my best friend has just told me she still likes her ex bf, i am so freaked out about this because they had such a bad break up she nearly took her own life because of him! what the hell do i do??? please help!
2007-04-07 14:30:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She means the world to me and i never want to see her get hurt!
2007-04-07 14:53:47 · update #1
You must remind her of the pain she endured while with her ex. You must also tell her that there are better people out there, and that she may just be attracted to this boy for wrong reasons.
You should also talk to her parents about this. Parents, are there to help after all. Never try to handle something like this on your own.! Remember to also tell her how good of a person she is, and that she diverse better.
If this boy/ex/whatever of your friend's, is...was, her first boyfriend, and/or 'love', then...well, 'first loves' are always hard to get over. To move on from. Again just remind her why they broke up. (Unless he broke up with her, then that might not be such a good idea...)
All 'N' all, I wish your and your friend the best of luck. And I hope I helped. (At least a little.)
2007-04-07 14:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know im not the best at answering this question and im probably too young to give advice but i have a similar problem as yours. my friend is inlove with this guy and when they broke up she never got over him and tried taking her life several times. i think you should let her make her own decisions because she needs to learn from them. also you should remind her about the last time they went out because the same thing could happen again. the best thing to do is to be there for her and support the decision she makes.
2007-04-07 22:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her what happened last time her ex bf broke up with her, and ask her if she wants to go through the pain of maybe braking up with him again because for a second time she might not be able to handle it.
2007-04-07 21:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still likes? Or is getting back together with?
If it's a lingering affection, it probably just needs time. It's hard to let go of someone quickly. Especially if she put as much emotion into it as you say. I'm guessing that he dumped her, and she took it hard. The best you can do is try to talk to her about it. If she tells you she still likes him, ask her what about him she still likes. Try to talk it out, don't just shoot her opinion down, actually work it out with her.
Hopefully you can ease her out of this infatuation.
2007-04-07 21:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that you are her best friend and because you care for her, you wouldn't let her do that to herself again because of him. I also think that if she keeps bringing him up, you should try doing something to get him off her mind. Like ice skating or doing some kind of sport with her, or maybe group activities. I hope this helps!
2007-04-07 21:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by TF111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and talk to her. Its the only thing you can do.
Because, ultimately, it is her own decision. It might not be a very smart one, but as her friend, you should definately voice your opinion. Let her know that there are many other guys out there that would probably treat her better than her him.
2007-04-07 21:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if that is your true friend than you have to do everything you can to help her and help her make the right choice. if you do everything you can( and i mean everything) and she still goes back, than you can't get back into this situation. even if she gets hurt because the same patterns will repeat. try your best to help her. never give up on friends
2007-04-07 23:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Chistopher A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her like him. i have been in the same situation. help her through it and only let her grow to him a little. make sure he is not hurting her emotionally or doing anything. dont remind her too much about the past but enough to maybe change her mind.
2007-04-07 21:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything you can't control what she feels, better yet you don't know EXACTLY how she feels. In fact, you can't place the blame on her ex for her trying to commit suicide..SHE is the one who is in control of how she feels and how she reacts to how she feels. I mean I know you just want to help and you are scared for the end result of this but seriously, just support her through it because that's what she really needs.
2007-04-07 21:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything.
the situation doesn't belong to you.
if your friend almost killed herself when her and her boyfriend broke up, she has much, deeper problems than a break-up. she apparently has other, deep-seated issues.
take care of YOU... be a good friend... don't get involved in the drama... if you don't want to talk about the boyfriend and the problems, let her know....
hugz.
2007-04-07 21:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋