at 29 is it too late to do anything about your lifes problems? are you to old?

Question

if youve never worked because of psychological problems.
are ageing prematurley in the face.
have 2 missing teeth, bottom, front row.
have a torn ankle ligaments, keep twisting it.
injured right hand knuckle, damaged nerves, by hitting an inanimate object years ago.
balding.
stiff back and aching joints( have been told by doctor this is due to my high levels of anxiety)

i feel totally over whelmed by these problems and worry about,
a) attracting an attractive young girl.
b)how im going to achieve my goals in life, ie~emigration from uk, own my own home, stability, a good job.
i feel totally overwhelmed like i can bever achieve any of these things, and that its gonna take me ages.
and that im past some kind of cut off point, and im too old/
can anyone advise?

Answer 1

First of all, you are NEVER too old to make changes in your life for the sake of self-improvement until you are at least one second past your dying breath.

But I won't lie to you... the older you get, the harder it will be to achieve your life-goals. So you need to start NOW. On the other hand, by simply asking this question, you are already on your way to making such changes, so good for you! Keep it up!

Here is my advice...

Firstly, write down what your goals are. If you are 29 now and want to be a millionaire by the time you turn 31, write it down. If you want to emigrate by the time you are 35, write it down. Whatever you want for your life, write it down.

Secondly... once you have everything written down, take a good close look at each one and try to determine how realistic they are. Don't simply assume anything is out of reach... find out! If you want to finish school, find out if and how and when you can go about it. If you want a specific job or career, research what sorts of qualifications you would need and how you can get those qualifications. For each of your goals, find out how to achieve them. Any of them that still seem out of reach, don't abandon them... revise them to be more realistic. Say you want to become a millionaire within the next 6 months... this is highly unlikely and very unrealistic, but becoming a millionaire within 6 years is potentially doable if you go about it the right way... find realistic ways to achieve what you want.

Thirdly... Try to evaluate WHY you want each goal. Is it a fundamental need you have, or something you merely desire? If it is something you merely desire, why do you desire it? Is there anything else that you might be able to do instead which would fulfill that desire? In short, know thyself.

Fourthly... When you come across an obstacle which tries to prevent you from getting what you want... don't give up! Find a way to break past the obstacle... go over, under, around, or through it. Obstacles will always pop up here and there and they will probably slow you down a bit, but don't let them stop you, and don't let them get you discouraged.

Fifth... come up with a Plan B (and if possible, C, D, E, and maybe even F) for achieving your goals... something that perhaps won't get you there as fast, but can still get you there. This way, if you come upon some sort of obstacle which you can't go over, under, around, or through, you have other options to consider before giving up on your dreams.

And lastly, find people who can and will (willingly) help you get there... even if only by offering you words of encouragement from time to time.

Answer 2

You have plenty of time on your hands and i get the impression you have trouble communicating with people.
Why dont you get a bicycle and go out for a ride when the weather's good it would be much less stressful on your ankle than walking or running. And as you are on a bike you can keep a distance from people at all times. You could see the countryside or just sit there in town watching what people do, at your own safe distance.

Don't pin your hopes on that attractive young girl just showing up in your flat one day to drag you out of your depression. This aint hollywood, things like that don't just happen.

The suggestion that some others have made concerning voluntary work is an excellent one - it will make you feel better and perhaps you'll meet someone special or they could have a friend who'll appreciate you? who knows what could happen - Just do it.

You need to begin interfacing with other human beings again remember people aren't all bad it's just that everyone has their own problems, and can't worry about everyone else. If you sit there feeling sorry for yourself the world will just pass you by. As you have probably already noticed.

Remember the devil makes work for idle hands - get out there and do something.

If you're drinking/taking drugs cut it right down with a view to giving up completely, it's making you extremely depressed.

Things don't just fall into our laps.
The more you do, the more doors will open.

Finally, pull yourself together mate! you have the power to change the way your life is going. It won't be easy but it'll be worth it. I promise you.

All the best Good luck & God bless

Answer 3

I am 33years old and disabled with chronic pain from failed back surgeries and nerve damage and I also have depression and anxiety. I don't think you're ever to old to make your dreams and goals come true. You are still young and although you have some physical and emotional problems, that doesn't mean that you are stuck where you are right now in life. If you aren't being treated for these things you must see a Doctor. Counseling can be a huge help in dealing with depression and anxiety as well as other problems you are worried about. Some people don't acheive their goals in life until they are in their 40's or 50's. It's never too late and never give up on getting better and finding help. I know here we have counseling services through the state and they only chntge you what you can afford to pay. It would be worth it to work through these negative, hopeless feelings.Continue to work towards yiour goals and see what help is availqable to you where you live. As long as you are still alive, you can still br productive. In this day and age there is no certain age that you should have all of your goals realized. My in laws didn;t buy their first home until they were in their 70's, they rented up until then. I always thought I'd b in the military until I retired but I was given an honorable medical discharge because I could no longer work or help to fight for my country. I understand getting down about this at such a young age, but man people have gone before us who have had disabilities and still acheived great success and helped many others as well. Look at Christopher Reeves, he was superman on the big screen and then was in a wheelchair and couldn't move or for a while even breathe for himself. It never kept him down. He turned his pain into the energy to fight for more research to be done for spinal problems. Don't you give up on love either. One day you will find the right person for you. Believe in yourself and I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

NO! But you must try to think positive. You can never discount that.

One over the counter supplement I can tell you to try is Glucosamine Chondroitin if you don't already. Really helps with achy joints and nerves as it's something your body produces anyway but just decreases with age. In terms of ageing you shouldn't be that bad at 29 but you might try some moisturizers/anti-ageing stuff- not really sure about that but perhaps a little facial self tanning creme can work wonders because unlike what many guys might think it doesn't make you really tan unless you use a good bit. If you use a little though it really perks up the complexion and hides imperfections. Also great for uneven skin tones. Those are the only tips I can think of to add to what others often list. Sorry I can't be of more help to you as I know you’re going through tough times but I shall send many happy thoughts your way!

Answer 5

Hey 29 is young still1 I remember when I twas old to me- but you have a long life ahead of you- I might suggest volunteering somewhere start by working with people worse off than you you will 1 find out how blessed you are- 2. begin to take on some responsibility 3. become valueable to others and to yourself- 4. start on the road to success-

I work with MRDD ( mentally hretarded adults) but try working at a mission- homeless shelter - or even a retirment facility- there are many people who would value you- and remeber don't talk bad about yourself- would you discribe someone else like that?
Respect you and others will look pat appearances and disablilities- Respect and honor come in all shapes and sizes-

You can be do or have anything you want- attracting others to yourself is amatter of being a good person- and believeing in yourself-
I believe in you- so let me know how it turns out!

You can do this! Be well- Di

Answer 6

You are still a baby at 29! Seriously, I believe if you think positive, if you think you can achieve the things you want out of life then you will. Postive thought brings positive things and negative thought brings negative things. As you are being mainly negative at the moment then you are in a spiral. Have you ever read about 'cosmic ordering'. You ask the universe for what you want (one thing at a time) put a time limit on it and above all BELIEVE in it. Start off with your health because once that is sorted you can go on to achieve all the other things you want. If you havn't already, then get some help for your psychological problems and take it from there. Good luck, remain positive, and you will achieve x

Answer 7

You almost sound like you want someone to say.....yes it's too late, just wallow in your misery until you die. You must work on the things that are bringing you down. Take a job...any job....build up a resume, save what you can. Make some friends, reach outward and break the habit of dwelling on yourself all the time. Find out what exercises you can do to strengthen your ankles and become as fit as you can be. Take each step one at a time, job, reach out to others, exercise and dental work. I know you don't feel that you can help others or feel like reaching out, but your self worth will go up if you make a point of helping others, even if you just listen to someone in trouble. Start doing the best you can everyday and things will start to come your way. And please don't forget to include the Lord in your life. Don't just present Him with a wish list, try to live the life he has planned for you, listen to Him as much as you pray to Him. A relationship is a two-way communication....Good luck.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Your certainly not too old hin.

You can get replacement teeth drilled into the gums.

If you want something though you'll have to make it happen. It's human nature not to try anything new incase it fails (believe me).

As for everything else you'll be surprised by how many women prefer personality to looks - looks fade for everyone, personality just gets better.

But why does it have to be a young girl (for exactly the same reason as mentioned above)

Answer 10

You are never too old and it is never too late.

a. perhaps you could find happiness with an average looking girl with good personality..
B. start making plans; visualize what you want and how you can make it happen.
Find your talent (everyone has at least one) and capitalize on it..
Volunteer at a nonprofit group; it could lead to paid employment.

If you take medication don't stop without informing your doctor.
Join a group of people with similar interests.
Avoid alcohol and drugs.
Exercise regularly it creates endorphins that make you feel better..
Keep a regular schedule

If you find comfort in religion become involved with a congregation.

Don't give up.