my fiance and i have been going out for two years, i love him sooo much. He's perfect, sweet, kind, loving understanding and a genius in Columbia medical school currently doing residence at 24. He is goreuous 6'9, broad sholders, tan, black hair, blue eyes, in amazing shape. One problem he is a virgin, by choice philosophical/religous reasons.I lied to him and said i was. He is Catholic, doesn't act holier than thou and very understanding. A friend of mine dated him for a while she told him that she wasn't a virgin from the start, they were together for awhile, she said he was wonderful, understanding and always a gentlemen she said he said it happens, id be lying if i said i didnt wish you were, but love you and thats what matters, she wants him back and she knows i lied. Anyway, we were dating for two months and he told me I though he was kidding and said i was. its true friends told me, and i lied more i was scared. I love him so much. this week made me feel awful
2007-04-07 03:43:07 · 8 answers · asked by blondebabe24x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i feel awful. i met his family the were nice to me. He was always standoffish about this family. I did know till after i met them and asked what was so bad about them. He was beaten (he had and order of protection against his father at 10) and neglected as a child didnt have many friend through him out of the house a couple times. he said that i asked his older brother said he was the only one this happend to. and his parents forced him to work his way through school when they could easily afford to pay. We stopped a beach hes from the gold coast of long island. We talked and he was saying how much he trusted me and loved me and he though he never could love or trust anyone. This was the first time he brought up my virginity saying he never though he would find a girl who was and how amazing it was that i am a virgin and how special it is. then he threw his arms around me kissed me and held me. Ok what should i do should i fake it
2007-04-07 03:43:19 · update #1
I used to bring it up and say i was. I would call the wedding off if he lied to me that much. We have slept together no sex though, i felt safe and loved. I have been with about 13 guys. though when we slept together i could feel that he is a very big man, i think i may tear if i got on top of him and was a bit rough, plus i have shrink a bit from not having sex for two tears. But hes a Doctor, though he is a childrens doctor at St.mary's its a hospital for abandoned and ophaned children, i kno. could he still tell though.
I love him i dont think he would break up with me, but i think he would be really hurt, and want some time alone i saw something at his place about doctors without border. I dont want to lose him.
2007-04-07 03:43:33 · update #2
You could:
a) Not tell him and live with the lie forever. (think you could do that?)
or
b) Tell him the truth. If he truly loves you, he will forgive you. Just explain everything you just told us.
Good luck.
2007-04-07 04:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lied and therefore are a liar. That you keep lying to him is horrible way to treat someone you claim to love. Sooner or later it will get out and he will know what type of person you really are. Tell him the truth now and let the chips fall where they may. Don't wait until after you are married, otherwise your marriage will be hurt and it will be your fault. Is that really what you want, to trap a man?
2007-04-07 03:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i almost sleep while reading your problem here, but the only thing that sink in to my mind is you lied and he is still a virgin. you know telling the truth will set you free, ok you love him so much but then he must love you also with his heart whoever you are wether your virgin or not. and if he will change after knowing the truth then you are not really meant for each other. accept and move on. there is someone for you. good luck
2007-04-07 03:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by taurust_girl27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do is tell him the truth.He might be angry and break up but he will come back to you.If you are truly willing to becomea virgin you can do that.Don't worry.Your love will surely win.
2007-04-07 04:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool
2007-04-07 03:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth... if you want the relationship to go anywhere, you have to be completely honest. If he loves you like you love him... he will understand.
2007-04-07 03:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by arkansas_white_boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt have to lie if he truly loves you two shoudl be able to get past this, you must get this cleared up before you say "i do" if you dont you will regret it. its better he hear it from u than someone else.
2007-04-07 03:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your screwed good luck
2007-04-07 04:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by cwilsonhappylife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋