How do i deal with my desperate husband who is making moves after i file a divorce?

Question

For 5yrs plus,my relationship with my indifferent husband never improve but only got worsen.Thot d same as otrs,marriage wil turn out ok especially wen blessed wif our lil one who is 4 tis year.Instead of ironing out the issues,trying to find root causes of our differences,he choose to paint pictures to family n frens.I was in tramendous pain n hurt to c him behave meek n weak not daring nor wanting to confront our issues.Tried numerous times talking 2 him,but end up getting no where as he sees no fault of his but stating his own tune.He uses soft approach n that even freaks me even more!!Everything is routine.He works 9-6pm.Lots of time at home to save money.A miser n do not understand to gain more in Gods word,u'l have to give n share wif d others.Slp by 11pm.Laze n not help me wif hswrk,both slp in seperate rm n not'v intimacy let alone sex for 4yrs.Takes baby gal outings on weekends,play an hour n thats enuf as a father besides d provider in monotery?Nw plays Angel suddenly!!!

Answer 1

He has realized that divorce is going to cost him alot more then trying to patch up the marriage with alimony and child support etc. It would be alot easier for alot of people if you actually spelled out the words rather then using abbreviations or computer lingo because not everyone understands this crap. Anyways your husband is trying to act human so he doesn't end up losing you and his daughter personally he is doing not enough to late. He should have considered that his actions would turn out this way in the end and well he has destroyed any possible chance of you wanting to reconcile the marriage. When are men going to realize that bringing home the bacon is not enough to keeping a marriage and a family happy? It seems like he just let you do everyhting and sat on his as s and helped out when he felt like it or you nag him into it. He is pathetic and you and your daughter deserve a man and a father figure that enjoy's being around you and doing things to help keep everything running smoothly.

God Bless and Best Wishes

Answer 2

God Bless You! You are a caring, compassionate person to do what you are doing, in light of what you wrote about your bastard husband. Good for you for filing for divorce. If he comes after you just call the cops. He is a bottom feeder. Here you are taking care of his mother for 16 years and he is abusive to you---------that is going to come back to him and bit him in the as*. She is not your responsibility, but I understand your concern for her well-being. If it was me, I would take her with me----when you move out and if your nerves can take it, continue to care for her. I know it is an awful strain on you, but unless you put her in a nursing home, it doesn't sound like she will be taken care of by her ****** of a son. God Bless you. I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

That was very hard to read and very hard to understand.

I don't think I understood the reference to him playing an Angel suddenly? What's changed?

Some people 'change' or appear to change once they know they have really lost. Sometimes they are just doing and saying what you want to hear to get what they want.

You deal with him, by putting your child first. If he's making moves on you, set boundaries. If his moves about about being a better father, that will only help your daughter.

The bigger question is, what do you want? And how do you make that happen?

Answer 4

Good Lord! What are you talking about?

In the English language, there's a reason for punctuation, capital letters, and even spell check.

They're designed to make a document more easily read and clearly understood.

Please consult your notes from 3rd grade English class and post again.

Answer 5

You don't...refer him to your attorney. Caller ID or answer machine screening works.

Answer 6

use the spell check and try again also stop smoking weed

Answer 7

hooked on phonics worked for me