I am an ordinary 15 year old girl and I live with my mum, step dad and 2 younger brothers (3 and 4 years old) my mum tends to get very stressed out about my brothers and uses me as her punch bag to take it all out on! It has come to a point whereby I can’t take it anymore. She physically abuses me and threatens not to tell anyone. I have thought about moving out but everyone says that it is not as easy as it looks. Has anyone got any information about how I can live in the ymca or in a hostel until I am 16? Or any advice on what to do in the mean time?
2007-04-07 08:07:07 · 46 answers · asked by Priyanka R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you thought of contacting Social Services so that they can look into the abuse and put you somewhere safe. If you need to talk to someone in complete confidence, have you considered speaking to the Samaritans.
2007-04-07 08:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that you are enduring the treatment that you are experiencing. You are doing the right thing by asking for help. But don't stop here. I would suggest that you look in the blue or yellow pages of your local phonebook for abuse hotlines. Don't worry about finding the right number the first time you call because if you happen to reach the "wrong" crisis center, the chances are very good that they can provide you with a number to call. I really wish I can talk you through this but you ARE doing the right thing. Please persist in your plans. It sounds like a truly unhealthy atmosphere. Your brothers may be acting in response to having endured the same type of abuse you are going through. I'll pray for you and don't give up. Have faith.
2007-04-07 08:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad used to hit me when i lived at home. As soon as i was of age to legally leave home, i started making enquiries into housing. I'm warning you, people won't sake you seriously. You have to ask around, social services, citezens advice bureau, school, helplines ect. A few months later, I came across a charity called Foyer who are a charity dealing with young people with housing difficulties. They gave me a gorgeous new flat to myself in a block with a lot of other young people in the same situation as me. They also sorted out benefits for me, so i didn't have to worry about it.
the secret is to persevere and NEVER GIVE UP! there are people out there who can help you, its just a matter of finding them. You may also find that there is a long waiting list and, this sounds really bad, but you might have to exaggerate how bad your situation is to get any help fast.
Good Luck, and remember, don't give up
x
2007-04-08 08:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really sad what you are going trough, I think is time for you to call d.c.f on your mom, ask for a counselor department of children's and family, is there a welfare office around where you live? I'm sure it is go there and explain to someone that your mom hits on you do she leave marks? you need to show some kind of physical mark you are going to have to prove that you are being abused record her tantrums on you. and take it with you,.you are a big girl you can handle this they may find you a relative or a foster home or some kind of program that will allow you to leave your mothers house, but the key word here is PROOF you have to be able to prove this abuse. now go to work do what is best for you get the proof and build an abuse case on your mom. good luck hon.
2007-04-07 08:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you can just move out at age 15 to the YMCA, as you're a minor. You might discuss the situation with a councellor at school. If you're being abused, there are hotlines that you can call.
2007-04-07 14:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any family that lives near go to them...if you can stay with them that would be great! You need to get away from the situation before it gets more serious, and something tragic happens....There is help out there. Call CPS or the police they can place you somewhere else. Call a hotline for domestic or physical abuse.
2007-04-07 08:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that house asap, you also need to tell someone what has been going on. You may be the oldest child in the house but you are still only 16. Get help now so that you can get on with your life. I did'nt get out it went on for years, I have been out of the family home now almost 11yrs and im still in counselling. Please trust me you dont want this to take over this rest of your life! The longer it go's on, the longer it takes for you to love yourself or anyone else ever again. Good luck and take care
2007-04-08 03:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by meep meep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
I'm so sorry to hear of your situation, But its something that you really can't ignor.
You really need to get some help, not only it's taking an effect on you now, but it will effect you in the future.
This isnt fair whats happening to you, its very wrong.
Please try the link I have given you or call the freeline number.
you dont have to give your name until you want to.
Maybe by you getting some help, will help you a great deal and could also help your mother, and you wont have to leave home.
So please make that first step, and put yourself first.
Good luck, and take care
2007-04-07 12:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by tassimo_lady_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get out that house staying there and getting hurt isn't making anyone better [ I would know ] your mom needs help you don't deserve that but whatever you do you need to get out even if that means telling what if she hits you to hard and you stop breatheing or something what will happen then? I think that you should get someone to really help you get out of the house because it's not a good suition to live in.. if you want to discuss more e-mail me at el3q4ntx@yahoo.com .. Hope things work out well.
2007-04-07 08:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you ARE being physically abused file a police report. The state CAN REMOVE you from the household and place you in a state home. (Foster care) And they can even charge your mom with the assault. BUT the biggest thing here is to put a STOP to the abuse. Good Luck.
2007-04-07 08:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋