Me & my wife have been married for a year.. & together as a couple for roughly 5 years. I was into the relationship at 1st & she was so stoked about gettin married that i didn't wanna do it. Eventually i did marry her, but w/ no wedding, & only so she could have my insurance. I wasn't ready to get married & she has ALOT of medical problems such as R.A. (Arthritis), Sytic Fibrosis, & a couple of degenerative diseases. (sorry dont know how to spell all the medical stuff) Our relationship fell apart a month after we got married, & i moved out. Then i got a place with a couple of girls (just tryin to make her jealous & divorce me) She didn't do it.
I want out. I wanna move on with my life w/out her. We are no longer together now & she knows we wont get back together, EVER.
I want her to do it so i dont have to pay lawyer fees, & so i dont have to pay for her insurance.
I know she will contest & make me pay out my butt, this is why i want her to do it.
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-04-06 19:11:00 · 21 answers · asked by cookiedusterman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best advice I can give you is to consult a lawyer. It's worth the cost of the fees. They can advise you on what to do, otherwise you could end up paying for her medical care.
Don't wait around either. The longer you're together the more you're going to end up paying. Try to get hold of some of her medical information. If you can prove that these were pre-existing conditions then you may not have to pay.
2007-04-06 19:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt wait too much longer to initiate divorce proceedings. The longer you are married the more you will have to pay her. Its only been a year and it sounds like there are no children involved.....so the more you delay the worse it will get. She obviously is prepared to hang onto you no matter what, so I dont know if there is much you can do to make her file for divorce....youve tried it already. I suggest, just being upfront....she obviously knows you dont love her, but is hanging onto you regadless. Find a good lawyer, talk it out with him and it probably wouldnt even go to court because of the short time you were married.....and the fact that you were only living together for a month should go in your favour as well. Talk to a lawyer and get the proceedings under way as soon as possible
2007-04-07 02:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way is to develop a contract. Write down the things you want from the agreeable divorce and try to work with her on the certain matter(s) that she disagree about and have her to sign it. Once you have her signature the marriage is over. I am assuming that she wanted to marry you for the health insurance?and that is not love.
Keep in mind even if she file for a divorce it doesn't mean that she going release you of any financial obligations. This is why it is best if you two come to an agreement and have your signatures on paper. You might want to agree on helping her with her medical issues. If you never had physical (sexual) relationship. It is another grounds of divorce in your favorite, only after marriage. When you do talk to her, bring some girls with you.
I really pray that the both of you get what you want.
God Bless
2007-04-07 02:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know WHY divorice is so expensive??? Because it is WORTH it!!!! You never should have married her in the first place, and if you tell a judge you only did it to get her on your insurance- well what do you think he's going to say??? Live apart, keep her on your insurance and have fun being a bigamist!And save the lawyers fees and all the other $$ for real wedding for the one woman you may find that you can love and want to spend the rest of you life with.
2007-04-07 02:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who actually initiates the divorce proceedings, the law will not treat you preferentially because you didn't serve the divorce. She's obviously willing to stay married for the insurance benefits and doesn't care what you do in your life. Even if you found some weird way of getting her to serve you with divorce, you'd still have to get a lawyer and go through the exact same process including support and alimony and division of property. So you may as well go ahead and do it yourself.
2007-04-07 02:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you really want to get a divorce you need to do it yourself because you should not be looking at all of the expenses. This is the price that you have to pay for getting married and things not working out.
2007-04-07 02:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but are you sure you wouldn't have to pay lawyer fees? In NY you can ask the judge for the other party to pay the fees but they usually make the determination based upon each parties financial status. It's not based on who begins the proceedings. If you really want out then you'll do it regardless. My husband thought I would pay the fees but I just laughed at that. He didn't ask the judge the lawyer said it's "customary for the plaintiff to pay".
2007-04-07 02:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sugest a do it yourself divorce cheapest way to go.
and get it done> Does not matter who starts the divorce
if she has health problems you can be ordered to support
her for a certain length of time in order to give her time to get
on her feet etc.Judge can alsp order you to get insuranc for her to.judges almost always favor in the womans behalf.
especially when the man has commited adultery etc.you want it then you should start it after all she didnt walk out you did.
Be man and face it head on you are not going to get out of paying nothing that is a fact sir.you can be made to pay spouseal support to.her being sick.and especially if she
does not work >
2007-04-07 02:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by popcorn 46 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of who initiates the divorce proceedings, she can still come after you for the same amount of money. I advise contacting an attorney who can try to negotiate a divorce agreement in your favor, so that you do not have to go to court (which will cost a lot more than the attorney fees for the negotiations).
2007-04-07 02:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm because if you can tell a million people you only married her because of "insurance" and because you got tired of her wanting to be married to you--so you just did it to "shut her up", you more then likely have made her well aware of that repeatedly. She is probably figuring "if that is the only reason he married me then I might as well keep using him just for THAT reason and make HIS reasoning true". Your the idiot who married her for ALL the wrong reasons...why should you not pay to divorce her?? You want out that bad??? Pay for it.
2007-04-07 02:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by beckylee74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋