higher and meet a different kind of woman. You attract what you put out. It's true. When you look for the negative, you'll find it. When you expect the positive, you'll find that, too.

Answer 5

i for one can relate to the non-trust issue, my luck with men has been physical, verbal, and down right cruel. you know that i like men but not sure if i could ever trust again. though i don't trust anyone any more but God.
the word is afraid...
and i like being single..

Answer 6

No you're not supposed to "not whine", but you are supposed to allow yourself to be devasted by women a dozen times before you declare them all s h it, as we women have to. But I notice more and more, that men will boycott women after just ONE bad experience. And if you aren't going to protect a woman, because you're right, that kind of thing IS long gone, because for one, fighting is illegal, and two, women just don't need a big mouth punk kid to defend them cause they can usually kick the crap out of him themselves, and therefore can't see him as a protector. Now we look for equal partners, but that is even harder to find than a protector. Any woman who thinks you're trying to "protect her" is going to tell you to bugger off. If we don't look after ourselves, no one will. I've had nothing but losers my whole life, and buddy, I hate men WAY more than you hate women!!
I think you're feeling threatened because you haven't been man enough in a relationship to feel like the dominant one, which you so obviously crave. Try going for a really stupid girl, she'll be more likely to look up to someone like you.
But sooner or later, she'll get your number too.

Answer 7

They might look sexy and dress sexy and shake their hips or batt their eyelashes for attention.. but when all is said and done, they know they have the cookie jar.. and if you can't learn to play nice.. you get no cookies.
The sooner you learn to know, understand, and accept that ...the sweeter the cookie gets.

Answer 8

You are just unfortunate .. be strong and look forward... there are many good women out there.

Answer 9

Because most women USE men

Answer 10

Okay I know you are emotionally upset.

But not all women are like that.