Emotional abuse?

Question

I have recently been told I'm in an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship. I knew the relationship was not healthy before that, but I'm having a real hard time thinking of it as "abuse" even though I realize thats what it is. Has anyone else had a similar experience or felt this way about the terminology, and would you be willing to talk a little about it, either here, or through messaging?

Answer 1

I was verbally abused for 25 years before I got out of it. It is real and haemfull to you.

Answer 2

If you define 'abusive' in the terms of 'emotional/verbal', then that would simply be if your partner is calling you names, or hurting you, intentionally. It becomes a problem if you feel worthless, or degrading, when your partner calls you names, and you 'believe him'.
I would seriously consider leaving this guy, as he has no consideration over your feelings, and is treating you in a way that you don't deserve.
You're a lot stronger than that, and you deserve better. No woman should be treated badly, and if you already knew he was this way, then why are you trying to hold onto the relationship?

I was in a relationship where the same thing happened, and I wasn't sure if that's what you would have called my kind of relationship with this guy. I knew he was like that, because he's 'always' been verbally abusive, and said a lot of things without thinking. He was always saying terrible things about other people, including myself, and I simply took it as a part of 'his character', and nothing more. But that all changed when I started to feel bad about myself, even though I'm a good person, I didn't feel like it, because he was telling me otherwise. I had to end the relationship because he started to get physically abusive towards me.

It won't be long before your partner does the same. It's one thing to be 'emotionally abused' or 'verbally abused' by your partner, but then they take it to the next level, once they start getting used to treating you in that way. They start going into overload with their anger and hostility, that they will one day, slap you, punch or kick you, because the feelings they get when they verbally abuse you, isn't giving them the 'power' they want to feel, so they start physically abusing you.

Take my advice, just leave the relationship now, before it gets out of hand. It's a dangerous time for you, and if you're not willing to end the relationship, you need to sit down with your partner and let him know how you feel. If he's not willing to stop his abusive tactics, then you need to let him know that you won't tolerate it anymore. It's saving your own life that you need to prioritize.

Answer 3

Emotional verbal abuse comes from unresovled issues within yourself .When unresolved inner pain is not ressolved it has to come out,Sometimes through calling people names or looseing your temper for no reason .Sometimes things that happen as a child that aren.t resolved come back to haunt you if you don t give it the emotional attention it needs.Examples I was put in foster care as a child and then put up for adoption at Christmas time when I was 5.I had to as a adult work on abandoment issues .I used to be extra upset if some one broke up with because I felt again like someone was leaving me.I could be moved at any time when i was a child as a adult I was mortified of getting lost .This was all do to the fact when a caseworker was takeing me I never knew wher I was going,Being that I lived in 4 foster homes a was always lied to saying you can go back to visit and never could I used to have trust issues,And when people lied to me or deceived in the past i would be devastated.All these feelings from anyones child hood could come out in phycical or verbal abuse Both need counseling right away,Esp if you do not have children.Because words do hurt and they stay much longerSo look back and see what feelings you are not letting out and talk it out with a counselor ,And the old saying sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you they do,Hope this helped,Words are a very powerfull thing

Answer 4

if the person you are with is constantly negative towards you, it is an abusive relationship. I was military police in the army for the past 4 years and cannot express how important it is to get out of relationships like this as early as possible. I have seen too many women who stayed with guys that eventually became physically abusive and were eventually carried away on a stretcher... you can say all you want that it isnt that bad or "oh he would never do that." reality check... if someone is verbally demeaning towards you then eventually he wont care how bad he hurts you.

Answer 5

If he makes you feel worthless with his words, it is emotional abuse. Insecure men verbally bully to keep themselves feeling superior to you. They are afraid if they don't keep you uncertain and questioning your self-worth with their words, that you will leave them.

Don't let this continue. It erodes your very soul and will destroy all sense of you, yourself as a precious and worthy human being. Walk away with your head held high, knowing that you are worth so much more than this cruel, abusive man.

Answer 6

someone is emotionally hurting me right now. i've been through it all even though i'm still a teen. i love helping people so feel free to email me. my instant messaging isnt working but i have msn. i would love to help any way i can and i am a good listener

Answer 7

yes i would like to talk to you about it [e-mail]

Answer 8

Yes. I have. And yes. Please im me.