Have you ever thought you didnt love someone anymore, only to discover that you really do deep in your heart?

Question

have you nearly reached the edge of your relationship and then realised that you do actually love this person?

has something suddenly re-awakened your feelings?

please tell me your stories xxx

Answer 1

Yeah, I thought I didn't love someone, so I acted like I didn't care about anything, it was all just a joke to me. But I learned the hard way that I actually did, the relationship was about to end and when it did..I don't think I have ever been hurt in my life like that, when it was over it just felt like I got hit by a bus, it was a shock and it was so weird i was going nuts thinking about this person all day, Fortunatly we got back together and I have learned to think twice from now on... it's true you don't know what you have until you lose it.

Answer 2

I've been married over 20 years and the story continues...

Love seems to be an ebb and flow thing... sometimes the love tide is in... sometimes the ocean dries up... and danged if the tide doesn't make it's way back in again somehow.

There is no single story of re-awakened feelings or a single instance that brings those feelings back to life. In my opinion, it has more to do with being open to seeing the greatness in someone after you've been looking for the mundane for a very long time.

It helps when someone steps out of character in your presence just long enough for you to witness it though.

Live well~

Answer 3

Love is unpredictable. It's a bit cliche but a lot of people believe that "You only know how much you love somebody when you've lost them" or "nearly" lost them. It could be something as little as a phone call that makes you think "this person really cares about me, I care about them too". Or it could be that you've discovered that you have something important in common like you both want children.

Personally, I havent had something as such. I had one love that was a bit like an addiction, I kept going back. I didn't know where I stood. I tried to forget about the person and move on and to do this I didn't speak to them. Then eventually I did and everything came flooding back and it seemed only yesturday that my love for them was stronger than ever.

Everybodies love is different, as long as you find out where you stand and where the other person stands it can be quite simple.

Answer 4

I hope this will help you in some way, here's my story.

I had a boyfriend in high school. I was a senior, he was a junior. He was a wonderful boyfriend, and I felt truly loved by him. He didn't push me to do anything I didn't want to, and he was a gentleman most of the time, not bad for a 17 year old. I went to university about an hour and a half away, and he had started his senior year in high school. He came to visit me at school twice. After the second time, he became distant and a bit standoffish. He wouldn't phone me, he said his dad wouldn't allow the long distance phone calls. He wouldn't come to visit anymore, he said his dad wouldn't allow the long driving distances cos it was wear and tear on the car, and wasting gas. I would go home nearly every week end, and he would refuse to pick me up from the train and bus stations. Not long after, I received a letter from him with a cassette (Don't Cry by Guns'n'Roses), breaking it off with me. We dated I believe 6 months, but I was devastated. I never thought I'd find love again. After a few weeks I began dating someone else, and then on and on with my life. 15 years later, last May, I had an epiphany of sorts. I had repeated a phrase that I used a lot when I was dating this guy )it was "yeah, you do, don't lie"). And it was like I had been knocked over by a tidal wave. I remembered him, and then pieces of a puzzle came together in my mind. Although I loved my university, I hated the town it was in, and I still to this day make fun of it, but I had never known why I felt hate for that place all these years until that moment. I hate that place cos I thought my going there made me lose that guy. I had been overcome with emotions at that moment, and I cried and cried. I began to search for him on the internet, and I found some photos, I 'm not sure when they were from, but I knew it was him, he looked older, but I got the butterfiles I had 15 years before all over again. I contacted the webmaster for the site with the photos (it was for racing cars and such), and I was able to get the guy's email address. I tried to email him, and the address was no longer valid. I looked on the website for our high school and the reunion information, and I found him on there. I was elated, he was still single, the plates for the car in the photo still has the area of where we lived, and I was so exited, I thought I may be able to just see him again, and thank him for letting me know what love was. I was able to send him an email through that website, like we can on YA, and I told him that I would love to be able to connect with him again. I checked every day to see if he had read the message. And after about 3 months he had. He finally did. He never responded to me. I gave up and no longer give him the place on the pedastol as the only source of love for me. He was a lesson and a blueprint, so now I know what I want and I'll be able to recognise it when I encounter it. I don't know if you can relate, but I hopw this helps. Thank you for letting me tell you.

Answer 5

My ex and I have a five year old daughter.

About 2 year ago we started having problems, he was getting frustrated at work and bringing it home with him. I would be at college all day to. We would argue a lot and obviously the strain on our relationship showed, but we never admitted it, and even our daughter knew. I decided that there was no point in him working somewhere he truly wasnt happy, and we agreed that he should go to college and do what he always wanted. Last year, it was starting to get really bad, I decided that I seriously hated him and was no longer in love with him. He had already cheated on me...with a girl in his college class, she was 16 years old and he was 23 years old. Ok, I know when there is something up with him, so I found out and I freaked out. He promised me it would never happen again, as long as I would forgive him, cos he really wanted to be with me and our daughter. When the summer came I was convinced he was cheating on me with a woman at his work, who was a lot more older than him, and so much uglier than me. Anyway, he started drinking a lot. The day before our daughter's birthday on halloween, he phoned me up about half 5 and told me he had missed the bus home, as he was suppose to be getting Faith's birthday present from his father for her, but I knew he was drunk. I hung up the phone, went upstairs into our bedroom, and without even thinking I threw all his stuff in black bags and threw them down the stairs. My mum helped me put them in the car. About half an hour later he phoned again and started mouthing off down the phone, so I told him to make his way to his mum's house cause that is where all his stuff was.

That was the end of it or so I thought until about 1 WEEK, yip one week later he was living with the woman he works with, and now about 2 months later they were engaged, and now she is 7 weeks pregnant. But before they got engaged I went through a depression of wanting him back and all the usual stuff, but I think I just wanted to mess things up with what he had with her. I have always had guys after me, so I get to choose. My friends quickly did snap me out of it though...I am so much happier now, my college work has improved, my friends have noticed a huge difference in me, and my relationship with my daughter is amazing before I never realised how much she truly means to me, but now I could never live without her. She has helped me more than anything. She see her father every second weekend when he is not working, and they get on well, and she likes her new step mum to be.

But no my feelings truly was never re-awakened for him, I do dislike him a lot though because of the way he treated me throughout our entire relationship, and even now as we try to be civil...but am so happy now, and I needed to feel like this to understand where my life is headed, I just needed to be self fish for once.

Answer 6

yes of course ,what the blood feels and believes and says is eventually always true.