Why do you think U.S. divorce rates are so high ?

Answer 1

People getting married for the wrong reasons...

Answer 2

I feel the divorce rate is high because it is in some cases the first option when the relationship gets a little rocky. If its not the first option divorce is almost always on the table in every major disagreement. Every relationship is tough to make last and I feel as a country collectively we have just drifted away from having to make it work to just start over now with a new one.

Answer 3

Children are not being raised with examples of good, functional relationships. Also, there is a lot of temptation, and now we have easier and more discreet ways to create or feed our vices and/or meet people via the internet. Also, another contributing factor the "norms" vary so greatly. And sometimes you assume that someone appreciates the same expectations in a relationship as you do, until you find out differently. There seems to be a lack of communication, and lack of understanding in relationships which leads to one party feeling misunderstood then unloved then one or both might stray, this leads to the breakdown of trust which eventually leads to divorce (unless they stop the cycle).

Answer 4

Because people think the grass is greener on the other side of the hill. Because people are living longer and grow apart. Because people married someone for the wrong reasons out of a sense of obligation or peer pressure and decide that they deserve to be happy after all. Because despite their best efforts the other person doesn't want to stay married to them. Because they're selfish and too immature to take someone else into consideration. Because of unresolved childhood issues that result in an inability to be emotionally intimate/vulnerable.

A NUMBER of different reasons. It's no ones right to judge.

Answer 5

Divorce is sometimes underappreciated. Things change, and sometimes it's best for both parties to go their separate ways. My aunt & uncle stayed married for their kids'sake, but the kids hated them for fighting all the time. Divorce has increased for a lot of the wrong reasons, like infidelity, but also for some of the right reasons.

Answer 6

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, the lack of any of the following in a relationship could spell failure:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) Tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Some folks prefer simple, easy answers to complex situations, and they like to put the blame for divorce on a "thing," like money or porn. That's just crap.

You cannot subscribe to logic like,"guns dont' kill people - people kill people," and then turn around and say something like,"porn ruined our relationship."

Only PEOPLE can ruin a relationship; people who are selfish, people who are insensitive, people who have no sense of self-control, people who are unforgiving.

Answer 7

Have you not read anything on this forum at all?!? The divorce rate is so high because of selfishness and "ME" mentality. People just aren't willing to look beyond themselves to the greater good anymore.

Answer 8

There are lots of different reasons. One being that the church has failed to uphold the sanctity of marriage. They have allowed and approved of divorce in fear of losing members of their congregation. So people felt that if the church approved it, it must be ok. That attitude eventually spread, so now the whole world thinks nothing of it, since divorce doesn't have the stigma attached to it like it used to.

Answer 9

90% of divorces have financial roots, Barna studies have demonstrated this.

The other 10%, I would say are about maturity, and communication.

Let me take a minute to pitch being and marrying someone who truly loves and obeys the bible. It says submit to one another, serve one another, men love your wife as much as Jesus loved the church - that he was willing to give his life for her betterment... there is a lot to be said for a third party who is all about love. Now if you marry a pharisee then he will say "submit" and just be a Jesus-hating, bible-quoting .. piece of the standard darkness of humanity and the world. You dont want that even more than you dont want the standard darkness of humanity and the world because it comes with high expectations before you are crushed...

Answer 10

i think its because american society is an extreme "low context" society. americans are very independent, controlled by time, very selfish, and quite distant with each other. We are ruled by time. Time is not on our side. Also, friendships do not last long, they are only on an as needed basis. If you look at groups and organizations we only are members for as long as it meets the needs that we want. Divorce rates are a perfect example of this. Asian countries consist of "high context" societies. They are all about the word "we." they do not like to be selfish and consider themselves as a unit. Time is on their side and they do not let time control what they do. for example, many of go to school for years after Bachelor's degree after many years of college. One of my college professors told my class that when she had asked a very intelligent Asian person how he studies to get perfect scores on his exams and papers, he stated that "WE study a lot and for a long time." The professor then asked "No, how do YOU get these perfect scores? I want to know how YOU get them." He then persisted to say "WE study a lot"

Answer 11

beacuse the us hold the most agreements that every peroson can offer look at china they make new cars out of no where and there frist target is the usa beacuse there are more money with in there funs this country is call the land of the free but it comes with alot of investment and power and mine people come here to make money work the jobs that most people dont wanna work and make billions from it thats why this country is that way