Me and my freind are planning to move-in together this summer. And I was wondering if any one could give me tips for moving for the first time and living with your best freind?
2007-04-07 14:39:35 · 11 answers · asked by Larissa... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Make certain you and your friend know exactly who is responsible for what (utilities, rent, phone, etc.). Also lay down some ground rules early about friends, studying, work, cleaning, sleepovers, etc. Make sure you have an emergency fund as well. Are you both on the lease? Will you be left hanging if she moves out? Who is contributing furniture, dishes, etc? Are you both going to eat the food in the kitchen or are you going to have to label it all so you only eat your food, etc. A lot of planning needs to go into moving out for the first time. Good Luck!
2007-04-07 14:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by gypsie_spiryt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set some rules and boundaries with your roommate. You need to put everything on the table on what you both agree to, where property is concerned. I'm talking about the do's and don'ts in your household. For example, when your roommate is allowed to use your belongings, or go into your room. House guests - when and how many, and if that is a concern for you.
You need to divide everything, and put on paper, for security reasons, on how the bills will be split, and document anything that belongs to you, and keep your treasured items, locked away.
Make sure you are both okay with the guests that come and go. If there are any disputes between you both, you need to have a back up plan on who would leave, and who would stay, etc.
You have Rights, and it's a good time, now, before you finalize moving into a place, together, that you are not going to tolerate certain things, and that because you share the same living space as your roommate, that he/she has the same Rights. It's making sure you both are on the same page, where agreements on various things are concerned.
Know the area you're going to be living in. Check out the neighborhood, and ask someone, living in that area, if it's a safe area to live in, etc.
But, always make sure that you set rules down that both of you will follow. Write them down, and both of you sign the document, so that if anything happens, where the agreement is broken, you or him/her, will show the agreement/document that you both signed, and will have to refresh what you both agreed on.
2007-04-07 14:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw up a budget BEFORE YOU SIGN A LEASE. List all the possible bills, how much each person's share is of each, and decide if you can both afford your share. If one of you has to move back home because you can't afford it, the other one is stuck until the end of the lease. Can you carry that yourself? So let me repeat this - DO THE BUDGET FIRST.
Work out basic rules for household chores - who does dishes, who cooks, who vacuums, who cleans the bathroom. Ditto for taking out the trash, shoveling the driveway, mowing the lawn, cleaning the cat box, etc.
Figure out how you handle food - do you shop together, or does each person have their own food, and you don't touch hers?
Decide how you handle bills - all of them. Phone, utilities, heat, water, cable, internet, rent.
Do you both have cars? Do you have room to park both?
Are you two dating each other? If not, what if he/she brings someone over? How do you cope with a stranger at breakfast? How do you cope if your friend brings your ex over for the evening? Or your brother?
It's not impossible, but it can be done with a little work and forethought. Just be flexible, and realize that it won't be the same as home.
2007-04-07 14:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it's an adjustment. Make sure the two of you have enough room (in case you want to be by yourself in another room at any given time). Respect each other's privacy and draw up some rules that you both agree on.
Best of luck to you and have fun!!
2007-04-07 14:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, get the rules straight from the get go, bills split and due need to be paid on time claening arragments(take turns) having people over etc this can ruin a friendship if not talked about, keep seperate shelves in the fridge, your stuff and his
2007-04-07 14:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to get locks for your rooms,so that each one doesnt go in when the other is not at home and make sure you two understand the money rules first!!!! and make sure that both of your jobs are stable otherwise i will see you both on judge judy
2007-04-07 14:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by uimblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you will be able to afford it!!! Make sure you and your roommate both have stable jobs. Make rules on housework first!!! Also make sure you both agree on "visitors". Be sure you know your friend really well first. Good luck!!!
2007-04-07 14:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by chris f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive lived with friends before and my rule is now, never live with friends because living together can destroy a friendship.
2007-04-07 14:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya watch what you eat. its easy to overeat or eat unhealthy when you live alone at first
2007-04-07 14:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your stuff clean
2007-04-07 14:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋