ok I am engaged to the love of my life but today I heard a song the it was my daughter's father & m song & it made me sad like I will not leave my fiance for the world & I NEVER wanna get back with my ex but is it normal to feel kinda sad
2007-04-06 17:14:44 · 12 answers · asked by Heather'smommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course...you have a child with your ex, and that is a bond for the forseeable future...plus you have good memories with him. That does NOT mean that you love your fiance less. So don't be sad and look forward...not back...as you begin a new life. CONGRATULATIONS!!!
2007-04-06 17:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Heather! Don't you worry. There is nothing wrong with feeling a certain degree of sadness when you are thinking of your daughters father with fond memories. After all, he is your baby's daddy and there will always be that bond, whether you get along still or not. Even if you broke up in the worst of ways, it is normal. My ex and I had a bitter divorce and don't have much of a relationship now but I will always carry a spot in my heart for him. He gave me the most precious gift ever. My son! And even though we've been divorced for 7 yrs. now (after 10 yrs. of marriage and 15 yrs. together), when I hear certain songs I feel kind of funny in my tummy :) That being said, I am absolutely certain that it won't interfere with your love for your fiancee. However, my advise would be, if you guys are the type that tell each other everything (again, some people are different than others) to mention it during one of your talks. Like when you are cuddling and just lying together or sitting together on the sofa or something. That way, if that certain song comes on and he happens to see the change in your eyes, he'll know what is going on. And, if he truly is the love of your life and you are his, he'll probably just hold you a little closer and comfort you. After all, he knows that you have a past with the father of your daughter and that is something he ought to understand. You'll see, once that happens, eventually even the song will fade into a distant memory of the past. I wish you both the best of luck for your future together and may all of your hopes and dreams come true... MsB.
2007-04-07 00:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by MSB1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel, you are only human, like so many of us...we all get those sad bad feelings...I still get some over some of my ex-boyfriends...but, I am NOT turning back...just because I have those feelings...I made a great choice..and I DID fall in love..and I love the man that I married....DO you love the love of your life too?
How do you feel inside? IF you want...you could always really think about how you are actually feeling..and just sit,without anybody nearby..and decide what YOU feel,and YOU want....because this is YOUR life..and YOu have to decide what is best for YOU!
Good luck and best wishes!!!
2007-04-07 00:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by ladyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things in life that make us think back to a memorable time in our life, whether it be a good or not so good memory. It's natural ... so don't be so hard on yourself. You can always reflect on the past, but never forget why you are where you are today, and why you are with the person you are with. There is a reason for everything ... so have a thankful heart for the new day! Congrats on your engagement ...
2007-04-07 00:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bc you've moved on doesn't mean you are dead emotionally or should have no feelings about him at all, particulary when you have a daughter to remind you.
It may simply be that you need more time to NOT be emotional when you have reminders of your ex. That's normal. Some people are able to completely let go fairly quickly, some need a lot more time, and some are never or completely unresponsive to such "moments".
This doesn't make you bad, it just makes you human. Give yourself a break.
(God, I can't resist: Gimme a break, gimme a break, gimme a break of that Kit Kat bar, rofl. I ask your pardon in advance...:)
2007-04-07 00:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to fell sad or reminisce when something jogs your memory. I've been married for 5 years and certain songs still bring back memories of other men. Music can be very powerful.
2007-04-07 00:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Franny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be your ex but we all hold on to a little of the past this is normal, not everyday of the past was bad. Just keep it in the past and be grateful for what you have today.
2007-04-07 00:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by sla571963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal.
It doesn't sound like you need help, however it sounds like your fiance does. Are women really this sad about stupid things? Hope your fiance picked the right person after all.
2007-04-07 00:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i guess its normal, theres always going to be something to remind you of an ex, whether its a song, a food , a sexual position(hehe) ans d so on its all on you if you act on your emotion...**** him, an ex is an ex for a reason, remember that
2007-04-07 00:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by sosad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, we all sometimes feel sadness for love lost even when we are with someone new.
2007-04-07 00:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋