A girl does like that. ...is it fine to let her do like that even after marriage?

Question

let me start the question in this way..there is a girl who lives 3000miles away from me..she got friends as i do.....as we are committed so far and trying to think to be in a relation of husband and wife...but there is a think that i dont know how you guys and girls gonna react. she has friends and sometimes go out with them..i mean so guy friends..i dont know what she does how she meets but she has told me so many times that "TRUST ME AM NOT GONNA LET U DOWN"..i know she isn't like that but whats the point to go out with more than one guy friend? i don't realy understand when i ask her she replies like i am not cheating with u but on top of that none of her guy friends know about me. she was in disneyland for a trip and her one of guy friend works for delta airline and he just helped her out for getting a cheapest ticket and hotel room. and sorry to say she and he was in the same room..I ain't got any idea what she wanted to say by telling me all this

is it something like that she wants to tell me that She shares each and everything no matter how bitter it is or she wants to check how am i gonna react on this? She even told me that at that time when she was there he tried to get closed to her but she refused.........what does it mean..let me add something here..I and her know eachother for 9 years and we just got in committment last year as she was out of contact for years

but when we again got back in business then i explored her more how and what she does in life..Is it one pure american way that every girl or almost all the girls do the same as she is doing Sorry to say i am not blaming any nation but i never ever seen such type of girl behaviour in my life. I been in Germany, and now I am living in UK but i didn't even hear such thing from anyone nor seen anything like that

Onetime she got some argument with one her dad and she went outta home at 12 in night, she called me that i had a fight and i am on my way somewhere but i dont know where..all of sudden she told me that ok "I am gonna go for now cuz i am at front of my friends home and i might gonna stay here for a while..when i asked her who is he, she said ONE OF MY FRIEND. on the very next day she told me i spent all most a night at his place and the same thing, HE WAS TRYING TO GET ADVANTAGE OF AS I AM GONNA LOOSE TONIGHT BUT I TOLD HIM THAT THIS IS NOT WHAT I AM HERE FOR. futher more she said she moved to another room and slept for a while

tell me guys what is that all about....is it something like that or she is like that...
now the real thing of this question. in 2003 she got married a guy who she loved most. they were hardly together for a year and right after first kid he divorced her. Keep this in mind i told u earlier i got back again in regular contact back in 2005 and since that time she has shared almost her whole life she gone through with. she been telling me that he abused her, kicked her, stuff like that, ON top of that when her X husband filed divorce case, she had her kid living with her and this child was used to visit her father on weekends. now she has also lost child custody and going to appeal against it.

to grab a kid from mother is a big thing for any judge or lawyer but she even lost her kid..what were the circumstances, how she fought in this case, i dont know all the time she been telling me that she is positive in child custody case and will get her kid for sure but she lost. Was it cause of her behaviour as she is right now with me..I am not dumb but if she is like that with me she would have been the same with her X husband but everytime she gave me his negative point and never ever told me her mistakes

Guys and especially girls..I dont know what' the behind story, but she also been telling me that why she still meet guys just to use them cuz in this world everyone used her for their profits. Is it fine to hear something like from your gf who is also going to be your wife one day?...Would anyone dare to help me in this serious ****?

we been exchanging gifts so many times but she never used me asking for money or never took an advantage of my loyality and love

one of the girl replied she is from States...
my email ID is [e-mail]...i would appreicate the kind act if someone directly contact me on yahoo SHE IS 26 BY THE WAY

in the last let me tell u bit about me....I didin't raised in West side..i dont know how to respond or act in daily life in west side..i ain't got enough brain to tackle such things as u guys could do..because there is a big part of system, culture and society behaviour on one's life since when he/she born and lived his whole life by living in the same system. so Please properly guide be before i take any major step like marrying her...

Answer 1

You, my friend, are being sucked into a roller coaster ride full of drama and it's time to move on. If she is doing all of this confusing mixed messages type of behavior now, I can assure you it will be worse if you marry her.

I have male friends (I am female) and I can tell you I don't sleep with them in the same bed and if I were to travel with one of them, we would have separate rooms. And when I am involved in a relationship, especially one where marriage

This girl you're hooking up with sounds classically dysfunctional. Time to cut her loose - life is to short to waste on all that drama.

Answer 2

Where you live has nothing to do on how you act. When you love a person you don't do half of the Sh*t that this girl is doing. There is definitely something wrong with this girl and you should let her solver her own issues. Move on before you become hubby #2 and she moves on to 3, 4, 5, so on. No one gives you something for nothing...she is obviously giving something in return. A girl cant keep a guys attention for more than 5 min unless she is giving it up! Move on!!!

Answer 3

I don't think that you and she have a future together. You keep adding more and more details about how you are challenged to trust her. She doesn't seem like the person who will live a life in which she would be careful to avoid temptation in a married relationship. She pushes her stories to the limits of believability. I don't think you will be happy and I don't think you can trust her. So why are you hanging on?

Answer 4

She has serious issues. Sounds like she is using guys for money and sex but they dont value her. Thats where you come in. You make her feel loved and good about herself. She will never settle down and be faithful. Not for atleast a decade anyway. She also needs therapy. She has obviously been through a lot and it doesnt sound like she's doing anything to get better. Do yourself a favor, cut her off!!

Answer 5

Well I was going to answer but i fell asleep before I got to the end of this never ending story. I think you must be going for the record of the longest question ever asked on Yahoo. Way to go.

Answer 6

A whopper of a story. You should work this out in therapy, because it sis so complicated and will take a trained therapist a long wile to work through the issues.

Answer 7

She is an unstable loser, user, and excuse maker. A manipulator. Avoid her like the plague, if you don't want the misery of divorce, which will surely result, if you are foolish enough to marry her.

Answer 8

It really didn't take you saying all of that, all you had to do is think for yourself and you know this chick is up to no good. I can't get over the fact you are talking about marring her.

Answer 9

I am a girl from America,and my advice would be to you....RUN RUN RUN RUN.She sound like a drama queen,and loves drama to be the center of her life.Drama queens are not very nice girls. Good luck to you and God bless

Answer 10

Just keep smiling, send her money whenever she asks for it, and keep believing that she is doing the right thing by you!

By the way, you might want to learn the meaning of the word cuckold!