Why do so many women settle for being nothing more but a wife and mother?

Question

I'm 19 and would never let that be my life ,why do so many other women?

Answer 1

Personally I have the highest respect for wives and mothers. They deserve our gratitude. Some choose not to follow that vocation and that is up to them.

Good luck :-)

Answer 2

Mature women don't "settle" for anything - we make a choice. I never thought I would be a SAHM, but I married at 28, had a son at 30, and after having him, I knew there was no way I could have strangers raise him. I have two degrees and had a successful career, but knew that raising him and having a happy marriage were the things that I wanted to do. Now after over 17 years, no regrets at all.
You are just still a teenager. You will see things differently once you finish your post-secondary education, start on a career, become independent and see what your life experiences bring you. There is a world of difference between the ideas one has at 19 and by your mid-20s. Also depends on whether you find the right guy, and what your values and hopes for your future are.

Answer 3

Don't listen to these other people...

We are all individuals, and as such the way we think...the chemistries of our brains, is vastly different. While some women dream of becoming the CEO of a major corporation, other women dream of having a loving family. Both of these involve the need to belong, a sense of security both emotionally and physically (Financially), and the sense that one is making a difference with their life.

Men have the same core feelings too, this is a humanity thing and not just gender.

Some women feel that having a steady job outside of the house will give them the financial crutch they need, as well as the security of a successful and happy life. Other women view getting married and having children with the same ideals, getting married gives them that love, financial security, and a sense that they are now taking care of a family and have a purpose....

You say catsup, I say ketchup, either way it leads to the same end for different people. If we all had the same dreams then we wouldn't have doctors, astronauts, lawyers, etc.

When I was in college, all I could think about was getting a degree and making the big bucks as a corporate lawyer. I got my degree, then I met this woman and fell in love. Marriage changes everything, when we had our first kid all I wanted was to spend time with him, now I'm a stay at home daddy, my life being drastically different than what I had planned.

But that is ok, we are all different, and I am so happy I cannot even describe it, when you have kids you may feel the same way, if not then when you get married you will feel such intense love that it doesn't matter anymore who stays at home, or if you want to hire a nanny, or whatnot. The important thing is it works out, and makes you happy.

Don't worry about such trivial things right now, follow your dream, if you want to get a good job then do it, let fate take it's toll. The important thing is that you are happy, and while that may change to something you didn't expect, you are atleast happy with your life, and may be able to see things in a different light than you can now.

Answer 4

And there are women who would ask why do some women choose NOT to be a wife and mother when it is so rewarding? We all make our OWN choices, being a wife and mother isn't "settling" for nothing. Until you grow up you will never understand.

Answer 5

Settle? SETTLE? Why do so many people assume that those who choose that life are settling?
I am a married woman (22 Years) and four kids and I haven't settled - I made choices, thought out choices, and lived my life true to those choices.
You choose differently? That's your life and your CHOICE. And I would never tell you that your choices are wrong because I don't live your life.
Do some women feel that they settled? Of course some do, and there are some who would like to be in my position? Yes. So each to their own. All I ask is a little tolerance for those who make different choices to your own.

Answer 6

If that's not what you want for you own life, that's fine.. but you shouldn't look down on other women who do choose to put their family first.

I have been married for 6 years, and my husband and I have a 4 year old son. I have been a stay at home Mom/housewife since I was 4 months pregnant.

Personally, I feel that being able to stay home with my son, as well as being here for my husband when he comes home from work.. is such a wonderful blessing. I love my life the way it is, and I wouldn't change the way things are.. not for anything in this world.

It is a wonderful life, one that I truly enjoy each and every day. I wouldn't change a thing!

Answer 7

Because there is a special feeling you get when you are a mother. You want to protect your child and do everything you can to give them a winning chance at life. There are some woman who don't want this as a life for them which is understandable. But don't think for a minute that a house wife just wanted to be a house wife, they have goals and dreams too. They just put theirs on hold so they could help shape someone Else's.

Answer 8

When I was your age, I never wanted a child either. I also never saw myself settled down with a husband. Now I'd give nearly anything to have that. Goals change and are different for everyone. Wives and mothers who chose to be so don't see it as settling. They see it as fulfilling a goal and being happy. I'm sure some of them would ask you wouldn't want the joy of motherhood and a meaningful loving relationship in your life somewhere. The rest of them know you'll change your mind.

Answer 9

I'm not a stay at home mom. But I have to say that I don't think most women settle for this.

You have to think about the children. It's important to have a parent there...with all of the horrible things that can happen at a daycare of staying with someone you don't know very well. If you can stay home with your children why not? Also, take in to consideration the cost of daycare, some women who work the salary that they make only goes to pay for the daycare. Why work when you could stay home and be with your kids?

Hope this helps you understand.

Answer 10

You are being raised in a different generation. My generation was not. I how ever work, and I'm a Stepmother. I try to do both. I would never settle for being just a Wife and a Mother. I think my generation is the turn-around generation...kind of on the line. My Mom waited on my Father hand-n-foot all his life. My sister is the same w/her Husband. You can have it all. Don't ever settle!

Answer 11

I guess it is the way you interput things, you see until i had kids i had no idea how much happiness they could bring to your life and being at home so that i never missed any aspect of their life, like first steps, school plays and their very existence is a gift, i think not all mother's can afford to stay home and wish they could, and i feel for those mothers, let me tell you that i did less work back when i had a job and my job was high paying but no where near as rewarding!!!!