I realize that my husband is the boss of a self-owned pizza place, and he has many teenaged workers there. He has become "friends" with them, and I've accepted that to a certain extent. However, tonight he got a phone call from one of his teenaged-girl worker's sister at 1:30 in the morning. Is this normal? He has become overly attached to his crew, and likes to spend time with them outside of work. I don't think he's cheating on me, but I don't know for sure. He's tired all of the time and doesn't seem to have any energy when it comes to spending time with me or our children. What's going on?
2007-04-06 19:34:42 · 23 answers · asked by kaylie 2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-04-06 19:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, why is your husband giving out your home telephone number at all? It doesn't seem appropriate to me, and/or if he MUST give out your number, it should be with the strict understanding that it is only to be used for "urgent business issues" and/or emergencies, etc. After all, he is the boss, and he needs to maintain a level of professionalism.
Secondly, I think he needs to scale back on being "friends" with teenagers that also work for him. How old is your husband? Is he so young that he relates to teenagers? Also, how can he maintain his position of authority as a boss if he allows this kind of behavior to go on? I have trouble believing that the staff will respect him as a "boss" under these circumstances.
Lastly, regarding him being tired all the time - it sounds as though he is investing too much of his time and energy with the pizzeria, and not enough with his wife and family. (Even if he's not cheating, he's still placing too much emphasis in the wrong places).
Would it be possible to talk with him and explain how you feel? He should know the negative impacts that his and his employee's behaviors are having on you and your family.
2007-04-07 02:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he is being taken away from his children...you need to step up and say "I understand your under alot of pressure etc. but you are missing out on your children's lives and your wife/home. Ask him if he can hire someone who can lesson the "stresses" on him. Tell him that his job is taking away from his children...time that he can never get back. Also ask him...How would he feel if, at sometime, one of his own children's bosses called them at 1:30 in the morning...flip it around and maybe that will be a wake up call for him. Also explain to him that you understand his is close to his "crew members" but if people were to find out that teen girls were calling him at 1:30 in the morning what would people think and how would that affect his business that he has worked so hard to build. Good luck, but if I was you I would not allow this to continue even if it is NOT an affair..it is still an ADULT acting unprofessional and an ADULT not setting very good examples.
2007-04-07 03:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by beckylee74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how old is your husband? If I might ask. And second, you have a right to be concerned, I would be, too. I honestly don't think it's normal that he becomes this close with underage workers. There's a difference between being friendly and being friends with them. I understand if he's friendly towards them, because he works around them. But, I don't think I'd want my husband being friends with teenage girls. It would just seem weird to me. You say you have kids... and he doesn't seem to have energy to spend time with you or them. That's seems so wrong to me. He should always make time for his family. You guys are his life, you should always come first. I would suggest talking to your husband. Explain to him that it's bothering you that he's being so friendly with his underage workers. and that he's really wanted and needed at home. You said his coworkers sister called him.... Maybe she was concerned about them hanging out. Or just concerned in general about her sister... Maybe something was worrying her about her sis. But still, it could've waited till the next day, I'm sure. If things don't start changing with your husband, maybe you should talk to a counselor or something. I've hoped I've helped, good luck. ^__^
2007-04-07 02:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Christina Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating. All the classic signs are there. Secrecy, no interest in spending time with his family, late night phone calls. If any of his "workers" at the pizza place are under 16, report him to the police. In either case, get a good divorce lawyer to start proceedings for you. You do not want to put up with being cheated on, trust me.
2007-04-07 03:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you quit complaining about your husband, if you are not happy with him, divorce him! Have you ever given him the benefit of the doubt? He may not be doing anything wrong. He probably just wants to have some fun. These phone calls that he is receiving are most likely a friendly invitation to a little fun. I have read all about your husband, and he seems completely normal. Get off his back. You spend so much time asking complete strangers about your suspicions, when you could be talking this out with him. Think about it. You are not resolving a thing. I think you know the answer to all your little questions, you just want assurance and you want people on your side of the argument, when you know very well that you are overreacting.
2007-04-10 11:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by carry_needs_you 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to speak to him, and make it very clear to him if he is sleepying with ANY teenager you will be calling the police and report him. You husband is SICK which normal adult wants to hang out with CHILDREN. You and I know what type of calls comes in at 1am. Emergency and sex calls are the ONLY ones that comes those time of the morning.
2007-04-07 02:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband is wrong to have such attachments to these teenage girls because he needs to be professional. Work is work and he should not be hanging out with them. You need to talk to him to let him know how you feel because it is not right.
Do you really believe that he is devoted to you.. I do not trust men with women. They do not mix.. the girl calling your husband at 1:30am in the morning is being very disrespectful and at the same time you do not know what your husband told her for her to feel that it is ok, to call so late.. You need to put you foot down and find out what is really going on...Good Luck!!!!
2007-04-07 02:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just trying to relive the "glory days" when he used to be able to hang out with friends all night. if so you two should spend time with some friends.
but i think getting a phone call from a teenage girl after midnight is a bit uncalled for.
talk to him tell him what you are thinking.
communication needs to be top priority
good luck
2007-04-07 03:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by preggo&luvinit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he needs to worry about his life at home. He could be cheating, he could be just good friends but that could lead to cheating also. I would talk to him about it, or keep a close eye on things. One things for sure, I would want to know what he was doing out of business hours with those younger girls. I hope he isn't the type of men you see on television who rapes or what not.
He needs to get his priorities straight if you ask me. Family first. But make sure he isn't cheating. Good Luck. Let us know!
2007-04-07 02:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by better.than.you. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks because he needs a young attractive girl crew to attract male customers but at the the same time i'm sure its a very friendly environment. You should check up on him and clearly ask him whats up
2007-04-07 02:41:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋