How would I know?

Question

If my husband cheats on me.

yes i dont trust him cause he leaves and doesnt take me with him anymore.and he is always trying to argue.

Answer 1

Some of the signs are......he takes better care with his appearance, he may join a gym...buy different afterhave...showers more. He may have a high mobile bill, or if its pre-paid, he goes through his credit quickly. If he chats on the computer, he could be very secretative when you walk into the room. Late home from work, working back, going to training sessions. Wanting to go out with his "mates". Basically, anything that is out of character, even the smallest changes could be an indication he is cheating.

If you really think he is cheating then you can make some enquiries, maybe even hire a private detective, but also be ready for what you find out. Have a plan in mind if you find out he is cheating. If he doesnt want to talk to you much anymore, or the intimacy between the two of you has lessenned, then that could be an indication he is cheating too. But dont jump the gun just yet because a lot of these signs and signals could be for other reasons.....he may be depressed....having money problems, work problems....anything. Maybe just talking to him and telling him that you have noticed changes in your relationship would help you know if he is cheating. You would probably know by his reaction if he is or not. I wouldnt come straight out and accuse him of cheating because that will put him on the defensive straight away. Just approach him kindly, asking him if there is a problem and can you help. I hope hes not for your sake, but if he is, its better to know the truth than to live your life wondering. With the truth, you know where you stand and can take steps to "fix" whatever is wrong. Without the truth, you could destroy yourself with imaginings. Knowing is always better.

Good luck

Answer 2

Hi there

Its already been said but it is the gut feeling that you have at the moment. All you need now is the proof and this can be very difficult to obtain. You see in nearly all cases of cheating the cheater is a coward and cant cut the cord from their partners. The obvious things to start looking at are their phones and emails. Has your sex life ceased to exist? If so another sign. Does he always find excuses to go out or blame his work for his lack of interest? Try and ask if he still loves you while looking directly into his eyes. If he looks away or acts strange when you ask him you will know.

Its an awful feeling but your gut instinct is normally right every time.

Some men can get easily trapped in the honey trap but its different for women as they have the most control when it comes to sex. People do make mistakes and have affairs and regret it deeply. Others are players and its in their blood. Players should never settle down as they never change. But like i said at the beginning players are cowards!

Best wishes

idai

Answer 3

There are signs you should look out for if you can't fully trust him.
1. Lack of if any sex in your relationship
2. Picks fights with you for the littlest thing or for nothing.
3. Stays out late all the time.
4. Unknown women calling your house
5. Attitude problem towards you and only you.
6. Gets defensive if you question him about other women.
7. Lack of time spent at home.

If you really feel in your heart he is cheating visit www.cheaters.com you can hire a private investigator.

Answer 4

If you suspect something is going on, you can hire a PI to follow your husband around.

Otherwise, unless you happen to walk in on him having sex with someone else, you can't really "know". All you can do is listen to your gut feeling, and choose a course of action. And yes, of course he's going to argue with you if you accuse him directly, whether he's innocent or guilty. You're not gonna find out a damn thing by asking him - it shouldn't come as a big surprise.

Answer 5

If you are wondering, he is. You need to decide if you want to catch him at if (usually leads to divorce) or pretend it is not happening. Either way you need to spy on him. Check his cell phone bill. When he has been home alone, star 69 the phone. Hit redial. Does he take more care with his appearance? Smell him when he comes home, you can usually smell another woman on him. Check your credit card bills. When he is out and should not be, create an "emergency" and call him home. You get the idea. Good luck.

Answer 6

It is easy to know if your husband is cheating.. First of all his attitude changes towards you, second he comes home late all the time or says that he is working late. third, when he comes home he goes straight to the bathroom to take a shower.. I have a list of things and this is just the first 3 things that I can think about..

Answer 7

Its called a gut feeling. But odd phone calls at your house. Staying out later than usual. Suddenly wanting to go places without you. Reciepts for dinners and things that he cant explain. And the most famous and most used of all, a night out with the guys too often for you comfort.

Answer 8

well you asking this question is a sign of something. wether it's him cheating or not.. something's wrong isn't there..keep your eyes and ears open. evaluate him and his actions. if you ask me though unless there's some cold hard evidence leave him alone and don't intrude into his private stuff unlike the advice of ms nosy above me there. you do that you are going to piss him off then neither one of you will trust each other.

Answer 9

ok here's what you do if he has a cell phone call him up and just make up something u want him to joyin u at home ok if your working call him up and ask him if he wanna joyin you when your around him tell him to call u babe be more lovable to him and dont juged him just yet if he anit working just ask him how was his day and whats he gots plained for the next 20 to 48 hours but my ur self at the same time keep ur nose on his since of smell and keep your eyes on his eyes but dont look like your trying to figger out his mined oik feel the air going throw ur lungs ok

Answer 10

What does your gut say? Does he come home with other female scents on him? Has his attitude towards you recently changed in a big way? clean out his car, including the trunk. ask him. If the trust isn't there, ask him to go to counseling with you.