if your husband could not get or maintain an erection or satisfy you sexually no matter what pills he tried (viagra,cialis,levitra) and you found out he had been looking at internet porn and going to dating sites behind your back what would you do?i dont want to cheat but i really cannot imagine never having a decent sex life again.i have had a love life for most of 35 years i aint dead yet you know.its hard to approach him this way anymore because of all the issues and he is intrested but not able i really dont know how long i can go on like this without becoming totally unintrested.i will not be used by allowing him to ruin my life and thinking he would gain anything it wont happen.i am just so unsure what to do next.any advice?
2007-04-07 17:15:53 · 2 answers · asked by dixie58 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not married, but I was and I had a similar problem. My husband wanted sex rarely and I assumed it was because he was no longer attracted to me. As it turned out, he was just very insecure. I learned to deal with the lack of sex by taking matters into my own hands. However, your situation sounds a little different. The porn is one thing. He could be trying to stimulate his drive by looking at things like that. If that were the only thing then I would suggest you ask him what intrigues him the most about those sites (such as is it a particular fetish or what) and try reproduce it for him (if it is within your bounds to do so). If the "slutty" look is what he's after, get on-line and find some good lingerie, and so on. What worries me about this is the dating site. People are often quick to judge adultery on here but I can't think of any other reason to visit a dating site. Is it really for singles or is it more of a chat room? Chat rooms go along the line of porn as long as he's not trying to meet any of them. If it's really a dating service, then you've got problems. Have you checked that site for his profile? If not, do so. He may be lying about way more than you realize. If he comes up with a good line about why he's visiting dating sites, let us know. For your sake I hope I'm misjudging him.
2007-04-07 20:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Misty P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been that female and that i have been the single cheated on via a dishonest husband, so i can take care of this from both ends. On what foundation could you sue, and why no longer the spouse also?
2016-11-27 02:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋