I have 2 married daughters....one in another state and one only an hour and 15 minute drive from me (the youngest). She won't visit me but on Christmas as she blames me for not being a good mother. I think I did the best I could under the circumstances.....I got a card recently saying she forgives me but I dont' think anything will change....what can I do as I won't live forever.
2007-04-07 05:53:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Has she had kids of her own yet? Parenthood is a real good eye opener for kids who thought they had the worst parents in the world. Offer to meet her half way, for lunch maybe. That way you at least let her know that you are open to a relationship with her. We all make mistakes. We do the best we know how to do at the time. When we know better, we do better. A mothers love is unconditional, even when our hearts are breaking. Let the past remain in the past. Don't bring it up. Start new. Accept what ever she can give, and give what you can give..but only what you can give without giving up your ideals ,your soul....but let go of past hurts. If she asks specific questions, be completely truthful in your answers, I doubt that she really knows why you did what you did or did not do....what kid does? Good luck.
2007-04-07 06:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but I can offer advice. I would sit down and talk to her. Tell her you can't change the past, but you can only move forward and make the best of the present and future. If you did your best, that is all you could do. I do not think apologies are in order for that. My mom and I had a terrible relationship. Only I was the oldest. I caught the heat for alot of things. It was a very abusive up bringing. It hurt worse cause she did not treat my younger sister that way. Now, we have a fantastic relationship, I have a 4 year old daughter now and I am all "grown" up. I became disabled due to strokes and seizures, she helps me so much. I live in the apartment above her as a matter of fact. They live in the house, and my boyfriend, daughter and I live in the apartment above. I don't dwell on the past, I just thank the Lord that we have the relationship we do today. I hope I was able to help a bit. I wish you all the luck with your family, and I will pray for yous. I hope you don't mind. Good luck hun. :D
2007-04-07 06:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what she perceived as what went wrong. family counseling maybe?..why does your youngest feel like you need to be forgiven for something maybe its a misunderstanding..
2007-04-07 05:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋