What is it like to be really beautiful?

Question

I used to scrub up quite well but I feel my best years are behind me since i had my baby and got fat lol . Very rarely i encounter stunningly beautiful women and I wonder what life is like for them.

Do they have men falling at their feet all the time? Do they get really cute guys? Do they find all the attention annoying? Do they receive a lot of bitchiness from other women?

Dont be coy - if you really are considered beautiful dont be afraid to say so.

Thanks for the advice Krystal - I am pregnant again anyway so I'll lose it when the baby is born. If you aint beautiful then p*** off.

I am not down about my looks i know i will lose the weight and look better - I was just curious!! I think it must be really nice to wake up every morning and genuinely think DAMN I AM A SEXY MAMA!! lolol Its all a bit of fun!

Now c'mon RG and Bex, just cos you might not be drop dead beautiful doesnt mean you are ugly - this question wasnt meant to make women feel bad, it was just something i was curious about. I agree with many of the posters that looks arent everything - personality definitely counts for a lot and I agree that a beautiful personality can make most people very attractive.

Answer 1

i don't know. Must be quite annoying with people gawping at you all the time

Answer 2

1

Answer 3

Interesting question.

I don't consider myself to be beautiful but I've been told that with the right clothes and a bit of makeup I look very pretty. It isn't exactly wonderful; I do get men leering at me a bit which makes me feel a bit shy, and the ones that come after me aren't interested one bit in me as a person. As a result, I've never had any sort of serious relationship and this gets me down.
There's also a lot of animosity and bitchiness from other women, even my friends. Everywhere I go, everywhere I work, there's always someone who gets a case of the green eyed monster and tries to make my life hell.
At one point I was told I could be a model but being UK 8-10 I was 'supposed' to loose weight and this led to me developing an eating disorder and becoming so dangerously thin for a while I thought I might not be able to have children.

In a nutshell, it's all very well being super pretty if you're shallow and self-centred. It destroys your life otherwise.

Answer 4

I can let you in on a secret, it's all in the attitude! I know many stunning women, but they don't have any idea to put thier bueaty accross and end up percieved as "stuck up' or 'into thierselves". I am a very plain woman, not ugly, but plain, I have a short neck and a bald patch that will never go away but fortunatly can be covered most of the time. I, and this will sound concieted, can make most men look twice....how? It's all in the eyes, If I like someone I see in the street I look straight into thier eyes, it's so direct and so unexpected that I always get a reaction. It really is in your attitude, if you believe you are sexy, you are! But eye contact is the key and learning how to talk with your eyes is the holy grail of flirting, how to look shy, coy, confident, unsure, wanting, wistful.......if you can pull it off you can get any guy you like. The only problem can be is if they turn out to be not as perfect as you thought they were. Believe you are beautiful and you are.

Answer 5

What an interesting question.

I used to be the typical 'ugly Betty' in my early teens - braces, glasses, spots, bad hair, a bit of extra weight.
Then, I decided to do something about it; I got contact lenses, got my braces removed (now I have nice straight teeth:)), lost the weight, grew my hair long and began wearing it straight every day. Well, it suits me better. Also, my parents got promoted and so there was more money to spend on cosmetics and pretty clothes.

Now, people tell me I'm gorgeous and I receive compliments every day. Sounds great? Well, read on.

1) I live in London and so it can be quite scary to go out alone - too much guys' attention. Believe me, it sucks.
2) Even though I do have friends, you can clearly see the jealous looks on their faces, which is really quite annoying.
3) For some strange reason, certain people see you as pretentious and of lower intelligence until they get to know you.
4) I'm in high school now, soon going to uni, and even though I'm a hard-working student (in school's top 5), female teachers give me worse marks than the male ones. Prejudice and jealousy again?
5) Boyfriend? Haha. It's so much easier to find a boyfriend when you're just a 'normal' lady because you seem so much more accessible. Basically, if you don't initiate, your chance of a relationship is quite small. MOST GUYS ARE SCARED of you, they see you as out of their league.
6) Once people know you as a 'stunning' lady, you've got to keep it up, which takes time and money (hair,exercise,healthy food,shopping for clothes and cosmetics).

Yes, there are many disadvantages to it. And guess what? Personally, I still feel as insecure inside as I was in my 'ugly' times.

The advantages are:

1) The joy of looking in the mirror and loving what you see.
2) Seeing pictures of yourself:)

Beauty is only superficial, you won't find true happiness in it. On the other hand - why not use your feminine qualities and 'show 'em whatcha got'?

Answer 6

I love your question and the responses,like you my best years are behind me but can remember very well being able to turn heads when entering a room and knowing I had the power to choose who I wanted to go out with,I have been able to handle bitchiness after a hard time at school. I think that however you look there is good and bad points I lost some very handsome men because they did not like the attention I received.
I remember once being on a cruise and seeing a couple that left a lasting impression on me the man was gorgeous a Sean Connery Look alike ,the woman very plain ginger fuzzy hair thin but not shapely no make up I did not get a chance to speak to her so have no idea of personality but seemed quiet not smiley ,that man adored her he was so attentive . I have never found what she had.
I have always enjoyed myself since those dreadful school days,and I think how we feel about ourselves shows on our faces and I hope to look as good in old age as some of the stunning older ladies I have seen.
By the way I would love to know who in your opinion would you class as stunning beautiful ?

Answer 7

I never considered myself beautiful until i got to 50, since then I've felt so much more positive about myself and the upshot is I get told I'm beautiful by all sorts of guys. I still look as I did before, but I've managed to get to the stage where I'm happy with who I am, this comes across and as a result makes you more attractive as a whole person.
Its not just a perfect figure and well propotioned features that make beauty, its the personality, the smile, the warmth that you give out that makes the package.
I'd like to shift a little excess around the middle, but
I'm pretty happy as I am, and am not prepared to pander to the obsessive ideals of the media.

Answer 8

personally i have been told i am beautiful but do not think so myself. I don't have men falling at my feet but i do get attention when i go out which is nice at first but can get annoying. Beauty is not just about the way someone looks its about the personality too a man could see a stunningly beautiful women and then find out that's she is dull as dishwater. Also everybody has a different idea on what beautiful is as the saying goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 9

Well, many people tell me I am very beautiful (I would only go as far as 'very pretty' to describe myself).

It can be a pain: men keep patronising me, or hitting on me (a waste of their time!); women I don't know can be a bit catty.

And there really is an assumption that attractive people can't have brains too ... that really does piss me off.

I am planning a career in development work in rural Africa ... I was recently asked "why would a beautiful girl like you would want to do something like that?" Patronising on so many levels!

The gf of a friend of mine is THE most beautiful woman I have ever seen - she really does turn heads. She is definitely treated differently - and most people fail to notice that she also has an IQ in the high 150s and is a very talented artist; at an exhibition recently, where she had 10 wonderful paintings on display, she was asked whose model she was ...
.

Answer 10

Looks are what is gonna draw people into you in the first place but eventually after they get to know you, what's on the inside is gonna keep you being a beautiful person to them.

I know someone very close in fact she is my new sister in law, she is very pretty but now my brother in law is always calling and complaining to my husband about her. She just starts cursing at him every morning for no reason, he'll just be sleeping and she'll just start yelling at him and if she doesn't always get her way in what she wants then she curses him out again and says stuff like she never she have married him to begin with! So you see, he was so into her because of how she looked(I know this for sure because he's always been very shallow in choosing women to go out with by their looks and he only knew this one less than a month before proposing) and didn't take the time to find out more about her on the inside and so now he doesn't see her the same way as when they went out

Answer 11

I never thought that I was beautiful, but throughout my life I received so much attention and compliments that I came to accept that others saw me differently than I saw myself. I answer this question with so much trepidation because I would hate to come across as conceited. My looks have helped me in many ways, and I have used this to my advantage - they have helped me beat the nightclub queue, get served first, certainly I have been in the priviliged position of getting what I want more easily than if I was plain looking. But its also a curse. People assume you don't need any reassurance, women resent you & can instantly hate & judge you without even getting to know you. I went into a new job where the women took one look at me and made my life hell without even giving me a chance. It has meant that I have to work extra hard to be friendly or prove myself as a normal, intelligent, down to earth woman. Some of my friends would not give me compliments if we were going out because they thought I knew I looked good already, even though in my head I felt ugly and insecure and really needed someone to say, hun, you look lovely. I have had close friend's husband's crack on to me which is absolutely horrible. There have been times when the attention from men has been overwhelming and a complete pain in the ****. And trying to make a boyfriend feel secure in my past relationships has at times been impossible. It makes having a platonic friendship with a man almost impossible. I love having men as friends and have had male friends who I have been really close to and believed we had a real deep true friendship but its always ended up that they are friends with me because they want more and I am crushed each time. People say I have a beautiful face, but I don't care about that. I want them to see I have a beautiful soul but sometimes the outside package deters them from looking any further.