i don't know why maybe coz after that it so different from the moment that you were in the party ... it happens to me , what about you?
2007-04-06 21:20:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
OH YES.I thought that this happens just to me.I feel like this very often and I hate that feeling.Even though the party was awesome and i had a great time, after that I feel miserable and I don't know why?!
2007-04-06 22:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. When I was single I'd be the life of the party but then I'd go home and feel very lonely and empty. The worst though is feeling lonely while you are in the crowd at the party. Believe in yourself and enjoy life, you never know what the future may hold for you just around the corner. Take Care
2007-04-07 06:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened is that, while at the party, you were too busy being distracted by other people and events happening around you to notice how you were really feeling. When you get home, because there are no more distractions happening, your true emotions start bouncing off the walls and returning to you straight, no chaser.
In addition, some people cannot stand to be by themselves, and the severing of themselves from the group identity raises issues of lonliness and/or abandonment that they cannot get rid of when they are by themselves. The severity/frequency of the episodes of lonliness afterwards usually denote how 'wedded' their identities are to being part of a group.
We develop a need for 'group' identity to buttress feelings of lonliness, isolation, and helplessness that can come with being an individual. There is strength/security in numbers, even anonymous numbers, that allows people to be 'connected' to others even if they are total strangers.
If this only happens once or twice, it probably suggests (like the amount of oil on a dipstick) that you have been spending too much time alone and need to get out more. People naturally fluctuate between periods of needing 'alone' time and needing to be around others. This includes those 'people persons' who love to be amongst a crowd. It only becomes 'detrimental' when it happens after EVERY party and if you are going out constantly in order to escape from dealing with those issues you feel when you are alone.
I'm a strong loner, and even I feel the 'pull' of the crowd. Being lonely (when you are by yourself) can simply mean that your human self is working as it should.
2007-04-07 07:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem coming home from a crowded bar. Do you feel that you don't feel like you fit in? Maybe you thought the party or the people could have been more exciting.
2007-04-07 04:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but I've felt lonely at crowded parties before.
2007-04-07 04:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Henry R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. But I quickly got over it. There is somebody out there for everybody. And when you find that somebody, you'll never have a lonely after party again.
2007-04-07 04:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by RIMIROX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I usually have a sense of relief. I don't do partying and crowds very well.
2007-04-07 04:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter where you are or how many people are around you, if you don't "connect" with anyone on some sort of an emotional or intellectual level, you are alone.
2007-04-07 08:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cherish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I sure have. It's a diabolical feeling of loneliness.
But it doesn't last.
2007-04-07 04:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me . It happens to me also with another feelings.
2007-04-07 04:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋