If ur husband came home late at say 1am after saying he'd be home by 10pm after night out. Doesn't let you know he's stayin a bit longer. Worried u 4n him several times at 12 midnight, no reply. Ignores ur 4n calls. When you ask him he says he lost track of time. Next couple of days he still ignores you when u 4n him or text him even to just say hi.
2007-04-07 03:07:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its a tough call... the biggest thing is not to dwell on it. You will put so many different stories into your own head, you won't even remember what the problem was in the first place. You have to get his attention and ask him what he has been doing. I am happily married, but i dont answer all of my wifes text messages. Sometimes we do just get sidetracked... we are men, its what we do. but if it is happening consistently, or in a pattern, it is definitly an issue.
2007-04-07 03:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by arkansas_white_boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him some space, like a few days, just to see if he opens up. If not, you need to sit his butt down and have a chat. You guys are married so there is no need for the mystery. There has to be a level of trust and communication between the two of you. Just try not to freak. Sometimes we instantly jump to the conclusion that a loved one is cheating. He may be having stress at work or something else and isn't just ready to tell you. Whatever it is, some people just need a little space to do things on their own. But after a few days of space, if he hasn't come around, calmy let him know that his sudden behavior has got you a little worried and you're just curious to see if everything is alright with him. Hopefully he'll come clean.
2007-04-07 10:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of doubt that he did loose track of time or he was having to much fun and didn't want to come home just yet and he didn't answer your calls while he was out because it would just dampen his good time. He isn't answering you now because he doesn't want to fight or apologize for having fun. Leave him a short note that says he was inconsiderate for not calling and letting you know he would be late and worrying you and that in the future if he can't be home when he says you would appreciate a quick phone call so at least you can go to bed without worrying. And then drop it don't bring it up again.
2007-04-07 10:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be try to talk to your husband on how you feel. How will he feels if you ignores you. By letting u know or answering the calls and sms will not make you worry that much as there is wonders happenning out there and you are worried about him rather bugging him( if he thinks so). If this doesnt help then discuss the situation with a marriage counselor. All the best.
2007-04-07 10:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. I wouldn't jump to the he's cheating on me conclusion just yet, but I think not answering my calls to his cell while he is out later than expected and not even so much as a real apology and then ignoring me later is awful! I'd certainly confront him over this. If there were cheating ideas brewing in my head, I'd keep them to myself for now. Accusing a man of cheating when he may not be can drive him to cheat. Gives that "well she thinks I'm cheating and doesn't trust me anyways, I may as well do it." thought.
2007-04-07 10:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have an issue of whether or not he can be trusted.
If he's done things in the past that make you worry, then you need to communicate that to him. If he hangs out with his buddies once in a while, it shouldn't be an issue.
Don't keep checking up on him. He's probably getting pissed because you're starting to become jealous.
2007-04-07 10:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. Doesn't pay to be with someone you don't trust. Thats a red flag if your husband keeps leaving and spending more time out than in with you. You're his wife --- come on. A more bigger flag if he's not answering your calls.
If you're not happy, press on honey before you get too old and ugly to start over.
2007-04-07 10:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ignore his knocks on the other side of the locked doors when he tried to come home at that hour. He'd know other women might put up with this but not me.
2007-04-07 10:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monitor for a few more weeks ... stop jumping into conclusion so quickly. It's not easy to become a husband and a wife .. believe me.
2007-04-07 10:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if this happens again to not come home .Move on, love is blind and you need an outside source sometimes to keep you on track
2007-04-07 10:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋