How do I start believing in myself?

Question

Let's just say, I don't believe in myself, and I really want to, but I just don't know how.

I'm 16 yrs old btw

Answer 1

See this Movie if you can please. ''THE SECRET'' This may change your thinking. Think positive and say postive things. Write down every day why you are to think that you are great person and You have to do somethink great everyday. Like remind someone for the appointments, I mean very small things mean big thinks. You need to sart writing down. and you get what you ask for it so start asking to beliving in your self. Dont listen to people who dont have anythink good to say.

Answer 2

Confidence comes with experience and age. I know 16 was hard, but easier than 14. Sometimes you just have to fake it until you begin to believe. Every teenager is insecure. Focus on your dreams and aspirations, what are you good at? Some people are great people persons, some aren't. I used to be shy and overweight. I was the life of the party around friends and those I was comfortable with. I was always wondering what people thought about me, how I looked to others, etc. But the older I got, the less I cared. 99% of the time what I assumed people thought about me was in my head.

Also, look at things this way: The Lord doesn't make mistakes! He could have made you a cockroach or something insignificant. But he made you...YOU (in his image). You are here for a purpose and to do greater things.

You will never please everyone all the time, so do what you want. Be comfortable with who you are b/c you are unique. It gets easier after highschool b/c you aren't in the fishbowl clique mentality. Be yourself and screw what others think. To get over my shyness around strangers I would make myself talk to people. I found that most people are a little shy and by my opening up, they would too. Your mind can sometimes be your biggest enemy. Don't listen to the voices that tell you aren't good enough, popular enough, etc.

Do you and be proud. You are unique and the world wouldn't be the same without you.

Answer 3

Making smaller goals does help. Make a list of a goal you want to achieve each week. Pump yourself up to achieve it....make a reward that's just for you. Treat yourself to something sweet or a new shirt or cd or whatever. It's okay to reward yourself b/c you are celebrating your accomplishment. This is motivational....and with each reward and each goal achieved, you will believe more and more in yourself...until it is all the time. Just don't cannonball into it....start with your toe and wait 'till your used to the water. Success can be as scary as failure sometimes. It's easy to not try b/c then you don't risk failing. But the truly successful do fail...a lot...they just never give up trying. Doesn't matter if you fall down, just matters that you're strong enough to get back up.

Answer 4

you must work to improve self-image.
One significant way of improving your self image may be to improve the way you interact with others. Smiling and laughing more, helping others, and giving compliments can help. It is difficult to feel negative when you are sincerely smiling. We all know some people with a great smile. Recalling them smiling often gives a happy feeling. Think about your favorite smiling people. Whether you know them personally or see them on television or wherever, the relation makes no difference. Just thinking about them smiling is likely to give you some pleasure and may entice you to smile more.
You may improve your appearance or your perception of your appearance using a variety of approaches including clothes, hair style, makeup, dieting, exercise, medical procedures, or in other ways. There are certainly many choices today on all of these options. If you have difficulty with achieving these types of improvements, you may need to get an opinion or advice from someone else. Input from family or friends can be helpful. Also, people who offer products or services which enhance personal appearance are usually happy to give their input on what will work for you. If you don't care for the opinion of one, try others. Just remember that you decide what you like. Some may consider improving personal appearance as vanity, but it is very normal and if it makes you feel better about yourself, then it is worthwhile. The importance of this factor on your happiness is entirely up to you.
So, what can you do to improve your self image? Consider the following thoughts on perception. Actually this list can apply to more than improving your self image. It can apply to anything you want to achieve.



Ask what about yourself do you like and dislike.



Think about what you would like to improve.



Think about, read, and talk to others about ways to improve your self image.



Take action on improving something, if it doesn't work try another way.don't be afraid to ask for input from others.



Stick with it.



Develop more self esteem - that's the bottom line.





You totally control what you think of yourself.

Answer 5

Build up your self esteem by goals in life. Set standards and stick to them. You can do it, If I can at my old age you can at your sweet 16 age.
Good luck hon. Just believe in your own self. Think positive thoughts and before you know it you will a much better felt person. Worked for me, it will work for you.

Answer 6

It takes a lot of work on your part. You have to think about how much you love and believe in yourself. "fake it to you make it" so to speak. Everytime you hear yourself doubting you, you have to tell it to stop and not listen. If you have people in your life who tell you that you're not good and who don't believe in you, then you need find new people in your life. Usually when you don't believe in yourself you attract people who don't believe in your either. You may need to find a good therapist or visit the self help section of your library or book store.

Answer 7

You you can't believe in your self then who can you?
When all seems your at the end of your rope, tie a knot in the end and hold on. You can do it, just have faith. Hope, faith and trust, that's a start. Day by day, little by little you can do it.
Just keep saying that over and over to your self, next thing you know, you believe.
The strength comes within the heart & soul.

Answer 8

Just like with Tinkerbell, it helps to have people around you who believe in you.
Be sure to give yourself plenty of positive affirmations in order to program your brain to think uplifting, confident thoughts. It's often a matter of mental habits.

Be sure to take an accurate inventory of your achievements and give yourself credit for what you have done, large and small.
I believe in you!

Answer 9

think for yourself, because everything your thinking now has been instilled in you somehow. you don't wake up one day and think gee, i hate myself. It's outside influences attacking you, whether it be from childhood, friends, media, anything- and your letting them in.
All the people saying only hang with positive people who believe in you, and don't listen to everything other people are bombarding you with are right.
Don't try to please everyone also is right, or you'll be aimless except for the use of others whims.
Don't stop searching what your looking for that's for damn sure.

Answer 10

Look in the mirror and say it outloud to yourself, "I believe in myself. I am the best." Say whatever else you want to that will make you believe in yourself. Do this often, and it will really help to make you believe in yourself. Willpower and your mind are very strong forces.