i need help please????????????

Question

my newborn (7weeks) want to holding her all the time when she is awake, and untill she fall to sleep.
my husband is out of the state now and nobody can holding her .what can i do? if this is not take along time i can wait untill she get youger!!! please help.

Answer 1

You hold her.

Answer 2

I am SHOCKED by most of these answers. If you look at my questions, I asked pretty much the same thing when my daughter was about 2 months (I think) and was overwhelmingly told that I couldn't spoil her and to just hold her. Now she is three months old. She likes to lay on the floor by herself and just kick and watch TV and fling her arms around. But once she starts fussing, I pick her back up. She likes her vibrating chair too. But hates her swing.

I have decided that I think she is way way too young to spoil. Besides, in 8 years she will not want me to even kiss her goodbye at school and she'll tell her friends she doesn't know who I am. So, every day we grow a little bit closer to that and therefore I will hold her now as much as either of us wants. Of course, sometimes I need a break and she can be difficult. I have my moments where I am just starving and every time I set her down and get to the kitchen she's crying. I'll let her cry for a few minutes while I prepare something and then I'll sit next to her to eat and she calms down.

Also, I tried to let her cry a little to make sure I wasn't spoiling her. She starts fussy, then crying, then screaming and the next thing you know, she's be coughing and choking and gagging...she's ecntirely too young to just be putting on a show so that was when I decided to just pick her up when she starts to cry. Once she gets to that screaming gagging point, it takes half an hour to calm her back down. If she starts crying and I pick her up, it takes a few minutes and she (usually burps) feels fine.

Answer 3

DO NOT LET HER CRY!! She is a 7 week old BABY!! She is too young to be spoiled. She is just confused still, and she wants to feel her momma, holding her and nurturing her. I have 3 children and the youngest is 5 mos. old. All of my boys acted the same way when they were around that age. Then I eventually winged them from it. Now my 5 mo. old is only held when he is being feed or if it is playtime. That is the time he will start being spoiled (around 4-5 mo.) She just needs some love. I know that it is stressful, but that is just a perk of motherhood. It all gets better. BUT REMEMBER, if it gets too stressfull, call a family member to help you. Being a new mother can seem scary. Good luck.

Answer 4

dont get me wrong i hold my son lots and lots but he loves his swing and his bouncy vibrating chair and even just loves to be in his crib looking at his mobile

it is not horrible to let you baby cry a little it is good for their lungs i have heard and some babys even cry them selfs to sleep in a short time

for example the other nite my son cryed when i put him down i couldn't figure it out he was not hungry had no burp and did not need diaper changed so i put him in his crib and left the room and he cryed for i swear not more than a min and half and he was sleeping

remember this is a stressful time having a new family member with you now and it sounds like you dont have any one who can help right now with your husband out of town so dont get to upset if you need a break take one put the babe down and go get a drink and read a mag for 5 mins

remember if you baby is fed loved and clean and warm and of course dont have to burp crying wont hurt him/her
but try a swing or a bouncer

Answer 5

Not sure if I'm understanding you correctly. But....

If you're saying that YOU want to hold her all the time. That's understandable- she's your new baby. Hold her- but try to limit the time so she doesn't get spoiled (because they WILL)

If you're saying she already "spoiled" & wants to be held all the time. Try putting her in a bouncy seat, baby swing, or baby "backpack" to keep her nearby. She will probably cry at first when you put her down. But, just sit by her & talk/read/sing- let her know you're still there. And, just move away gradually. Let her keep hearing your voice so she's not afraid. She just needs to learn that you can't hold her all the time ( you have things to do- & your husband is not home). She'll still know that you love her!

Answer 6

Hold her some but use a bouncer with the vibration they love that or a baby swing. Find some thing that calms her so you don't have to sit and hold her all the time.

Answer 7

try a swing (fisher price are great, swing back and forth and side to side, and have mobiles and lights to mesmerize them), or a vibrating chair, if all else fails, lay in bed with her in one arm, so you can both sleep - it is the hardest thing to deal with, and sometimes you can only remind yourself that it is temporary...
Also, ask at your health center if there is a helping hands type org. who could send in a volunteer to help out, even just to give you a chance to rest - it is nearly impossible to care for a baby on your own, especially so young..

Do NOT let her cry - it is not good for her lungs, and is the worst thing you can do for her sense of safety and security - it will only create a frightened insecure child who can't trust you...
Good luck!

Answer 8

You need to make sure she is not hungry, and that she has a clean diaper on. Also make sure she is not too warm or cold. Put her where she can see and hear you. If she cries, let her cry, its good for her lungs. After she has cried for about 5 minutes, go to her and talk to her and touch her so that she knows your there, and so she can feel your love. She will be fine, and so will you. Just take a deep breath, and relax.

Answer 9

Let her cry. Give her some toys to play with but never hold her too much. It will be very very hard for you if you continue holding her all the time. Let her crawl on the floor.

Answer 10

Swings are good. I found that my son liked motion in general. I'd sit him in the car seat with a cloth diaper over his face to kinda simulate that we were going somewhere and put the car seat on the washer while on the spin cycle, it caused just enough vibration to make him think he was in a car.

Answer 11

try putting her in a swing or a bouncy seat that may get her to sleep to give you a break once in awhile, but at this age, it is important to hold them a lot.