Pregnant and VERY miserable...please HELPP????

Question

Im 17 years old and almost 18 weeks pregnant! Im at that point where im SO miserable..i havent been eating right and im probably not getting as much sleep as i need to be. Im constantly throwing up. Everytime im hungry i try to make something to eat, but i always feel sick when im cooking it, then when its done i dont want it anymore. On top of all that..im "big" for 18 weeks!! Im sick of wearing sweat pants and everytime i go to the store people ask me if im 6 or 7 months pregnant (im normally thin and petite) which really makes me mad!! I dont even like going out in public anymore because i look young for my age so people like to stare at me because im pregnant. Does anyone have any advice or anything??? I dont know how im going to get through this until i have this baby..i still have a while to go! I dont know if i can do it????

Answer 1

first of all, since you are still getting sick you shouldn't be "cooking" much since the act of cooking makes you nauseated. eat a lot of fresh food if possible. fruit and vegetables, sandwiches, salads. or even like microwaveable food. anything that you don't have to stand over and get sick about.
also, don't worry about how you look. i think that pregnant bellies are one of the most beautiful things there are! i bet my husband gets sick of me always pointing out pregnant bellies. you have to embrace the beauty of pregnancy. you have to feel beautiful about yourself or you will be miserable.

i hope you'll be able to stay positive and eat well and have a healthy baby.

Answer 2

Slow down and take care of yourself. Stress can really make morning sickness worse! Keep some easy snacks on hand to munch on when you get hungry as cooking on an empty stomach will make you more queasy.

As for people, pregnancy tests should come with ear plugs!!! You will hear comments and get advice for months to come. Even after the baby is born, in fact! I have four kids and I'm still getting the comments and unsolicited advice. Makes me mad, too. The best advice I have is to perfect your non-commital nod and smile and let it all go in one ear and out the other. It's really none of anybody's business how old you are, etc. If I were you, I'd probably have a really good time answering, "Twelve and a half, why?"

Try to meet some other expectant moms who are due about the same time so you have some people who know what you are going through and understand when you just need to let off some steam. Or email me...I'm available for advice (but only if you ask for it) or a shoulder to cry on.

Answer 3

I'm almost 18 weeks too=) I know how miserable you feel. I actually slept 3 hours last night and it feels like a whole nights sleep...lol. Instead of sweat pants have you tried looking online at maternity from old navy?? They have cute clothes which arent that expensive. Remember your not "big" your pregnant!! I have to tell myself that everyday lol. If people want to judge you then let them. Who cares what anyone else thinks? You can do it.....you've come this far. Your almost halfway done. I know the throwing up is awful. Nothing ever sounds good to me either. I drink some ginger ale and then have some soup if I'm really sick. You'll be fine....take a deep breath. When you get sick try laying down or just getting fresh air. I know we can do it!! We're almost half done!!

Answer 4

hey, i was a teen mom and i know what it feels like to be young and pregnant and miserable on top of that. as if being a young mom isnt enough stress. but hey, you know some pregnancies can be real good, some real bad. but if you are big how you say, you should think of it this way. if your doctor says baby is ok, then you're doing good, your providing the nutrients for you baby. but what you should try to do is try to have some one help you make meals, or have little snacks inbetween. that way you at least eating and if you dont eat a big meal, you have at least ate. i know you know this already. doctors say it all the time. but you know if you dont take care of yourself, your baby isnt gonna grow and get its nutrients. the baby depends on you to do everything. you gotta protect your baby. and if you're not feeling well then who will do it?? try to eat a few snacks through out the day. see how it works. i hope and wish the best for you. oh and forget all them people with the stares and comments. they dont do nothing for you! and your are not the first and not the last. keep your head up. and dont let anyone bring you down, be a young mom, and be the best mom. shut their mouths. society feeds off of everyone else's lives, but they aint no better. when they start doing things for you then let them talk, but dont listen. in one ear and out the other, just take it one day at a time. its your life. not theirs.

Answer 5

First off, I'm going to sound very mean.

GET OVER YOURSELF! You did the deed and you got pregnant, end of story. You have to realize that some womens bodies develop very differently during pregnancy and that sometimes that means getting bigger at an earlier stage. You had to of known that when your pregnant your going to have to change what you wear eventually, so why not go ahead and get used to the different clothing now.

Also, the stress your putting on your body is not healthy. That could be one of your biggest reasons you can't eat. I say you need to calm down and think about the baby growing inside of you. I know that its hard being 17 and pregnant, I am 18 pregnant, and left my husband all in the short time I have been pregnant(22 wks). Also, what kinds of foods are you trying to eat? Certain foods put off a smell that makes you sick to your stomach and unable to eat them. Try eating foods such as fruits and veggies, at least you know that what you are eating is healthy.

At the beginning of my pregnancy I lost 15 lbs and have only gained 5 of that back, and you know what I wish I was larger, so that way I had something to show. I hate being the tiniest pregnant girl where I work, because everyone else is so big.

Also, during your pregnancy, since your body is going through changes it's hard to sleep sometimes. So you need to calm down yourself before you go to sleep. Prop up pillows around you if you need to. Do anything you can and get as much sleep as you can.

As for the people that ask you questions, say no my baby is just big for her age and walk away, you don't have to provide them anymore information! It's none of their buisness, and who cares if you look young, some people are going to talk no matter what so you might as well give them something to talk about.

Answer 6

my daughter is 17 and 13 weeks pregnant (today)...her belly is big, too...the doctor said because she was tall and thin she is "showing" faster...she's been starting to feel "sick", too...do you have support?? family, friends, baby's daddy??? that's really important...you should try to eat 6 small meals a day, so you don't get too hungry...try snacking on something you like-not too salty, or sweet...at this point, i let my daughter eat whatever she wants, because she's only gained a pound...she's been taking tums when she feels "yucky", and GAS X...helps a little...sleep/rest is VERY important...do not worry about what other people think...my daughter looks older (around 19), so it's not really an issue for her...just hold your head up high, and feel special that you were chosen to be a mom...GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

I feel for you. I didn't have the ideal pregnancy either. Don't worry, it'll get better. Why don't you try eating healthy stuff that you don't have to cook? Your baby does need the nutrition. It's VERY important that you take care of yourself and eat, because he/she is depending on YOU. Just be strong! It will be over. And don't worry about the weight. I gained almost 60 pounds with my kids. You just have to exercise and get in shape. Just smile at all those stupid people. They don't really think how their coment make you feel. Just ignore them.

I know you can do it and stick it through. You know how I know? Because I did it. And if I can do it, so can you!
Please, email me if you want to talk.
The best of luck to you and your new one!

Answer 8

Go to your doctor and tell him you are sick alot. There is a drug called phenogrin. It wil make you sleep for a while but when you get up you won't be sick and you can eat. As for cloths go get you some maternity cloths. You will feel tones better. As for people staring don't worry about it you enjoy your self. Good Luck. P.S. It'll be over before you know it.

Answer 9

I want you to start eating right I know at times that the smell just wants to make you barf but it will pass every woman is different so i don't want to tell you that in a few weeks it will past, it may not i could not stand the smell of beef the whole time i was pregnant. with my 1st but with 2ND pregnancy food was my best friend. carry crackers with you. that will help with the queasiness. if you crave something then get it because it's that Little's one desire and we want to keep her/him happy. Next I want to to stop dwelling on that dead beat you don't need that stress. try cooking a bunch of different meals and then just heat them up when your hungry

Answer 10

I think what you are feeling is normal, your emotions are a roller coaster ride, on top of that you are very yong as this puts extra preasure on you as well. Trust me My wife of 17 years and I had our 1st child at 18 so i speak from experience and remember my wife feel the same. Just make sure you go to your check ups and try to get rest..it is no longer about you anymore. best of luck to you