I was raped and I want an ABORTION no PRO LIFE help!!?

Question

Okay I'm 13 soon to be 14. I was raped by a "friend" I want an abortion. My aunt and my step dad won't leave me alone trying to keep my from getting it. How do I tell them I want this? And for them to shut up and back off?!? My mom doesn't mind and supports my decision so can I still get it?

Sorry I'm 14 I can't believe I actually typed that lol.

Answer 1

call planned parenthood and go in to talk to them they can give you all the information on who to see and what will happen......
If your mom supports you go with her

Also I know you probably don't want to do this because it was a friend but I really urge you to call the cops and file a report.......
Don't worry about telling anyone else, go with your mom get it done and if you have to tell them after the fact!

You were Raped, you are 14 and not ready to be pregnant let alone have a baby........
go do what you feel needs to be done

Answer 2

Sweetie, I am so, so very sorry that you were raped. No one should ever have to endure that sort of trauma. There are some really evil people out there and at 14 you shouldn't have had to go through something like this already. No one should. I hope that you will find some counseling or help to get you through this time, because it's not easy for an older woman to deal with rape, even harder for a young teenager.

I just want to say one thing: having an abortion will not make the rape go away. Yes, it will be difficult to deal with a reminder for the next few months, but in the end you will be able to give a very precious gift to a family who cannot have children themselves. You did not have control over getting raped, but you do have control over how you deal with the results. I am honestly not trying to scare you, but there are real concerns with abortions, especially for young girls like yourself. I don't know what I would have done pregnant at 14 after a rape. You are a brave girl to have gotten this far. Don't underestimate how brave you could be to take this child to term and turn him/her into a survivor!

Answer 3

All you need is one signature, if your mom supports you have her sign. Your aunt and step dad need to back off. I don't believe in abortion personally, but I have a friend that was raped and got pregnant. She decided to keep the child, and she has so many problems. She loves her child, but at the same time it reminds her of the rape. Take care and good luck.

Answer 4

I am so sorry to hear about this. I do not think that your stepfather and aunt can stop you, since you have your mother's support. Without knowing which state you line in, I don't know what more you need to do outside of getting your mother to take you to a clinic. Even in the state with the most repressive laws, you should be in the clear with your mother's support.

Please note that I'm no lawyer at all, but this is my understanding based on what I've read.

You have my best wishes, young woman. Be strong.

Answer 5

As a christian, I beg you to forgive the "you will go to hell and rot" statement above. We all have our own complications in life and it is no one's place to judge you sweet. I am so sorry what happened to you. Personally, I myself even went to have an abortion. I was in the waiting room and the other girls were talking about where they were going to shop after they got done with their abortion. It broke my heart. I got so far into the process to have the ultrasound done and I was crying so hard .... I just couldn't do it. My circumstances were pretty bad, although not rape. But I had already grown attached to the little life inside me. After I decided not to go through with it, they let me look at the ultrasound picture. I walked out not sure how I was going to do it, but I felt good. You are so very young to have this on your shoulders and all I can say is that I will pray for you. Isn't it odd that some of the most critical and judgemental people are "christians". For goodness sake. Bless your little heart and no matter what, Jesus will love you regardless of your decisions whether good or bad. Sorry for the bit of preaching. That comment that was written above just got me a little upset. Take care of yourself sweet.

Answer 6

Teenage pregnancy can result in alot of problems for the mum and baby. Maybe you want to do more research about this to convincr your aunt that keeping the baby isn't a good choice as it will affect your health?

Gals your age should be enjoying school and hanging out at shopping malls.

Though I would encourage you to keep the baby as many couples want a baby but can't even concieve, I see that you are determined to abort the baby. Remember to keep some momento about the baby so that you can look back and remember this baby.

Answer 7

Your mother is the one who should be telling these people to step off. You have enough to worry about without being pressured by these people. Talk to your mother and ask her to intervene on your behalf and set the abortion up for you and go with you to the doctors. I am sorry this happened to you, don't be pressured into making the situation worse by keeping the child...you are too young for that kind of responsibility. I hope you are ok....good luck.

Answer 8

I know right now the last thing you want is a reminder of this horrible situation, but really think through this decision. Alot of girls who have had abortions have suffered long term physical and emotional problems long after the event (similar to post traumatic stress syndrome) You should at least think about all your options before you make this tremendous decision, and I hope for the best for you.

Answer 9

My god...that's horrible! It's a really big decision and it is overwhelming to have gotten raped and be pregnant. Although I don't personally like abortion, to be a mother by fourteen is such a big responsibility for a teenage girl. I only support abortion in cases such as rape. I say you tell your aunt and stepdad that you have a long way to your future and that it is the best decision for you to not get distracted by having a child. Think about getting through high school....college.... hope everything works out!

Answer 10

I hope your mother and step-father are going after this poor excuse for a friend. Have you gone for counseling to deal with the trauma you've been through? You should also get tested for STD. There's no telling what this monster may have given you. Then I'd deal with whether or not to have the baby. I'm wondering why your step-father and aunt are putting so much pressure on you to have the baby.

Answer 11

No one can keep you from getting an abortion if you want one. No one can force you to gestate to term. If your mother is the custodial parent and she supports your decision all you have to do is go to the doctor tell them that you want an abortion.