2007-04-07 09:26:38 · 34 answers · asked by A Real Fan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u need to forgive her no matter what, but if u take her back she would have to show remorse, and acknowledge what she did was wrong and hurt u, if not she will only do it again.
2007-04-07 09:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on your personality, the frequency and the reason why she has to cheat. You may choose to forgive or not but a prudent man will have to forgive or not depending on the mentioned factors.
You are a busy businessman or workaholic and can't have time for your wife for more than two or more weeks, do you expect her to sit there and wait for your............. as if you have the monopoly over it when she can get a helping hand from the neighbourhood. A good one indeed.
If the frequency is beyond normal, then never call her your wife. Anyone's wife would be the name that will befit her.
And if you think your wife is only for you, then ensure that she is at all times sexually satisfied.
Basing on the above facts, you go ahead either to 4give or not. Remember your turn will come to either be 4given or not.
Good Luck Boy!
2007-04-08 03:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are children involved within the dynamics of the relationship? They have to be consideration and priority with regard to your decision. If not, then it depends up on you and your ability to truly forgive. You alone will live with your decision. If you love her enough to want to work things out then she must demonstrate true remorse and must make drastic changes with regard to any and all connections and activities that enabled her to betray you. While there is never a good reason to commit adultery. Affairs occur long after trouble in the relationship have already begun to surface. There are no such things as opposite sex "friends" when it comes to a married person. That emotional bond will fast cross boundries when crisis arise. It is human nature.
2007-04-07 09:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. Whether you choose to stay with her or not is another matter. if you really love her and she you, work it out. It will take time and understanding, in part as to why she did this. I guarantee SOMETHING is wrong with her, either does not really love you or has a past issue, whether she realizes it or not. My suggestion to you - its great to talk with others if need be, but ONLY you should make the decision. don't get influenced one way or the other by all the 'experts' both on here as well as your personal life. Also don't give yourself a self imposed deadline - you will know when you are ready to make a decision, and you have the right to change it when you do make it. I've seen people think they are supposed to act right away, and later regret it. So, take your time. Best of luck to you bro.
2007-04-07 09:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by J D Jr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you love her enough to do so but also think if you was in her position would you have cheated..if so there is a problem! Also keep in mind of the revenge factor....What would you do if in a couple years after forgiving her the opportunity for you to cheat arises ..what would you do?
2007-04-07 09:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once someone has cheated on you you'll never forget about it, you may however forgive them but it will always be in the back of your mind. In my rule book, cheating the first time is the last time because if they were so easily tempted the first time it will probably happen again.....once a cheater always a cheater - just my opinion.
2007-04-07 09:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To forgive is one point. And it is important to get over a situation.
Accepting to stay in a relationship with a **** is another. If you are sure it won't happen anymore, or if you don't care, OK. If not, forgive, but do not let her make you suffer a second time.
2007-04-07 13:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by samurai196904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, once a cheater always a cheater.
I would never forgive my hubby i would have left when i found out and never returned.
I dont believe people can change on things like that, it must be very hard but you got to do what you think is right.
2007-04-07 11:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must know why she cheated on you, was you doing something wrong or not paying her enough attention. If all was well between you and you were not at fault then I would not forgive her as she will do it again. Good luck
2007-04-07 10:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is one thing. Forgetting is another. It's a painful experience even if the spouse cheats with his heart.
Megan
2007-04-07 09:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was it right to cheat?
Was it right to introduce mistrust?
If a guy forgives a cheating wife, that has to be a personal choice. I wouldn't, but that is me and I can't speak on behalf of all guys.
2007-04-07 09:30:09 · answer #11 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋