teenage sex or wait?

Question

If you have had sex in your teens, explain why you did it(love, drunk, curious etc.?) how old you were and do you regret your first time or not?

If you waited until you were older, explain why you waited, how old you were when you did it, or if you still didnt do it how old you are.. and do you regret waiting to do it?

I'm almost 19 and its only a thought between me and my boyfriend but i was just wondering what everyones ideas were and what they did.

Answer 1

I waited.

I did not think I was mature enough to handle the consequences of what may or may not have gone wrong.

I was also not interested in hooking up with some guy who was just after me to satisfy his physcial needs either.

I had way to many friends who wasted their high school years caught up on boys.

I stayed focused on my studies and my extra-curricular activities.

I was popular and had lots of freinds both male and female.

I knew that I would have sex eventually but it was on my own terms and when I felt I was mature enough to handle it.

I was 21 he was my University sweet heart, we were going to get married and I decided that I was not ready yet so I broke things off.

I was glad I waited because I trusted the love he had for me and was not damaged emotionally when our relationship ended.

It was a good barometer for me to start off on and I now recognize what a happy and healthy relationship is like.

I love him to this day for the caring and compassionate friend that he was.

Answer 2

This is a big question. I've read the other answers and think intimacy for the first time because someone is drunk is sad and crazy! I actually have a lot to say on this topic but don't have the space to say it all here. Here's something I wrote though and I hope it helps you in your decision. I wish you all the best!

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How do you know if it’s the right time?

Did you ever hear the old song, “Breaking up is Hard to Do?” Thinking that it’s the right person or time and having en error in judgment can cause you some heartache. Okay, so you can get past the pain and move on, but how often do you want to do that to yourself? On the other hand think about what you would value more, the thing you worked and saved for or the thing that was handed to you with no effort on your part?

Consider what you value in life. What is important to you? How do you want to honor yourself and a partner? Do you love and respect yourself enough to hold out for what you truly want? Does your partner love and respect you enough to walk through the process with you waiting for the right time? If there is any doubt in your mind or guts, for sure it’s not the right time.

Anyone can say they have a commitment to you. They may even think they mean it at the time. Demonstrating commitment is a true test.

I understand that going against the mainstream of popular thought and media that says “just do it and get it oer with” is a difficult position to take. Understand that the choice of sexual intimacy has some of the most immediate consequences within the spectrum of choices you can make. I am suggesting that you consider your own heart, mind, and soul first and foremost. In the end, you have to live with the choices you make.

Answer 3

My situation on why it happened are for reasons much different than everyone elses, but I was 15 and yes, I do regret not waiting. I am the first and only person that my boyfriend has ever been with (he was 22 and is now 27), which makes my past more regretful that I could not give him the same.

Answer 4

Ok! I am 17 years old! I first had sex when I was 14! I did it because me and my boyfriend had been dating for two years! We always messed around and stuff but then one night we just had sex! I dont regret it! I mean we are not together anymore, but we didnt break up because of sex! We broke up because he was moving to a different state and we didnt want a long distance relationship! I had sex with him for the first time because I loved him! He was my first true love and I have never regret it! I will say now when I date guys that is all they think I am in the relationship for!! But I loved the person I lost my virginity to and I would never take it back!

Answer 5

I had sex the first time when I was 25. I can remember my parents every weekend, sat my brothers and I at the table and began talking about sex and everything. The talks started when I was 8. I think it sank in. I really did not date but saw a lot pregnant girls from my school and I knew that was not going to be me. I began telling myself I have to wait but I really did not know why. My first boyfriend at 18, ofcourse wanted sex and naturally I said I am not ready, as I told him those words I started thing that I was going to wait for the person I would marry. Soon enough I met my current husband and who was my first.

I don't regret waiting, I think sex is a very special and beautiful thing that should be shared with that other special person. I have always been a positive and mature girl, I never need sex to fill a void in my heart.

I see now a days so many young girls trying to be adults, doing adults things, without realizing that they have a whole lifetime to be adults and sometimes you wish you could be that little kid again.

Enjoy your teenage years, enjoy your friends your parents, finish your school, go to college, time goes by very quickly soon enough you will be a grown up just like me. Attending a home with a husband and kids and your teenage years will be left behind in that beautiful thing we call memories!

Good luck and may God guide you to make the right decision!

Answer 6

You dont have to wait until your married (lots of people will try to tell you to) just wait until you are sure you are ready.
i was 18, drunk and with my boyfriend. The only reason i was ready was because i was drunk. I dont regret it but it could have been planned better
Your first time isnt gonna be easy whether you are in love or not. If you really want to have sex then use protection and take bc. At least then you wont have to worry as much about the dangerous consequences. Just try to imagine how you will feel about it after you do it. Hopefully you wont make a decision you might regret. Just wait it out, you will know when its right, trust me.

Answer 7

I was 18. I had planned on waiting until my wedding night mainly due to religious values but due to previous circumstances did not feel like it was that ultimately special for me to save what little I had left.

I don't regret wanting to wait till I was married, nor do I regret having sex at 18. It was with some I loved (and still do love) and there have been no regrets about anything.

Answer 8

I was 15 (so was my hubby).We was going out for 6 months.And we new it was true love.I wouldn't take it back.We are now married and have a son that will be 4 months on the 14.Been together since we was 14.and we well be 21 this year.It was made to last.

Answer 9

I was 16, and thought i was in love. To me, showing my 'love' was by agreeing to have sex...for a girl (woman) sex is usually a very emotional thing. But, i soon learned that all a teenage boy wants is just that, sex. Most of them have no emotion attatched with it. That was my experience, and i do regret it, because it was very unsatisfying and just left me emotionally confused...and i'm not a very "Emotional" person by any means! :) I do wish i would've had the forsight ,self-control, and 'mind-of-my-own' attitude enough to wait for sex. Alot of people are both mentally and emotionally too immature as a young teen to engage in sex. That's just my perspective!

Answer 10

I am 14, a virgin, and still waiting for my wedding night, but I'll tell you why. First of all, I do it because of religious reasons. But most importantly, I do it for my well-being. I don't want to become just a little old sex-toy to some guy. I don't want to get pregnant when I'm not ready. I don't want to get STDs like HIV or AIDS. There is absolutely no reason to have sex now.

Many people regret it, and you may end up with very large consequences like a disease or a child. Wait until you are emotionally, mentally, and physically stable and you are in a steady relationship.