About 8 yrs ago me and my hubby used to watch porn together. That was fine untill I was working 10-12 hr days to come home and find he had been watching porn all day. This bugged me so I made a decision to pull all the porn out of the house.. I thought the problem was gone intill a few days ago I found some really nasty movies in his drawer. I watched about 2 min's of one and was so turned off at how they were degrading the girls whom looked to be about 15 yrs old..
I mentioned it to my hubby that I found the movies and his reply was that they were not his. He said his co-worker burns the movies and sales them. I do not believe him but oh well..
please give me some feedback should I just let it go and forget it or should I leave him???
pornful in cali...
2007-04-07 09:25:32 · 9 answers · asked by sissybombay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's NOT ok, and I feel that way because by him watching porn he's saying to you that your not enough for him. It's also degrading to women. You were right to get rid of all the porn. Say a guy watches porn for an hour, his mindset after watching it is gonna be, I need to get some action. About where he got those video's, it sounds like a lie to me as well.
Tell him to chose, porn or you. Because if he really loves you, he won't need porn, and that you alone should satisfy him.
2007-04-07 09:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it's your working 10-12 hours a day that left him sexually unsatisfied. And watching porn movies was his sexual outlet.
You can't leave a guy mostly alone and expect him to be happy and satisfied.
At least he didn't go out looking for sex with another woman. And if he did, then that would've been a good reason for you to leave him.
But him watching porn when you are busy all the time is fair to some extent. It's not as if you are there to keep him company.
2007-04-08 13:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is ok to watch every once in a while, but not 24/7. Your hubby is obviously depressed about something, time to find out what! Hope this helps, take care, and good luck.
2007-04-07 16:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he's not got a g/f to watch the porn with does he. He's at home where you know that the porn is all that's he's doing. You started this way of life now you have to live with it.
2007-04-07 16:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find out if he has an addiction and if those needs are no longer satisfied thru watching adults and have ventured into the taboo area of children. If this is the case leave him and don't return until he has gotten help.
2007-04-07 17:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are going to watch porn and usually what turns him on. I would suggest allowing him to do so but tell him you don't approve. If you just try to force him to stop he will probably keep on doing it.
2007-04-07 16:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn has changed in eight years.
2007-04-07 19:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
up to you and how the rest of your relationship is. If he is setting at home all day then that is it's own problem to deal with too.
2007-04-07 16:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its to late to stop it now you should have put a stop to it from the beginning. Don't condemn him if your not going to condemn yourself .
Talk to you husband and tell him that you made a mistake just like he did now you want to straiten out your morals and your life
2007-04-07 16:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋