my fella used to be close with his exes in laws, and he told his ex mother in law that he didnt want to know them now they have broken up but they could always see his son, which is fair enough because i dont really want his ex inlaws hanging around the place all the time, and for some reason his ex mother in law wouldnt tell his ex father in law, but my fella still handed the phone straight onto his son when they called, and then the calls stopped for ages and they didnt seem to want anything to do with him and on occasions his ex motther in law called only to speak top martin when i said he wsnt there to talk to she never asked for her grandson my fella promised he would t6ell his father in law soon and then when they came to pick up their grandson to go see them this week the father in law came in and martin just spoke to him like anything and they even hugged! its really upset me cos they are in his past and his ex wife is trying so hard to split us up and then he went mad at me!
2007-04-06 23:24:25 · 5 answers · asked by charley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your fella should understand what you are going through. I totally understand why u are pissed off!!!
I would say to him if you dont tell the ex father in law I WILL. It seems he is living in the past.
All this is going to drive a wedge between you both.
Show him your q&answers you get back on here.
Good luck!!!
2007-04-07 00:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are obviously feeling very emotional and uncertain of your place in the scheme of things at the moment.
Just because his ex in laws gave birth to a daughter whose relationship with your fella didn't work out, doesn't make them bad people.
What his ex wife is doing may be upsetting them as well. They certainly don't want to miss out on the chance of watching their grandson grow up so they are not as likely to take sides as you may fear.
Treat them , your fella and his son with respect and affection and the world will come right again in no time at all.
Remember he chose to be with you!!!
2007-04-07 00:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're correct, you want to end it. for sure sending him a letter even as he's in Iraq is a less than perfect challenge yet because you're set on doing this...the following is going. "even as we were separated, I really have had a lot of time to imagine. i replaced into hasty in accepting your furnish of marriage and that i now know that it really is the incorrect element for me. I hate to interrupt you and could avert it if i could yet when we go via with this we are able to easily could undergo more advantageous discomfort contained in the lengthy run." That being stated, why are you operating off with all and numerous? There are not any knights in shining armor on white horses. Any complications you've gained't disappear, they in simple terms keep on with you. How about this? How about you strengthen up, end playing video games with peoples' lives and get to understand the recent guy for himself and under no circumstances because he reminds you of your well known personality in a e book (that's an fairly ridiculous reason to have a courting with anybody contained in the first position). Your fiance will certainly be a fortunate guy once he receives your letter and with any success he will know it fairly straight away. As for you, I wish you solid success, happiness, and adulthood however no longer unavoidably in that order.
2016-11-27 00:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please consider putting in full stops. They do help you make sense.
Firstly, it is impossible to be in a marriage and not develop some sort of relationship with your in-laws. It obviously was a good one, so why the problem? What threat could they possibly be.
I've had a good relationship with my ex-in-laws for 18 years. I have never spoken to my ex, but I am interested in people who were part of my life.
Get over it. You're being silly.
2007-04-07 00:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't you think you should take things slowly. first of all consider the fact that he has a son by his first wife which allows his grandparents access to the house because they too Will be hurt if he just tells them to stop coming to the house also consider the boy and what it will do to him if he does not see his grandparents. as for the ex, if she still wants him why did she let him go in the first place?
2007-04-07 02:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by FUMZY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋