Is it right to forgive a cheating wife even though she had sex with other man?

Answer 1

do you love her? deeply? is she sorry? deeply? would she ever do it again? did you guys marry young and you were the only one? I would say yes if she can answer all truthfully, why not? we all make mistakes, some more than others, of course forgive her....I just read uncle and he has a great way of saying it...excellent advice from him....

Answer 2

This is such a personal decision. Would you like to keep your marriage? How much do you love her? Has she ended the affair? There are so many factors to consider in this situation.

Women usually don't go looking for an affair. The affair is rarely about sex, usually about an emotional connection. It usually begins with her being unhappy at home because her needs are not being met. Then, someone starts to pay attention to her and make her feel smart, sexy, beautiful, like a woman again. This emotional affair turns to physical which turns to sexual.

What I would do is find out why she had the affair. What is she not getting from you that this other man was providing her? After an affair, there is a lot of hurt and feeling of betrayal. A great therapist will be able to help you deal with this. A therapist can also help you to communicate with her about the affair so that you can find out the "why".

She has to end the affair if the marriage even stands a chance. No ifs, and, or buts. I hope that you can come to a decision that you are happy with.

Answer 3

That's something you have to decide. Not enough room for you to put your entire situation here.
If you both love each other enough, and she is sorry enough, you could turn your love into something very strong indeed. Remember, God forgives you for your trespasses, so you should try to forgive others. Bot draw the line to being walked on.
Look into a seminar called "A Weekend to Remember" from Family Life. Or some other counseling.

Answer 4

You should separate immediately. I am serious. Don't hurt any feelings and be emotionally stable. Do go off and try to get her back. Couples should not pay back but just separate. Especially, if you already have children so they can get a good example in their life about being serious and not being a dog. Remember, anyone can show bad examples but only normal people can walk a straight line and protect themselves without payback or hurting others.

Answer 5

Only the two people involved can answer that question. Lots of couples go to counseling and heal the betrayal and rebuild trust. For others cheating is a dealbreaker and that's the end.

Answer 6

there is no right and wrong where this situation is concerned,,it is totally up to you,,you can take the fact she cheated and if you think you can forgive and work on it do so,,it is both your lives not anyone elses,,people cheat for all sorts of reasons and if you are satisfied those reasons were valid to her and she knows she was wrong AND she is willing to try to rebuild your trust in her ,you have to look into your heart and listen to what it tells you.when all of your being knows you can never trust her again there is no point at all in trying to work it out,,,what is it they say??? 'know thyself'. do what makes you happy because you only get one shot,,dont waste it!

Answer 7

I forgave mine but it took time and I mean TIME!
I almost divorce her but when I was separated from her I got some almost every night, and am sad to say I rubbed that in wife face while she was trying to save our marriage!
Not proud of my action, and my wife and I always ask each other are we happy, and if not what can we do to make one another happy!
It's the SCARIEST question you can ask spouse, because theres going to be an answer, but if your will to work at your marriage then you can weather it!

Answer 8

of course, everyone needs a second chance. we're not all perfect. forgive and forget. try to convinced your wife to start a new life in other places, which is far from the place where she made a mistake. one more, try to ask yourself "when was the last time that i told her "i love you"."

Answer 9

You can be the bigger person, it take guts to forgive, if you love you'll forgive. Etc, etc.etc.
NO, verbally you might forgive but you will never forget and that means you are not forgiving.

Answer 10

Forgiveness is always right!!! The pain unforgiveness causes will ultimitly hurt you far worse than it will the one who you won't forgive. We harbor feelings that destroy us, so then it is no longer someone else we can blame, but ourselves! Each man(or woman) must be prepared for whatever Karma they have created for themselves. Whatever it is that your wife has done, she will be held responsible for and if their is unforgiveness on your part; then that, you will be held responsible for!