what can you do if your lonely and long for the company and love of an attractive young girl?

Question

im 29 have psychological problems, so its not easy for me to just find someone.
never really made any friends in life.
the type of gurl i want or prefer, that id like to meeet is: a girl in her 20s, quite plump, but not excessively big, white (caucasian) and very pale complexion.
im worried ill never find this gurl with these requirements.

i get very low, depressed and down about this, i also have clingyness issues with girls to, which always frightens em away

thanks for the answers but some folks dont get it. looks are important.
i do want a girl with those physicall requirements, nothing else, so stop telling me it shouldnt matter because to me, it does

white plump gurls rule yeah! if i dont get one, then i'll die a lonely old man, because i wont accept anything else.
thanks

Answer 1

Hi,

You'll be able to find someone the criteria you've outlined above arent that hard to fulfil. I think you should think more about the kind of personality you'd like.

I reckon online dating sounds like a good idea. or maybe you could join some clubs or do something you enjoy in groups, then you may meet women with similar interests who you can be friends with before you find someone to love you :)

hope all works out well for you

Answer 2

Awwe. I'm sure you'll find someone, and there are plenty of girls who actually like clingyness. You could always try online dating, but that might not work, considering most of the people on there are 50 year old men... You could always just go out around your town/city and look around, or just hang out at places where girls you're interested in could be. Like, if you want a wilder girl, go to a club, intellectual, go to a library, etc.
Good luck. :)

Answer 3

'clingyness issues with girls to, which always frightens em away' .......yes that is so so 1 big prob bro
and dont idealise the right dream girl, life just dosnt happen that way,.......my advice is so out ur psychological problems that is bagagge....then start socialising with what ever friends u have got (drag them out)........or join up clubs dont be shy in talking to new people make the first move to talk everybody is new and in no time u will meet somebody.....goodluck

Answer 4

Maybe you could just look for a girl with very pale skin?

I mean anybody could pretty much get a little plump. and you could learn how to cook really great and do the whole Hanzel and Gretel thing!

Answer 5

get a good lubricant and d.i.y.

is the next best thing for the calming down the desires.

i am coming to 37 and realised is best for me to appreciate the loneliness for the moment and til then when there is a suitable woman then i consider settling down as i am very poor and also has mental problems.

luckily the medications work except feeling dizzy most of the time.

if in the future i become a bachelor after 40, i still will observe the above as it is the best option for me after these few years of experience.

mercury of love

Answer 6

Your first hurdle is learning to realize the humanity within each woman. You're boxed this perfect outer picture like you're opening up a Sears Catalog and asking for a Television set.

We call this 'objectifying'. Most say men objectify women ... however when you study the effects of objectification, the man who objectifies hurts himself MORE than he does the woman. You are saying that you're not worth the other qualities a woman has, and in turn you expect her to treat you with the same level of humanity that you treat her --- there by reducing yourself and not her.

Find the humanity inside yourself ... what traits you have that are great intangible qualities ... harvest these and you will meet up with a person you are incapable of imagining that will enhance your life instead of belittle it (as you now desire).

"They" say that we search for a mate with whom can "Cure" us of our pain. So when meeting with women, ask questions and LISTEN ... you might have a solution to something that caused them pain ... in return they may sooth some of your pain.

Answer 7

When you get older, are you going to change the requirement about her being in her 20s? I would be depressed too, if I told myself looks were that important. You know we are all going to age and eventually look very different. We all have to try and face that reality.

I don't know of any woman who will tolerate what you are saying here. You would rather die alone than deal with changing appearances?

Answer 8

You want an overweight girl, that's cool of you, most men only like the super skinny ones. Trust me, a lot of big women are single, white in their 20s and pale. Go out on the street and see how many you can count. Online also. Trust me girls like that don't get a lot of attention !!
\/ GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

I think you should be looking for someone with a good heart than someone with the looks you want.

You want someone who understands you, and will stand by you. Plump, thin, black, white, short, tall is not what makes a good relationship.

Good luck with your search.

Answer 10

Try on line dating, there must be sites for the larger women, I am sure there is someone wonderful out there just for you