My parent is pretty strict, and usually says 'no' when I ask to hang out somewhere on the weekend. There's a particular spot (the bowling alley) that I want to go to. They have music and dancing and it's 16 and under. My papi keeps telling me no, and I wanted to know if anybody had any advice to help him see my point of view and let me go.
2007-04-06 18:16:24 · 11 answers · asked by »Tiffany- 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh, I am 13 by the way. I have been there once, but my papi says he's heard bad things and doesn't want to let me go anymore. There isn't anything very 'bad' going on, nothing different from movies or a skating rink.
2007-04-06 18:17:45 · update #1
I do great in school, I use manners, and no I do not have temper tantrums Lol. I have been through a lot in the short time I've been living, and had to mature really quick. I am the oldest child, if that helps any
2007-04-06 18:24:51 · update #2
Are you whining and having a temper fit and generally acting like a two-year-old?
If so, then you've got that working against you.
Perhaps you could have your father go down there with you (have him go in first and check the place out if you don't want to be seen with your dad) and let him see that nothing very bad goes on. If he can see for himself then maybe he'd have a more open mind.
One thing to keep in mind is that your parents love you and would hate themselves forever if they let anything bad happen to you. Sometimes parents are overprotective (especially of the oldest child) because of this. It's frustrating but eventually you get over it.
2007-04-06 18:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your papi is like most parents--he's concerned about you and doesn't want to see anything bad happen to you. But you know that already. :) I'm a parent of two, so I guess that makes me qualified to answer this one. I'm guessing from your comment that "he's heard bad things" that the two of you have talked about his reasons for not wanting you to go. That's a good start. I know this might be embarrassing for you, but maybe your dad could go with you to the bowling alley and he could see for himself that it's really not a bad place. Or maybe you have another relative (an older cousin, or an aunt, maybe) who your father trusts that could go with you. Why don't you ask your papi if he'd let you do that? We parents can be very hard-headed when we have our minds made up, but this might work. If it doesn't, just try to remember that it's not the end of the world and that he's just trying to keep you safe and do what he thinks is best for you.
2007-04-06 18:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by pvpd73127 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What time do you want to go? If it's at night then listen to papi, he just wants to protect you. Maybe you can suggest the family goes bowling too but stays at the other end of the alley or something? I am grown now and I appreciate all the things my parents wouldn't let me do because I know I wouldn't want my sister, who is also 13 doing them.
2007-04-06 18:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by m&m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to protect you, so make sure he knows you'll be safe. Offer to go with a trusted uncle, friend, or cousin. You might even ask him to accompany you, at a distance, the first time or two. It would be a little uncomfortable for you, but would allow him to work past his discomfort and possibly loosen up a little.
If he still resists letting you go, maybe he knows something you don't. Respect his wishes.
2007-04-06 19:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your papi. He may know something you don't. Just be thankful you have a parent who cares because so many today let their kids go anywhere as long as they don't bother them.
2007-04-06 18:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ted T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are 13 now and you would like to have a life. Tell him that you will ever learn if you don't see for yourself.. as in if you were a baby lion (example) and you wanted to explore the land because when you grow up you will be out there a lot you want to check it out now. LOL. Tell him you want to spend time with your friends and he needs to stop being so controlling and let you live your own life.
2007-04-06 18:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by crymeariverthendrowninit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok When i was 13 I was only allowed to talk on the phone. I was not allowed to got out until i was 16. you got it pretty good. Your mom and dad know what best for you. They will keep you out of trouble. You will thank them when your older. Just keep doing what they say and they will see your responsible enough.
2007-04-06 18:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by unique562h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your very young
your papi wants to protect you from harm
listen to papi and you will be glad when your older.
2007-04-06 18:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by robert p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you probably need some trust and maybe there might be a good reason why they don't let you?
2007-04-06 18:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if he talked to the manager or someone before hand he would feel more comfortable
2007-04-06 18:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋