How to live happily as adolescense? ()?

Question

Had anyone read books about OSHO?
THe guy wrote books about "maturity"
He said " living accordingly to your natural adolescence age will lead to more stable and peaceful life, this kind of life will reveal the answer to the question " what is the meaning of life"

Moreover, he said " We need to listen to nature voice, when it said to us "this is a time for love", we should love, when nature said it is time to let go, just let it go..." (sorry my english)


I dont' know if you would agree but From his saying, it seems like we need some kind of "freedom" to do like that, and it seems like our society are not treating the issue rights...i dont' know what do u think???

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Answer 1

Adolescence is a very tough time. You go through so many changes (sexually & emotionally). You are developing your sense of yourself. You are developing independence (which often becomes rebelliousness against parents who don't seem to understand your teen angst). You need freedom but you also need a bit of discipline or you could get into trouble. You need to be accepted by your peers. You want to feel cool. There is so much pressure. Everything feels like the end of the world. You get a crush on someone & it's so dramatic that it feels like you'll die if they don't love you.

They are tough years. But they are exciting. They are fun & they won't last so make the most of them.

I wish someone had been there to teach me about self-esteem back then. I had very low self-esteem. You have to love yourself first & foremost. Take good care of yourself, physically eat healthy & exercise, dress well so that you project confidence on the outside and take care of your soul too. Do things that make you happy. Listen to music you love. Do something fun (provided it's legal & not destructive! Ha ha). Find out who you are. Make good friends. It's important to get along with others but love yourself first so that even if someone isn't nice to you it won't destroy you. You will be strong enough that no one can knock you down.

Be happy. Happiness is a choice. Get close to nature. Take a walk in the woods. Sit by the lake. Appreciate the beauty of the earth. Celebrate all the emotions you're feeling. Write them down. Write poems. Laugh. Cry. Get it out. Explore your sexuality at your own pace. Remember that your body is the temple of your soul. Treat it with respect. Don't degrade it or cheapen it & show respect to others as well. I think too many people get involved in sex too soon. You should wait until you're ready. Wait until it's someone you really care about. Sex shouldn't just be a physical act, it should be an expression of love, it should be meaningful. (Ok well I guess I'm preaching but that's how I feel anyway. I think promiscuity is a cry for help. Too many people use sex recreationally & it hurts others & themselves.) If you feel the urge you can always take care of yourself if you know what I mean! ;) It's the most safe sex you can have & is a perfectly normal & healthy release! When you do have sex with a partner, make sure to practice safe sex to prevent unwanted pregnancies & diseases. Be careful, a few moments of pleasure can have lifelong consequences if you're not careful. Sometimes you need to exercise self-control & restraint. It can be hard (no pun intended!) but it can be done.

Speaking of control & restraint, don't give in to unhealthy addictions (cigarettes, drugs and alcohol) just to fit in or be cool. Don't destroy yourself. It's not worth it. Ok I'm preaching again, a little, but I've seen too many people destroy themselves with cigarettes, alcohol & drugs. They start in their teens, wanting to fit in & look cool & it becomes a lingering habit. A very close friend of mine was an alcoholic & passed away last year from alcohol poisoning (yes you can overdose on booze.) It makes me sick when I see beer commercials etc glamourizing drinking. Some people become too dependent on it & it ruins their lives. You don't have to get drunk to have a good time. I don't drink or smoke & I've never tried drugs. I didn't care about "fitting in." I'd rather be myself, whether people like it or not. They used to call me "goody two shoes" but that's a compliment in a world of loose morals. Be strong. If people only like you when you're doing things to hurt yourself then they're not really friends & not worth associating with anyway (ok I really sound like my mother now! That's scary!)

My other siblings were followers. When they went through adolescence they got involved with some bad things to "fit in." My mom always said I was a leader, not a follower. I move to the beat of my own drummer. I do what I want not what people pressure me to do. Yeah I had my issues & was pretty neurotic but looking back I was stronger than I gave myself credit for. I didn't give in to temptations to do the wrong things.

Yes listen to the voice of nature. Listen to your heart. Do what you feel. Just be true to yourself & others. Don't rush into anything. Balance your strong emotions with a little logic. Try to be patient. You have your whole life ahead of you.

I wish someone had said some of these things to me. The teen years are a very difficult time. You will get through it. It can be beautiful. You are becoming an adult. Finding yourself. Enjoy it. Freedom can be exciting. Just make sure to temper it with responsibility. Life is a balance between chaos & control.

No matter how you feel, know that countless others have lived through the same things. You are not alone, even when it feels like you are. It's just part of the human experience. Never be afraid to talk to someone you trust about your feelings. There are usually counsellors who will listen when it's something you don't feel you can discuss with friends or family.

Take care.

Cheers!
:)
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Answer 2

Whatever the rules for adolescence, they will be ignored by adolescents! It's the nature of the beast. Once they realise that what they "want" is NOT the most important thing in the world, it all settles down. Each is different from the last.

Answer 3

I think you read too much. Be yourself and live life like YOU want to and now how you perceive you SHOULD live, not via some book.

Answer 4

i think a major factor in living happily at any age, is to have understanding, both of the age you are at,,,,, and of others, at different ages and points in their life,,,,,,, simply mentally "stepping in their shoes" for a moment,,,,, imagining how they feel, their challenges in life,,,,, perhaps even talking to them about it,,,,,,,, can give you great knowledge and wisdom,,,, both of where you have come from, where you are at now,,,, and where you are going,,,,,,,, basic empathy for others,,, will help you know yourself

Answer 5

Mike Smith (Bubbles),

Answer 6

You are right.
There are no sure answerer's when hormones are raging.