2007-04-06 19:53:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well....my marriage is missing sex for 2.5years......i broke the promise to get back in shape after having the baby, and my husband does not want me....with 7 kg more.....it is a vicious circle....he is much older....and we work togheter.....but our intimate relatonship is badly damaged....what will hurt my baby more.....having to grow in a family without love, more like respect....or to have just a parent.....?
2007-04-07 22:29:39 · update #1
so, I'll let him go.....but my marriage is still in danger...
2007-04-07 22:32:20 · update #2
I am so sorry. You are in a really tough place right now.
It seems that you might be experiencing some mid-life or mid-marriage crisis. Hopefully your husband and children don't know about this lapse.
What a blessing that he wants to stop. It could be the he was stalking you and threatening to expose your affair. Let him go and deal with your internal issues. I speak from experience...
Possibly you feel taken for granted at home, and just didn't expect to ever have this excited, emotional connection with anyone ever again. Your feelings are real, but they are NOT permanent. Remember when you felt that way with someone else? Trust me, love is a CHOICE, NOT A FEELING. I'm not yelling at you, I just wanted to emphasis that statement.
Your children need you and your husband to love each other and keep your family together. When a marriage breaks apart it affects more than just the immediate family...there are extended relatives who suffer, friendships, etc. Please reconsider your situation and ask God to help you find joy in your marriage.
Emotions change, people change, the whole world changes, but your children need to think/feel/experience the stability of your marriage that won't change by falling apart, only by getting better.
2007-04-06 20:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that the person you're in love with is yopur husband, then you shouldn't,for the sake of your children. However, maybe... it will be true love to let him go.
If it's someone else, stop seeing that person immediately, it's a threazt to your marriage and your children. Again. don't tie himn down, if you love this guy, you'll let him go and pursue his own happiness.
2007-04-06 19:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can. You just choose to tell yourself that you cannot.
If you're any older than, let's say 14, you should have learnt by now that as an adult, you are responsible for your actions. You should also know that your cheating will come out, your family will be torn apart and your children will be scarred for life by your irresponsible, immature attitude.
I can't wait for Karma to land on you fair and square.
2007-04-06 20:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon to be attracted to people beyond marriage. Age has little significance in matter of love & desire.
If you are unhappy with the present marraige then you should terminate it and go for your love. See if it is only physical desire that might have been mistaken as love. This indulgence is unfair to your husbend and children. Continuing it have high chance of leading to divorce. Are you ready to accept it?
2007-04-06 20:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should let him go and quit your contact with this man for your children sake. Cherish your family.
Remember, what goes around comes around.
Good Luck :)
2007-04-07 19:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way to stop. Appreciate what you have. I think he realizes what he's doing...now you need to.
2007-04-06 19:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is an affair i say you should tell a good friend to keep you accountable, and definitely stop
2007-04-06 20:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by actaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your children you stop as well see how in time you will hurt them as well your husband as well . my opion?
2007-04-06 20:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him and please go see a marriage counsellor to save your marriage. Do it for the sake of your children.
2007-04-06 20:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a choice to make.
2007-04-07 05:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Pencil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋