stop putting in the effort once they are married. Time and time again, friends complain that they no longer get hugged and their husbands just become lazy with the relationship. I won't be getting married!
2007-04-06 23:32:14 · 24 answers · asked by clairejgray1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there
Don't panic or listen to people on here about what happens after you get married!
Some marriages are great some are turkeys!
Problems start to occur when two people stop communicating and just aren't really bonding the way that they used to.
Lack of interest is usually down to couples getting married way too young or that one of the two is playing away!
Marriages can be very loving and fresh when married to the right person and it can last for ever.
The problem is that if you get married too young you don't know what your signing up for.
Take your time a choose wisely and never get married until you are at least 28 years old!
Regards
idai
2007-04-07 01:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by idai 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sex cuddle thing. And you know maybe if you do a little cuddling you might get the sex. However that's not the question. Why Do Men Stop Being Gentlemen, and start being Assholes? That's what we all want to know. Well I think part of the reason this happens is life. Living together is stressful, and after being with someone for a while married or just living together, the stress can make it so you worry more about what issues y'all are dealing with. I mean before living together the times you would be together are for being together, you made time for each other, and it was all about the two of you. Well now your together 24/7 and well other things have to come first. So maybe if everyone would try to make time for their partners, and then try to work through some of life's issues together.
2007-04-07 00:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by moostang67 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men don't get lazy. Im sure your partner was not mr cuddles rior to the wedding. that doesnt mean you cannot hug him. People don't change. The "love" blinders start disappearing after the reality of resposibilities become more apparent. There is no Mr. Right or Mrs. Right. Relationships take time, patience, acceptance and respect. Enjoy your partner and focus on the positives instead of dragging on the negatives.
2007-04-07 01:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Juan C H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all there is no sucha thing as all men are lazy or all women are not interested in sex after marrige. generalizing wont help any body . u v got to knwo that once man is married his priorities change . it coudl be very close to truth that men tend to take for granted what they have . but again their needs change. they want friend to hang with ( men dont hug tehri friends) they want mothers to take care of them (again men quit hugging their mothers since they were first grader coz its sissy) they want wife then . a wife who is a combination of friend mother and girl friend . so hugging is not really a priority here. but woudl it kill u if u hug him any ways! i dont kwno any man who woudl push u away if u hugged him no matter where or when. so dear if u could with these stero types find mr right some day just get married and hug him all u want!!!!!!!!!!!
good luck
2007-04-07 01:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think with all the responsibility that marriage brings, the pressures that come to bear do affect relationships. There are so many hidden stresses that we don't even talk about. These affect our subconscious and we change without knowing the reason why.-both men and women. I do think the ladies seem to cope with stress better than us chaps and this reflects in your ability to live a little longer than us as a general rule.
2007-04-06 23:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Birdman 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You just have to find the right guy. One that has a lot in common with you. Always remember it's a two way street as well. You have to put the work in as well to keep the relationship loving and caring.
2007-04-06 23:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jbr 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Same reason that some women no longer care if they get fat once they are married -People don't appreciate something till they don't have it anymore. Smart couples know this and don't let complacency stagnate the marriage.
We reap what we sew.
2007-04-06 23:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You women who have these problem with your
men need to find the right one that's all: I hug and
kiss my wife all throughout the day so much so
that sometimes she says its a nusense, but as
least she see that I love her and show her every
minute just about. Is it excessive, no because
love is never excessive.
2007-04-07 03:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rubbish.
I've lived with my partner for 6 and a half years and we recently got hitched - nothing has changed - he is a very affectionate man and still is. He is away cycling this weekend but I keep getting love texts from him. Bless.
2007-04-07 05:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm a woman but men don't have those emotional, "I need to hug and touch and be all romantic." That's a woman thing.
2007-04-06 23:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by cat lyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋