When you look at happily married couples, the ones that do have some problems but are in general very much in love with eachother and have loving children and then compare them with "pathetic" singles, who can never find someone to be in a relationship with, what is the major difference between these people? What are your thoughts on this?
2007-04-06 23:08:17 · 11 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Luck, realistic standards and relationship skills.
2007-04-06 23:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single
2016-04-01 01:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the difference:
Happily married couples have the emotional maturity to live harmoniously with another human being; through the rough times and not just the good times.
These kinds of people would do well in ANY social situation.
Many folks in the "dating pool" are there by choice, because they want to AVOID a certain amount of committment. Some folks just want sex with a variety of partners. Others would probably prefer NOT to reveal too much of themselves to any human being.
Some may have been hurt in a previous relationship and are now limiting their "involvement" with others, out of fear.
Some folks have unrealistic expectations for a mate, and they've "set the bar" so high that virtually no one can get over it.
2007-04-07 06:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are bad marriages and good marriages just
as their are good and bad relationships in singles.
The key is honesty and committment and love. If
these ingredients are not in any relationship marr-
ied or single then it will never work out. The prob-
lem is that both sides have to have the equal share
of the above ingredients. Once that is found then
you can be happy married or single in a relation-
ship.
2007-04-07 03:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those singles are looking for the perfect relationship, Nothing is perfect. the ones that are happy know that but love the good times enough to hold on. The singles will guve up after they are usually selfish and do not want to compromise anything. Nothing will ever be good for them. They chose people who are not good for them but who they think will fit their image of a dream. People are people and we all have issues. Happy peole know that and know that it takes a strong relationship to overcome these issues. The working together makes a stronger bong then just complaning as to how not goodhtings are. I hope that you understand what I am trying to say.
Self
2007-04-06 23:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by orcarius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SO, let me get this straight, because I'm not married, I'm "pathetic"? Have you ever thought that these "pathetic" single people are happy with themselves and want to get married when they are truly in love and not because they don't want to be "pathetic"? Most of my friends are married, and it's not all happy. Most of them tell me how they wish they could be single, like me. People like you piss me the F U C K off.
2007-04-07 01:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, what I have found in my "pathetic" single friends is that their criteria for the "perfect mate" is skewed and rather shallow. I have friends who will only date a man who looks a certain way, or makes a certain amount of money. They want vacations in Paris and a whirlwind fantasy life, but fantasy does not make good reality.
Reality is that the person who deserves to be in your life is a person who you can grow and achieve your goals with. If you go after a man's wallet or appearance you are not doing either of you justice.
2007-04-07 00:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some pathetic singles could be married and can have children too and they could raise them to be pathetic individuals as well. such pathetic singles easily make friends with other such pathetic singles and eventually wreck their own family as well as everyone else's around them. these pathetic singles are not satisfied with what they have until they have what others have as well. It's a vicious cycle and greed will someday consume them.
2014-01-22 20:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by A.Fuente 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, too, find that my single friends who have been unable to find and nurture a healthy relationship have set their bars too high. It seems to be all about looks, money, cars, etc. rather than the inner soul which is where they need to connect. To maintain a "happy" marriage takes work but primarily it means that you have the capability of working together in every possible way.....it means you have to learn compromise. Most of your "pathetic" singles aren't really interested in compromising....
2007-04-07 01:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first, not all married people are happy....hence the high rate of divorce....also, single people are not pathetic unless they choose to be.....
2007-04-07 00:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋