My husband recently got a high profile job in the entertainment business, and now women call him all the time looking for a job, or trying to get in good with him. When we go to a restaurant we can't even have a private meal without people coming to the table to talk. He was in charge of hiring models during one event, and now he gets barraged with offers to be the new models. I am just not sure how to handle all this attention. I get attention on my own, its not that. It just I am not used to being in the spotlight and being looked at and talked about. I am shy. I just feel like some of these women just see dollar signs when they see him. Any advice would be appreciated.
2007-04-07 06:13:04 · 11 answers · asked by casey308 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It appears you are like many in the limelight your husband is a successful person in a documented industry and well the perks will never outweigh the constant scrutiny of the press and the other people in the industry or trying to get in. You now know how it feels to be a celebrity. Just explain to your husband when he is out with you business is on the back-burner. If he is begged or bothered when he is out with you just get him tell these people he is off the clock and
bothering now is not a good idea to further there career.
This should hopefully stop this badgering by these people.
2007-04-07 06:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he feel the same way you do? If so, agree to responses to people who interrupt you. As in the restaraunt example, 'I don't discuss business while enjoying private time with my wife" or your response, "my husband and I are celebrating a very personal event, please call his office so we can resume our time together' type of thing. If the attention to him is new, he might enjoy it in the beginning as it is flattering, but he will grow tired of it very soon. I'd also suggest discussing with him that other inappropriate offers will be made to him due to his status and discuss with him how you two plan on handling it. For example, if a woman offers him sex, how do you want him to respond and how do you want him to tell you about it when it happens.
2007-04-07 06:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by J D Jr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "I think I should forgive him." Should and want to are two different things. Do you want to forgive him, or do you think you have to forgive him? Forgiving is what God wants us to do. It is easier said than done. When a person forgives everything is let go, the anger, the hurt, humiliation etc. True forgiveness is there when you no longer have negative feelings about what you were hurt by. In a case like this, maybe you don't want to forgive him. Maybe what is keeping you from forgiving him is that you feel you have to forgive him. Maybe deep down you feel you want some kind of revenge against him, some type of punishment for bringing all this pain upon you and this is your way of getting back at him; by not forgiving. Pray for the grace from God to help you find it in your heart to forgive. It is our human nature to find it difficult to forgive someone, especially when you have felt so violated. Maybe it would also help if you had a long chat w/you ex about what you are going through. Maybe that will help you see things from another point of view & maybe that will help in some odd way to help you find the forgiveness you wish to grant.
2016-05-19 04:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by antoinette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. My boyfriend plays basketball and when women come up to him for autographs and pictures I just step back because their his fans but there are times when women come up trying to get at him right in front of my face but he deals with that so I don't start to feel insecure. So you have to let him no how you feel with things not being like they were before and you'll can agree on a way to deal with it so you'll be more secure with this situation.
2007-04-07 06:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has this job because he knows what he is doing, trust him, he realizes what these women are doing. Let him deal with it, he is your husband talk to him, if he realizes it is bothering you this much, he'll do something about it, especially when you are having a private meal. He'll get tired of the interruptions eventually and put his foot down. Good luck
2007-04-07 06:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. let him know that you are not trying to make him feel guilty for his wonderful job but you are just not used to all of the attention and would like to have private time with him so if he could help you out and let people know that when they come up to him that would help you out.
2007-04-07 06:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to hire me ill take care of the woman for him
2007-04-07 06:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably do see him as dollar signs,, go with it,, he should also only give out a work phone number and not take it with him when it is just you and him,
2007-04-07 06:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that the damn gold-diggers are like parasites with breasts.
I would answer the phone yourself, take his messages for him, ask them "what does this concern?"
2007-04-07 06:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by poweranni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He is the one who has to let these women know right away that "HE HAS OFFICE HOURS"
2007-04-07 06:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋