my wife was a victim of an armed robbery at her work the guy hit her with a gun 3 times how can I help her?

Question

heal mentally/emotionally.she loves her job they are her second family basicallly she's been there 15 years and makes good money so leaving is probably out unless it happened again then I would force her to leave.

Answer 1

Get her her own gun, and shooting lessons.

If she's scared of getting robbed again, the best way to deal with it is to prepare for it.

Answer 2

How much time he's looking at depends on the state you live in. You can check your state's or county's website and see what he is facing. And armed robbery is armed robbery. There is no such thing as sort-of armed robbery. He had a gun, he showed the gun, so he was armed and he committed robbery. And at 21 he is an adult and should face the consequence of his actions.

Answer 3

You can't "force" her to leave, and if you make her choose between you and the job...you may not like the results, even of she chooses you.

As for helping her recover, you're kinda hadicapped by your gender here - it was a man whom physically beat her, and you're a man. If you've noticed her fliching when you touch her, this is why. She will be angry with you for little or no reason for the next while for the same reason. (For now) she can't vent at the scum that beat her, so, being male, you have to take the brunt of it.

As to how to help her heal the mental and emotional scars, other than be there for her when she needs you, and give her the emotional and physical closeness she is going to need when she wants it.

Once she starts to come to terms with what happened, and starts to let the anger go, make her agree to Self-Defence Classes (some areas have free classes for crime victims). However, remind her that the best marital artist in the world, when faced with a pistol in their face and a demand for their money, will hand over their wallet..."gun beats fist" Same situation with an unarmed mugger results in an unconcious mugger being dragged away by the cops.

One final note...I'm starting to become loopy...I've been in front of this screen for almost 11 hours...lol...if possible, for the next couple of months, offer to pick her up, and be outside the well-lit front door 5-10 minutes before she's due out.

Answer 4

Just be there.

Seriously though, I was in the same situation, almost. I was robbed at gunpoint and a few other things happened during the event. 12 years later, it is still there and I still don't like certain situations, but as time goes on.....

You know.

The best help I ever got was actually from my daughter who did nothing more than listen to me when I needed someone to talk to or hold my hand when certain events would arise.

so.., just be there, man

Answer 5

Continue to be supportive and most of all LISTEN to her. She will talk about it at times when she wants to. There is probably not a lot you can say to make things all right. She will just need time and compassion from those around her. Most of all be patient and allow her time to heal from this experience. Just be available to her.

Answer 6

Get her in some type of therapy, and comfort her, and let her deside if she want's to back to the same job,and also just picture you in her position, and think how hard that would be, let her deside it will be for the best!

Answer 7

You already are- obviously you care so much about her she has to know it and feel it and it will help her through this. Sorry I am not actually giving any advice (listen to the others who have been through something like this)- just wanted to say how I appreciated your attitude.

Answer 8

just comfort her as much as possible, be with her as much as you can, hug her etc. make her feel protected all the time. it's so nice if you to actually ask a question about how you can help her!

Answer 9

spend time with her and giv her wat she needs and be ther 4 her wen she's upset