Do you retreat to the same room as your Spouse or Partner at night & live with a lack of intimacy????

Question

THIS does NOT include a physical relationship necessarily, but closeness. And if so, how well can you cope with it????or are yuat your wits end????

Answer 1

Not always...sometimes we're not even sleeping in the same room! Our relationship has been a platonic one for a very long time. Alcohol killed it and his mental problems sealed the lid on the coffin.

Answer 2

Yeah, girl, I feel you. The man was EVERYTHING I ever wanted in a man when we got together and he had a million questions for me. This resulted in me only asking a few things of him - I need a constant 2. Spiritual connection and 1. Sexual connection. Well. Maybe things will get better, I mean it will be 2 years in a month. So far, I have been SHOCKED by the lack of intimacy.

The way that I cope with it is to remove all expectations of HIM. I keep up the expectations of MYSELF. I don't initiate or flirt as much. I give him loads of space and I pray alot that God will allow our drives to be more similar. He's answered. Things have been better, but still not where I hope for. I joined the Yahoo! group S.W.A.G.E. (swage). Look it up, darlin.

Peace.

Answer 3

When my husband is home at the same time I am,I will follow him from room to room. What ever he wants to do I join in.Even if I do not want to. We see each other so little.He works nights and I go to school days. Saturday is usually the only day we have together so I try to spend the whole day with him. We've been married 30 years and I still don't tire of his company.

Answer 4

yes I did.. BTW, I just added you to my contacts because I would like to talk to you..I sense many similarities in your life with mine, well, in my past life.... I had a bad relationship and had gone through most of the situations you describe in your questions.

Lack of intimacy is lack of love, lack of passion is lack of care, lack of touch is lack of closeness, cold heart does cold things. Sex is important and closeness is essential to any relationship. any relationship....!

if your companion denies you closeness, (not sex) is a sure sign that he does not love you. if sex between you is nonexistent or one sided cold, he does not love you.

What I am trying to say is that is not normal to live with someone and not be close. You do not COPE with it, is more like you do not PUT UP with it..

Have you watched "The bridges over Madison County", please do so......this movie illustrates what a cold, calculated relationship is about and then pairs it to what true love can be.....

You deserve better....This man can pretty much making you believe that you have what you deserve, and that you will never find another person to live with you. You see, his problems are not for you to solve. You are the one that matters and you have to solve your problems, He is your problem, leave him!

good luck!

Answer 5

no we retreat to different rooms at night,and if we are in the house during the day its the same way, you get used to it and want to scream sometimes but **** happens you have to take the bitter with the sweet. the bitter is just harder to take especially when his friends take center stage in his life so you learn to cope and live your own life, unless you are young enough to make a change, then do it!

Answer 6

we both suffer from sleep apnea and snore quite loud...also i like to read in bed and watch TV..and i get up a lot a night..and sleep a lot during the day..as i am retired...

physical relationships and intimacy soon fades as you progress through your married years...I cope with this as nothing last forever..just enjoy the good times while they last and move on...that's how we do this ...but at least we have our own space..

Answer 7

No, I've moved into my daughters room. I've only experienced intimacy in my dreams...

I'm in the process of filing for "divorce."

Answer 8

She and I are quite close, but we don't express it exclusively by physical means. Many of our best moments are spent fully clothed - I always feel closest to her when we're heckling a horror movie (usually zombie movies) at the end of the day.

Answer 9

we sleep together,shop together and so on. our relationship behind closed doors is good also after twenty odd years. You have to do what it takes to keep it fresh. That and the ocassional major fight helps blow off the d*mb sh*it

Answer 10

I would want to talk; if you cant talk about your sex(intimate) life then all other kinds of problems like financial,in laws, exes...blah blah blah will interfere.