why is it, that in a world of billions, I can't seem to connect with anyone?

Question

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Answer 1

I like the honesty in your question. If one has to put in an effort to connect, I think the purpose is defeated.
One possibility that comes to mind is that in your pusuit of happiness your obsession with detail may be causing you to lose sight of the whole.

Answer 2

It's difficult to answer your question when you're not telling us what it is that you've been doing to try to connect with people. For all I know you've been sitting around inside your home all hours of the day, only communicating with others via the internet. If that's the case, it's no wonder that you can't connect with other people.

If you have been out among the living and still can't seem to connect with anyone, you're probably looking in the wrong places. Whatever you think isolates you from others is not a trait that only you have, even if it seems as though it is. Are you shy? Others are shy, too, and would like to be able to connect with someone who knows the feeling. Are you looking to meet women in bars? Maybe not the best place to look. Are you looking for people to have great conversations with in the line at Starbucks?

You have to know what kind of people you want to meet in order to know where to look to meet them. There are people like you out there, and if you think about it I'm sure you can figure out where they are.

Answer 3

We are connected, so there you go. I lost the love of my life over three years ago, at thanksgiving, and there seems to be noone out there, my age, I am surrounded by people 10 to 20 years younger than me and although the opportunities have existed for relationships I find myself on a different level (don't misunderstand me, I don't mean that I'm on a higher level, or better in any way, just different) than anyone that I have had the opportunity to spend time with. No connection, and no desire to go deeper with anyone. I find myself bored or just in a different place, where I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But I do have some very good friends and family and I have hope, so I wish you the best and hope you find what you need (me, too) Good luck!

Answer 4

You see what you are doing here? Asking a (rhetorical?) question that implies that all these billions of people are available to you yet you aren't connecting to any of them so what's wrong with you?

That's just plain silly!

What are you really doing, proactively, to meet people? And if you've been doing the same things and it's not working, why not change what you're doing? It's that old cliche, if you always do what you've always done you'll always get what you've always gotten.

So maybe you need to do something differently. I'll bet you can think of a lot of things you could do differently.

Answer 5

Maybe your a solipsist. Perhaps you are only imagining that there is a world with billions. And now the answers you are reading have actually been created in your own mind and not thought up or typed by another living, breathing human being. Yes, that's it you're sitting alone in an empty room with only your own GRAY MATTER and you just THINK other humans exist. Everything you do, write and say is exists only in the confines of your mind. YiKeS...

Answer 6

Many people have the same question. I think one of the most difficult things a human being can do is to get on with another human being. We're such complex creatures it takes alot to understand each other and the consequences of getting involved with-out really understanding the person can be painful at best and terminal at worst.

Answer 7

This may sound...well, like it has been said before, but here goes. People absolutely LOVE a good listener! You ask them a simple question like..."What kind of neighborhood did you grow up in?" After they start describing their memories, insert things like, really?...no kidding?... then what?

Listen, listen, listen! They will end up saying, "You are the most interesting person!"

You can really connect when people think you are sincere, that you listen and you care. There are too few people like this around. I recommend you be one of them...you'll have a lot of connections!

Answer 8

I feel the same. I got into a car accident 17 years ago and received a severe head injury. It has made it really hard for me to relate to people, especially girls.

When I girl likes me in some way, and it shows, I freeze up.

Timing might play a role in your situation also...

Answer 9

you will there is somebody for everyone dont be discouraged it takes time to find someone you click with especially when you're an adult and have set ways and so does everyone else its waaaaay harder to find someone that you can tolerate basically the friends i have now are from childhood and we only talk once or twice a month becuz we've outgrown each other

Answer 10

dont bother. adjusting your interfaces so that you can connect with the avarage human is a fruitless task. their TX is nothing but chiches and bitching. their RX cannot proces anything of any consequence. if you are to connect with anyone of value, first filter out all the sub par unwashed masses. then filter out people who do not share your moral values. people with an incompatable moral code will give you a sync loss alarm upon connecting. from there you should be able to find individuals to connect with.