they are divorced and have been for 5 years but they still fight sooo but..soo much that my therapist is putting me on depression pills to help me...what should i do about it to make me happier?
2007-04-07 20:48:04 · 13 answers · asked by poplockdrop123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The only way to feel better about your parents is to realize that they are not going to change, and that's NOT your fault. You have to let go of the hope that your parents are going to improve, because they have been at it for a long time, and in some weird way it works for them.
You have the right to tell them both how their fighting is affecting YOU, and tell them that you wouldn't like to be around them while they go at it. I would tell each parent separately, at a time when they are calm and relaxed. But even then you have to realize they may not change, and perhaps just see them separately whenever possible.
Depression is a serious condition, so take care of yourself. Eat well, exercise regularly, talk about it, take the medicine as prescribed and do what you can to take care of you.
All the bast, B
2007-04-07 21:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are angry with your mom but you need to come down. Let her cool off also. You need to forgive her for hurting your feelings. At the same time you just disrespected your mom. You hurt her feeling too. She is trying her best to protect you, but it is coming across to you as if she is over controlling you. If you want to get out of her control then you need to act more responsible. Even if you disagree with something that she is asking you to do, just do it. That way you will earn her respect and she won’t harass you. Then when she is in a good mood, go talk to her about your true feelings. It sounds like you have some anger issues as well that you need to work out. I am not saying that everything that your mom is doing is right, but you can only change yourself not others. You said that your mom is verbally abusive but on the other hand you are becoming just like her. Running away is never a good solution to your problem. You are going to have to face many problems in your life and you can't run away from them all. Swallow your pride and re-add your mom to your facebook. That would take a lot of courage from your part but you’ll be doing the right thing.
2016-05-19 23:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by helena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they ever meet with your therapist? If so even if one meets, you can ask the therapist if it would be appropriate for him/her to mention something to your mom or dad. Actually I think that the therapist should say something to one of them and maybe the therapist can get through to them that all this arguing is affecting you so bad that you are depressed and are having to start taking pills. Then maybe your parents will talk and finally see that the children come first instead of their petty arguing, which apparently is not accomplishing anything, except dishing out money for your therapist and meds.
For you to be happier.....find you an activity that makes you happy.....but not drinking, or doing drugs....that is not an option. Maybe volunteering somewhere, or seeking a job at the Y....I don't know your age to know if you are old enough. Just find something constructive to where you are doing something for others.....when you do this unselfishly it tends to make ppl feel better.
I wish you luck and try to always find the positive... such as...say if they continue to argue.....say well they are not arguing at me. And also.....it take more of you energy to mad and upset than it does to be happy.
2007-04-07 21:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents fighting is always difficult. I would tell them both what they are doing to you! Now that they are divorced they clearly need to give eachother space, for your sake. Also, try to stop investing your emotions with your parents. I know it is hard watching them fight, but start finding other joys in life and attempt to distance yourslef from the hostility.
2007-04-07 20:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Omar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't take depression pills. They are bad for your health. If your parents fight, then keep yourself in control. Things like this happens in other's family too. Keep yourself mentally away from it.
Practice a lot of Yoga. That will help you stay COOL.
2007-04-07 20:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents how you feel Then if its that bad dont have much to do with them or be around when they fight, You need to move on.
2007-04-07 20:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their fighting has NOTHING to do with you.
The same way you fight with your friends and boyfriend is the same thing.
Sometimes, you don't get along with others. NOTHING to do with anyone but the Two people Aruging.
They fight.
Let them work it out.
You don't need pills. You just need a louder sterio.
2007-04-07 20:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take the pills they work like magic. You won't be sad anymore.I took them for three months and I could not believe the different in me.
2007-04-07 20:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant make your parents stop fighting, so the only thing left to change is yourself. find anything you can do to take your mind off of their fighting, something productive. wait it out. evntually they will stop, or you will be at college, or living alone and you won't have to deal with it.
2007-04-07 20:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard...just ignore it....dont spend as much time in ur hoiuse go out with your friends more have some fun,if they have problems there gonna fight,just dont stick around and listen to them
2007-04-08 00:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋