im 20 and my feance is 43.i no big age gap.i love him so mutch we have been together for 4 years now.he has a kid that is 12 years old.she comes to stay on a weekend and everytime she brakes something on perpouse.she allso steels things out of our home.and wees the bed really bad all the time.iv not giveing her drinks at a serten time.iv tryed getting her nappies but there is none that come in her size.and im the one who has tow sort it out.he will neva tell her of so she keeps on doing it.she only wont money or meterial things of her dad.shes so anoying.i used to adore kids now i hate them.i no i will never have kids now.u dont understand they make me feel sick.i feel really bad about the way i think about kids now.just makes me wonna cry all the time.i always wonted kids but no she just put me of having them.does anyone no how im feeling.i feel alone in this box in my head.
2007-04-07 02:53:47 · 8 answers · asked by JLT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nice age gap. My wife is 24 and I'm 48! However, we have only children between us!
As for you, this same situation occurs frequently. Look at it this way, those kids will grow up someday and you'll have your husband all to yourself. Just be pleasant and do what's right at all times!! Then there will be peace and happiness.
2007-04-07 02:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your F I A N C E about how you feel. If he really loves you - then he'll respect how you feel and understand and possibly have a talk with his daughter.
Before she comes over again --- put things up where she can't steal it or break it. But seriously --- if you can't hang with the fact that this guy (who is old enough to be your father) the fact that he has a kid, then you're in the wrong relationship.
There isn't many men that age, who (don't) have kids. So good luck to you okay?
2007-04-07 09:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes, what if your dad got a new mom for you , ( i know you are matured enough to handle it, but what if you are only 12?) If you really love the man, love this child like she is yours, i have this bf, he has a 6 years old girl, a very quiet girl, i loved her so much she would cling on to me , actually kid only behave that way when they are hurt, i would bet my head that if its me, you would be getting even bigger hell. So, pls love her like you loved her dad and everything would turn out well, ( well, no promise how long it will take,.) but when everything turns out smooth, the returns would be all the much sweeter. Try your best, Im behind you emotionally.
2007-04-07 10:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by jade s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, she is twelve with a 20 something year old trying to get serious with her dad. It's only natural...you will just have to deal with it the best way until she gets more used to it. Have a heart to heart with her. Best wishes!
2007-04-07 10:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by skye_lashay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That was hard to read! If you can't love or like the kid then move on! The daughter is there to stay so deal with it!
2007-04-07 10:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagine what this 12-year-old must feeling having kinda of a new mom. Make her feel at home but dont try to be like her mom. she is angry and hates having u as a stepmom or wateva. she deffinetely blames her dad's new relationship on u. try to be kind or maybe for a while try to avoid and annoyances with her. be cool ..........
2007-04-07 09:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You better talk to your fiance. I'd hate to spend the rest of my life like this.
2007-04-07 10:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiancee. They aren't your kid's so why care.
2007-04-07 09:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋