I am gay what should i do??

Question

ok i am gay but no 1 know not even my mom or dad should I go on or try to be stright???

Answer 1

Just be yourself, I'm straight myself, but i can imagine it's hard to tell your parents/friends etc.

I would suggest talking to your best friend about it. (and if you don't feel attracted to him, do tell him, otherwise he might not know how to react ;) )

Also, i don't know your age, but i would recommend you to read the following: http://www.puberty101.com/p_amigay.shtml

There are a lot of "coming out" stories on this website: http://k.domaindlx.com/comingoutstories/

Good luck!

Answer 2

I tried to be straight for many years, and believe me - I wish I came to terms with my gayness much earlier.
I found that I became very self destructive in trying to deny my orientation. Drinking, partying, lying, etc.
I used to be asked by people why I didn't date, "You like women, right?" and I'd always say the same thing - - "Yes, I'm straight." But I knew I wasn't......I soon became really angry at these people who had the nerve to ask such personal questions that sometimes even came from people I'd just met.
By the time I outed myself (age 27), most people were like "It's about time!"
Since then I've been so much happier and healthier, physically and mentally.
It's WAY too much work to try to deny and hide such an integral part of yourself.
If you're gay, you'll come to terms on your own time, my only advise is until you really can be sure you're not gay, you probably shouldn't get married or have kids. It's really devastating to loved ones when you come out when you have a family of your own.

Answer 3

You may want to check out some sites for gay youth. They will help you with accepting your sexuality. If there is an adult that you trust, such as a school counselor, teacher, or older relative (mom, dad, aunt, uncle) let them know and they may be able to help you out. Weather you should try to be straight or be content with being gay, is up to you. You shouldn't let anyone pressure you into being something that you feel uncomfortable with, even if they are an adult. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 4

1. Talk to some type of counselor. You should have one at school.

2. Check out this site for gay teens: http://www.thegyc.com/

3. It's OK to be gay. It's not wrong.

Answer 5

It's really none of mom or dad's business. You can tell them if you want, but you certainly don't have to. Moms usually are ok with it and sometimes dad's are and sometimes they're not...

Be who you are. If you're gay then you're gay. You can't just decide to be something else and expect it to happen. Live life whatever way makes you happy.

Answer 6

It depends on what you are comfortable with. I didn't come out until the last day of high school. Don't feel like you have to come out. You can if you want, but I felt really insecure and I think it was a good choice to stay in the closet. Once you do it, you can't take it back.

Answer 7

Please don't stay in the closet! The longer you wait, the harder it is to be who you are! Ask your parents to sit and listen and just come out and say it. They should understand, you are their kid. Tell them and you will feel much better and get a lot more confidence now that the hardest part is out of the way. Never fake who you are. Trust me, your mother and father are the hardest part. The next is your friends *if you want to tell them, they are less important than who birthed you* trust me, comming out is the hard part. Afterwords is the fun ^.- ENJOY! *god bless dude! GOOD LUCK!!!*

Answer 8

If you try to be straight you are not going to be happy if in your heart you know you are gay.

I have a gay son. He accepted himself at a young age and he is very happy about his life. He waited to come to us. He was afraid of how we would react. a crisis in his relationship prompted him to come out to me then a week later to his father.

I immediately opened my arms to him and told him I loved him no matter what. His dad did the same thing.

He is now in a committed relationship and very happy.

I can not promise how Your Parents will react. But give them the chance to do the "right" thing by you. If they don't accept you, you will know and you will have that burden off your shoulders.

I really condemn parents who will not accept their child as God created them. And I do believe that God created you as you are now.

For me it explained a lot about my son . I'm usually pretty good about seeing people as they are and have pretty fair "gaydar", but with my son I was totally blind sided. It was hard for me at first because I had no clue and I did go through a mourning period for what I thought his life would be against what his life really is.

I couldn't be happier for my son now and totally love him for who he is and accept his life style and know it is not a choice but the way he was made....

Answer 9

Relax. Chill out. Take a breath. No need to panic. Take your time. Be picky, nothing wrong with that. Continue your studies with earnest. And not some stud named earnest either. You don't have to tell your parents until your ready to. Or, until their ready to hear it. After all, they don't talk to you about their sex life. If you finally do talk to them let them know you depend on them so you can grow to be the best homosexual possible! I'm counting on you, buddy.

Answer 10

no. thats prolly the worst thing that could happen. just when u feel the time is right to say hey i'm gay. i want to live my life this way. then do it. it would be better. if you found a boyfriend or something. idk. umm found someone to come out with. HELPS A MILLION!! hope all is weel. let me know how things go. good luck kiddo