Any people dealing with ex gf, specially if she is mother of your child, how u manage your relationship?

Question

Do you just pay child support, or also play some important role in childs life, how do u manage two lifes, dont u feel like going back to hr, what about kid how do u deal with that and what about ur current gf and all that.

Please advice me how to deal with such a situation, how painful it is to break up with ur pregnant but cheater gf.

Answer 1

You ask that question as if its either or. You do all. You pay your child support. You be there for your kids. You have to keep some type of communication with the mother for the sake of your kids.

I know its painful but you must be strong and move on. But just be careful next time you're with anyone -- you don't want to have different kids with different women. Thats more child support you'll have to pay and going to work would seem pointless 'cause you won't have any money left for yourself after paying C/S.

Take things one day at a time. It'll be all right. You probably wanted answers from other men/dads.....but I was with someone that has 3 kids and has to deal with his ex/kid's mother constantly. And thats a challenge cause she isn't the most civil person.

Just do the best you can. It may not seem like its gonna get better - but in time, it will. Good luck sweety.

Answer 2

Well if she is pregnant and a cheater, it just might not be yours. Don't be a dope and make sure to get a paternity test right after the child is born. You would be surprised how often it turns out negative.

Yes you should pay support and have an important role in your child's life. However you need to keep the interaction with the ex to a minimum. This is very important as it can have a huge impact on future relationships. Girlfriends for some odd reason don't like you dealing with the ex...amazing isn't it? Set it up so you have standard visitation and a neutral drop off and pick up site (like her mothers house, etc). Even just showing up at her house for a few minutes to pick the kid up can be huge sources of conflict.

The people who keep these contact points to a minimum have a lot less drama in their lives then those who don't. Make sure you get her the payments on time and in full, otherwise there will be huge problems.

Answer 3

When you have a child you have more responsibilities then just paying child support.If thing's didn't work out between you & your child's mom that is fine but your child deserves to have two parent's.Not only is it important that you pay child support but you also need to continue to be a father to your child.You may find it uncomfortable having to deal with your ex but you are the one's that chose to bring an innocent child into this world.You have every right to move on into another relationship but you also have to be honest with your new partner and let them know that you have a child from a previous relationship and you have to continue to be a parent.You never put anyone else infront of your child your child is what really matters.Good Luck & Best Wishes

Answer 4

run off to ukraine