I am 27 yrs old and my hubby is 35 we have been married 6 yrs not so happily he cheated and i cheated to get back at him (but he did not know that till recently).The affair calls into question the paternity of my 2 kids (twins) .Been seperated from hubby 1.5 yrs now and not spoken in 4 months.He came home to attack me (black eye swollen face) because he found out about the affair.The man i had an affair with is an ex.bf from HS who is a mechanic from another town owns a shop.I have no clue how hubby found out because my ex.bf for his own personal reasons never told.So it would have to be one of the men that works their?I want to find out who so he gets fired!
2007-04-07 05:33:39 · 14 answers · asked by Carrie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I only had one affair!not a whore!
2007-04-07 05:39:00 · update #1
There are no grounds for dismisal here.
None.
Its up to YOU to keep your affairs private.
Part of that is chosing people who you think
will be discrete. There is no patron/mechanic
confidentiality.
2007-04-07 05:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It is wrong to find out and cause problem for the person. It was your mistake to take revenge and do the same thing as your husband was doing to you. That was the cheapest thing to do. Sorry for that but you don't put yourself in a very lowly situation because you want revenge. That pertains to your husband and this informer. Take hold of yourself and lead a good life. Don't cause yourself more problem.
2007-04-07 12:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you called the cops on that ******! NO ONE has the right to put their hands on you, even if you're married to them.
Chances are, you don't know everyone that knows about your secret..............it could have been one of your friends or relatives that told your husband.
Regardless. Get a paternity test and a divorce.
No sense in raising kids in a dysfunctional home.
2007-04-07 12:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go.........You never payback evil for evil. It goes on forever. What your husband did was wrong and what you did was wrong. You both were wrong. You even more wrong because of your intentions behind it. You wanted to hurt someone. Well, now you both are hurt. To top it off you might have gotten pregnant by the person. It was your fault your husband got mad at you. Not the person that told. Take the blame lady!!! Wow!!! This is a Jerry Springer episode.........
2007-04-07 12:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by operationspiritlift 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge won't help anyone. You messed up, which don't mean you aren't a good person. Chalk up your mistake to just what it was. You certainly don't need an abusive man either. Try to go on with your life in a decent way and be a good Mother to your darling children. God gave them to you to take care of. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-07 12:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are angry but you and your husband did this to yourselves,,,this tell tale did not make your ex beat you up,,he did not make the paternity be in question,all he did was tell and people do that when they feel something should be told.let it go because it wont change anything or make anything better for you and the more energy you waste on this adventure the worse you will feel and closure will be harder to reach.him being fired wont really effect you so nothing good can come of it.
2007-04-07 13:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the kids tested as not his you should have denied, denied, denied. Rumors are cheap and many times false. Skip the vindictive stuff. Admit to yourself that you cheated because your marriage was not good (the same reason he did) and make the man start taking those kids off your hands and become part of his life (frees up time for you and makes for healthier kids) Please have your tubes tided, or learn how to use triple protection (pill, spermicide, condom)
2007-04-07 12:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This whole situation STINKS!!! Since he was unfaithful you decided you could be too!? How immature and childish! Two wrongs make everything all right?What about the kids?Regardless of who the Dad is,you should be thinking of them first and not yourself,ex-husbands or swinging partners! GROW UP! Find out who the father is and make him pony up! Not for your sake but for the KIDS!!
2007-04-07 12:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by Coffeeman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had the affair with the guy, you got beat up and now you think the guy told and you want him fired? Why would that guy tell on you? Think about it? He would have gotten beat up by the same person who beat you up, so it would have been stupid for him to tell. someone else found out about your affair and told!
2007-04-07 12:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated too then oh well move on. Get a paternity test. You want to ruin someone elses life because he gossiped? What if he has a family to feed?
2007-04-07 12:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋