Okay i am 22 and going to graduate from college in the upcoming months! i have been married for about 2 yrs happily.I have a 3.5 yr old son from a prior relationship before i met my hubby.Only 3 people aside from me new who my sons father was my parents and i told my husband when he asked me about it when my son moved in with us 10 months ago.He apparently new my son's bio-father from highschool plus they had been buddy's but he promised not to say anything to anyone.His buddy (also my son's bio-dad)invited us to his wedding 2 months ago and talked my hubby into flying out with us back to nj.I did not want to go but my hubby said he had already rsvp.During a wedding rehersal it came out(fight) what my secret was and that my hubby had cheated on me with the bride 6 months into our marriage?How could my hubby cheat on me?
2007-04-07 05:06:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am starting to think the reason he wanted to go to the wedding was for her!
2007-04-07 05:13:11 · update #1
How interesting............
Both you and your current husband sampled the goods from your ex and his bride.
Why are you ashamed of your son's father?
Does he NOT know he's the dad?
Your husband does owe you an explanation of why he cheated on you. And why he felt the need to humiliate you in front of strangers.
I hope you two can get past this and not be another statistic waiting for your day in divorce court.
2007-04-07 05:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a swamp of issues here, which seem to be blending into each other. (1) Now it's out whose child your son is. Ok. Everyone knew it was someone. Now they can all get over it. Since this guy is not involved in the son's life, it doesn't matter much, and your husband has decided to take the boy on, so that's a done deal. Try not to linger on that detail. (2) It's way more serious that your husband cheated on you 6M into your marriage. Was the bride already involved with the other guy? Oh well, at least he has something to be upset about now too. A year and a half has gone by since the affair. The big question now is: is he over it? She's no longer available, but other women are, so is he committed to your relationship? It clearly is not healthy to remain friends with these folks since there's all kinds of history between you. I'd say you have to stay completely away from them henceforth. Since you're young and I assume your husband is too, I'd say he deserves one (but only one) more chance. If he pulls this again when you've been married, say, 7 years, then you need to leave, or accept living in an open marriage. Good luck.
2007-04-07 05:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Erik W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just not very loyal. I don't think your secret about your son's paternity was as big as a discretion as your hubby's infidelity. Obviously he is not into the marriage-thing. You might want to consider divorce.
2007-04-07 05:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Harlan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a major problem. Instead of wondering how it happened I would focus on where to go from here. If you can still live with him or if you need a separation -that is where my focus would be.
2007-04-07 05:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by luminous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you got what you needed,a swift kick in the rear.You should have told him about the dad before you got married.It is called keeping secrets,bet you wish you had told him then.
2007-04-07 06:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband is an idiot...
good luck with that
2007-04-07 05:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋